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So, I’m half in the bag, as I type wiyone finger... a little unusual for moi...but I regress. If she’ll fuck you as if that was no big deal, she’ll fuck the next guy just as easily... when its time to really pick one to settle down with, that’s my advice...
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03-30-2019, 07:38 PM | #3390 |
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That's most women these days though. Women use sex to get love and men play the love games to get sex. What strange creatures we are.
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03-31-2019, 03:14 AM | #3392 |
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sensible advice, but honestly let alone that long term i don't see myself with this girl after school ends and summer break begins, even if at that really
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03-31-2019, 07:08 AM | #3393 | |
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03-31-2019, 09:33 PM | #3394 |
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boys i need help
she tries to make conversation through text, not only do i really hate that (i only text my friends or girls for when/where stuff) but i explicitly told her i'm not a good texter and that i dont like it in general wat do? it's kinda nice i guess that she "cares" to ask me how my day went but yeah... not my vibe at all, especially because it's a sunday and i didn't do shit other than watch the turkish elections |
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04-01-2019, 12:20 AM | #3395 |
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so i got flaked on by some chick who said the guy she has been dating for a few months just asked to be exclusive. probably dodged a bullet on that one. but, have another date lined up for thursday so fuck her.
also, fuck girls who match on bumble but dont bother sending a mesage. just dont match with me in the first place if thats how its gonna be. |
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04-01-2019, 11:20 AM | #3398 | |
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I can't say I'm a fan of that either because if I'm unavailable it's because i'm unavailable to chat... The clinginess isn't helping either, will post some screenshots I sent to my boys hahah Quote:
lowkey, looking back i can definitely see how the old me was obnoxious (wonder why i realized there was a problem and changed some stuff around) in terms of texting almost 24/7. it's repulsive at best and only gets the other person away from you than do anything else |
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For a younger guy you seem pretty classy....well educated, intelligent and well spoken. You'll either encounter the meat hooks and learn to avoid them or you'll just be a natural at spotting it early and avoiding them all the way around. When I was younger, I liked the attention from the ladies so I took the good with the bad....and got roped into some pretty difficult situations. Keep your wits about you, keep your emotions in check, use your brain (not your heart or your other head) and you too can avoid the clingers. The only clinger that isn't bad is the one that you enjoy being with. ![]() |
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![]() but yeah, something tells me this is the kind of girl my mom warned me about as funny as that sounds ![]() honestly its not even the attention i like as you can tell, if anything im really not fond of it at all. other than her horniness i couldn't tell you what's really alluring about her and even that's kinda bordering creepy at this point you live and you learn though, there's only so much reading or hearing can help with this stuff. the most i've done with her is give her a hug before and after the date and i'm very sure it'll stay that way. something tells me if i get involved it'll only get worse and i can't seriously remember the time my gut was telling me off for no reason... what are some tells though? i'd love to learn more about these so i at least have an idea what to look for |
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04-01-2019, 02:53 PM | #3403 | |
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Other traits not limited to: Social Media Stalking - also asking lots of questions about your posts, other peoples comments or who people are.....in short this goes back to insecurity. Inviting themselves to be somewhere you are, especially in public. If you've been dating for a while and time spent together is limited, as it can be, this is acceptable; in the early stages of dating, it is not. Acts upset, sad or jealous if you go out without them - jealousy Doesn't like anyone that you know that is more attractive than they are - again jealousy Being too quiet or withholding their opinion, when you know they have one, in hopes of not upsetting you. Suddenly not hanging out with their friends anymore or alienating themselves from their own clique, crew, squad whatever the youngsters call their posse these days. Constant reassurance of how you feel. If they are constantly asking for your approval this causes alarm bells to ring as well. I'm sure there are plenty more, but these are the ones to come to the forefront of my mind/experiences. |
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But also, otherwise secure people can become insecure when they care more about the other person than that person cares about them. Seems like in many, if not most, relationships that’s the case... unequal “power”...
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![]() Human psychology has always intrigued me. I fancy myself a human at times and I know what my motivators/de-motivators are. I'm always interested in what makes others act in the manner that they do. This was especially beneficial info to have when I was in sales. Seeing as how I have found myself on the wrong side of the stick in more situations than I care to mention, it has always fascinated me how people act/react when faced with a difficult situation and what is required from the other party to redeem themselves after. |
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Yes! This is the ying to the yang in this topic. I found myself in this situation with the second wife. I had always been the heartbreaker in the past. Perhaps it was due to dating women with whom I had the leverage on rather than the inverse. It blew my mind at how the tables had turned and I was now on this side of the fence. I heard someone say once that in every relationship someone settles and the other steps up. I've also heard it as one adopts and and one adapts. I'd like to think this isn't the case yet unfortunately it has been the scenario with every relationship that I have had......until now. I have to say I do see the girlfriend as an equal now. If anything she settled, I'm pretty crazy to deal with I imagine.
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I was 30 when I got divorced from my first wife. I got custody of our daughter, and didn't even think if dating for a couple of years although I could have.
But I decided to spend that time with my daughter and keep things as stable as possible for her. I also learned that I could be perfectly happy being by myself, and that really opened up a whole new perspective of how to live my life. When I did start dating again.....women at that age seemed to be desperate in my area. I made it a point to be upfront that I wasn't interested in anything serious as I was just getting my feet wet again. But I also learned I was basically a shallow person when it came to relationships. I always preferred the ones most others seen as unattainable ......and that typically led me to women who while on the outside you would think had it all going for them....they were very needy and clingy. I can't deal with an insecure, clingy person. I don't have a jealous bone in my body. But all those ones I did date were so demanding and persistent...and I would end it. Plus I hated leaving a date to get a phone call 10 minutes later saying....Hey...what you up to? I'm like driving home.... I just left you. That's what attracted me to my current wife. Most women I would see for the first date would be calling me that same day. When I went out with my current wife, we didn't converse for a week and that wasn't something I had never happen to me. So I called her up for small talk....mentioned I hadn't heard from her....and she flatly said that she figured if I wanted to talk....I would call her. Plus she was already established in her career, had her own house, and been on her own since college. She had never been married as she had found out like I did that she didn't need someone else in her life to dictate whether she could be happy. She was the first woman I introduced my daughter to after we had dated seriously for around 6 months, and we ended up getting married about 18 months later. I learned that I wanted and matched up with someone very similar to my own personality, and very strong willed. We enjoy our time together, but also our time apart. And the biggest thing is she isn't jealous. Maybe it's because we lived in a small town and she is younger than I am, but I would get hit on quite a bit early on when we went out as people would think we weren't together. She thought it hilarious....and that speaks tons of confidence to me. So in short as you said....clingy people were a deal breaker for me!
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