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I used to think the same way OP, but I learned it is always best to just go with your gut. My mental excuse to myself was rather find out now instead of pondering it the whole time and end up empty handed. If she isn't interested (seems like she is interested based on the shared info) then you can just move on and keep the friendship. Actually, my first post in this thread is a perfect example. That girl I had thought was just a friend and "might" be interested in me but I couldn't tell for sure. She had a friendly personality to begin with. We went to a soccer game and at the end I just went for it and ended up making out with her in the parking lot.
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upstatedoc, you're a doctor from the upstate area you're a smart guy. you got this
go in for the kill - if she's willing to pull off the whole wife/gf thing when you guys were at the restaurant you pretty much have an in, if she wasn't interested there's no reason she would even think of doing that. especially when she escalated before you did, you'd have to be like me to mess things up at that level. and trust me if i have spent an hour just talking to a girl in her dorm room one on one after a party at the frat i was pledging because she was cold and wanted me to come with so that she can get a hoodie. also onerdriver- im stealing the line "i'll smack you with my limp dick" |
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Just go for it. Worst case, you get shot down.
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if our boys weren't friends i would have no problem asking her out. that's the catch
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So much confusion and mixed signals.
I was working with this chick on a 1-wk assignment. Pretty and smart girl who's gotten her ass kissed her entire life. Trolled her and flirted. She invites me over to her place for 3 fkin hours. A few days later I simply ask over text to hang out and she takes it as I'm asking her on a date, something she wasn't interested in. First of all, that's not what I was asking. And secondly, don't invite guys you barely know to your place for 3 hrs and think they won't be suspicious something is brewing. We all gonna make it...hopefully. |
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The funny part is by doing the opposite (ignoring her) I wouldn't be surprised if she texts you out of the blue. These girls who crave and are used to constant attention are always curious why a guy isn't like the others who constantly pamper them.
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I completely understand your point, but i think she is giving you signs shes much interested in you. Invite her over and her son for a pizza night, game night and interact with her...like others suggested pay attention to her body language. do it few times and ask her out! She might say its too soon, not clearly a no but when she is ready she will come forward.
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Which means....he might be very good at spanking. For the lucky lady in question. Especially if she's been a very naughty girl and in need of correction. Quote:
You need to stop overanalyzing the situation now and take further action. I applaud you for the text invitation and taking that step - that was an excellent first step. From there, you should have picked up that she's interested, but has a legitimate excuse. Try, try again. Inviting her for drinks while the boys are having the birthday party might be good. I don't think you need to make it about an excuse - I think you need to be clearer that you are interested now, so that she knows. She's looking for signals from you too. Maybe a gentle spanking. Just trying to play to your strengths... |
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I was just being a dick when I said doc stood for dept of corrections. And that was years ago you have a good memory
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Pretty good - you got me. I figured it was totally plausible, so filed it away in the old memory bank.
Funny thing is, I can remember all sorts of weird stuff about people, but do you think I can remember their names? Not a chance. Within 5-10 seconds of a person telling me their name, I'll have forgotten it about 80% of the time. The other 20% is when I keep repeating it over and over to myself while they are speaking, which means I'm only half listening to them. I hate how I cannot remember a person's name for the life of me, wish I was better at it. |
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Edited to add ideas: bowling, lazer tag, mini golf, driving range, trampoline park. If she seems to have a valid excuse after you ask a couple more times then maybe she will ask you if she's interested.
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Correct me if I'm wrong, but normally women don't normally initiate the playful touching unless they like/are comfortable with you. I would say just invite her out to hang out a couple times as a friend first (try to make it seem you just want to talk and get to know each other) and then ask her out on a real date.
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