11-13-2018, 09:39 AM | #1563 |
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That's how life works man. It's funny how a person can be on top one day and in the dumps the next. What's valuable, just as you've said, is to have a support group or people to talk to about it. This place is priceless.
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Open relationships really aren't my thing, and I don't even really believe that is the reason. It's possible I'm the most naive person on the planet, but I truly believe she does have feelings, but the mental issues are what is getting in the way, not wanting other men. Not that it's any different of a reason or an excuse to hold on. I guess everything is a learning experience. The way things were going (even up until yesterday morning) is why this caught me by surprise.
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The key here is to understand yourself first, then understand people in general. Know what you want, then try to understand what other people want and let them have it, even if it isn't you or is you or is only you sometimes. Learn to work around other peoples needs and wants versus projecting your wants/needs on them. |
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I guess I blew it, because a few months later she told me she was pregnant, but we hadn't been intimate in months. . . |
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I'd say she isn't an asshole, she's just a typical person who always looks for the next best alternative. Whether that makes her an asshole or not we can debate that, but I've honestly came to the realization that most (if not all) women are like that and I just live within that "constraint"
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First let me say I'm sorry.
As one of the token females in the group, I say move on. If she wanted to make it work, she would. Not sure if there was discussion before hand that she was going to grad school in a different city and what would happen. You sound like the good guy to fall back on. Never, ever, be someone's safety net. Take a deep breath and move on! I would not answer her texts. Don't let her bait you nor play with your head. This is why I hate most women. I always got along better with the guys. |
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I wish I could share a round of drinks with all of you.
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Dammit, I was in Niagara on Sunday.
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Not disagreeing with you and not trying to sell the open relationship thing here, just something I've considered. Much like in martial arts how you remain fluid and allow the attackers momentum to guide them into the hell that awaits them rather than fighting head on.
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I have to disagree here. They are people just like we are. None of us operate on a level that is conducive with everyone around us. We are all humans, we all do stupid shit and our want's/needs/desires are ever changing. It's all about learning what makes other people tick and adjusting our behaviors around their specific mechanisms to make their personalities coincide with ours.....even if it is just for sex.
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some girls (maybe because im in college, idk) do really position themselves as that, but even then it's like whatever but a decent majority is just average people... i'm really curious to hear your stories (maybe i skipped them??) about why you hate women so much instead of recognizing their "down sides" and living with those constraints |
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11-13-2018, 11:03 AM | #1578 | |
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Physical attraction is great, but can also be easily replaced. There will always be someone more attractive out there physically. The intellectual attraction to another person is not as easily replaced.
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i somehow attract the crazy or "broken" for the lack of a better word; my last gf had his boyfriend cheat on her. with another dude... it's not like she was ugly either and this completely destroyed her. she won't even acknowledge me even though i'm close with her sister and we hang out whenever i'm back home ofc at the end our "relationship" lasted just the summer and a bit into the school year because long distance |
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What kind of physical shape are you in?
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......and accurate. Something tells me you may already be good at getting what you need, possibly inadvertently but one does not become a sex addict with out being able to have sex. |
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