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One I dated years ago was sort of bothered by it - she couldn't afford the restaurants I wanted to go to. But we did go to her local (and cheap) Korean place she loved (it was good). In the end we agreed that she pay when we went there, and I'd pay elsewhere which was good - she didn't have to feel bad, and *I* got to go to some restaurants I enjoy too. So while some degree of parity where they can contribute (first class tickets for 2 to Europe don't come cheap!) would be good but I think there's many things that would come before that for me. Things like has a pulse, likes me, can sleep through heavy snoring - minor things like that. |
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And I haven't run into the "cougar/boy-toy" effect, but I don't doubt its existence. I can't imagine such an "arrangement" being emotionally satisfying, but if she's really shallow and that's what she wants, she'll find it. Such a woman wouldn't be of interest to me anyway, so not a loss for me.
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I feel similarly. Getting to my late 20s and seeing more of my boys getting into relationships. Seems like too much effort and too much of being one another's emotional tampon. I'll take it seriously when I meet a girl who has LTR potential. Otherwise not gonna waste my time and money, would rather spend my time on my own hobbies and with friends.
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02-03-2020, 12:58 AM | #4809 | |
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have you considered laser hair removal?
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I think others have mentioned it, but I believe the drive to be successful is more important. It's one struggle that I have with my girl. Again, we don't necessarily need the money. I think we are pretty well off for our age, but I want her to want more for herself. She has the opportunity to progress in her field, but she doesn't feel driven to pursue it. Where I thrive on more and more responsibility and progressing she seems to be a little deterred by it. I honestly just don't feel that she knows what she wants to do yet, but she will figure it out. She's quite smart, hence why I know she could be doing more. We rarely fight, but if we do this is the topic lol. I just run my mouth too much ![]() |
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Here's my 2 cents worth. I think it's something younger people worry about. When I was young, and first starting out, I never even consider the fact that a girlfriend (or spouse) would earn more than me. As it started to become a reality, I thought about it for a while and said it was ok. And it was because neither of us held it over the other. If one values the other based upon their income then I think that's when the problem(s) occur. I have a good friend that does this and it used to drive me nuts. When I was dating, I expected the girl I was dating to take me out (pick up the check) on occasion. It didn't matter where and she could base it on her available funds at the time. As long as she was making an effort, then I was cool with that. As for how big a difference can a couple tolerate..... well, that goes back to my early statement about how you treat the other person. If she's the right one, you'll be ok earning more and so would she if the roles were reversed. |
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As I stated earlier, my wife has a higher education than I do, but I make 5X her salary. But she works in a "public service" type of job with underprivileged children......and they don't get paid like they should. In fact, we spend more money out of pocket than we can deduct because sometimes there are cases where the kid really needs help.
She will pack bags of non-perishable food for them to take home as they may not have any other food around later. We are able to do it, so we do. But I know that most arguments in married people stem from money. When we got engaged, I told her I knew there would be arguments between us as we went through life.....but money was a subject I would not argue with her about. It's been 10 years or so, and we've never had that discussion. But it helps that we have the same spending habits. We are pretty cheap....aside from each of us having 1-2 vices. Even then, we only indulge them occasionally.
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