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      07-21-2021, 08:32 AM   #9901
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We were and they were. We have both made great strides in our relationship. It isn't as if we discuss topics and then they get pushed aside. We both do our fair share of the responsibility of staying true to what we discussed and decided upon together. I feel there is a root cause of the issue. It isn't because the care for one another isn't there, but something mentally on her end keeps her guarded. We talked at length last night and I explained how difficult it is for a person to give 110% all while the other person stayed guarded. We still have much to discuss, before we reach an end decision that works for both of us. Whether we end up breaking up or becoming better partners, we both have to do what is best for our emotional and mental health first and foremost.
so she has trust issues where she is holding back, has the wall up!
She wont be happy with you or anyone if she is not willing to let her guard down.
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Gotta be gulf coast. Basically from Destin east it just gets better and better probably peaking at Sarasota because Florida blocks most of the wind and waves, keeping everything soft and clean.

My home away from home, I really recommend it

Is this right outside of the Whale's Tail across the street from Seascape in Destin? That's where I spent my summers for 20 years. I loved it.

Now I live in S. FL, but can't convince my wife to go from the beach we live to visit another beach lol. She's a south FL native
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so she has trust issues where she is holding back, has the wall up!
She wont be happy with you or anyone if she is not willing to let her guard down.
I said the exact same thing last night. "If you want to be with me, you have to give as much as I do and you have to trust me as much as I trust you. It's all in or it's nothing."
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I said the exact same thing last night. "If you want to be with me, you have to give as much as I do and you have to trust me as much as I trust you. It's all in or it's nothing."
This is critical. With my current, gf, we decided to have a long and open conversation about the good, the bad, and the ugly from our entire lives. It was one of the most cathartic experiences I've ever had and served as the foundation of what we have now. I've had connections with others, even recently before her, and the major difference is the following: This is easy. The passion of the past is there but an ease of being and openness exist with her that I've never had before. She says the same thing. This openness leads to a level of trust that is the best I've ever experienced.

Your lady has to give as much as you and be as open as you or it is all for nothing. I really wish you the best, my friend. You are one of the good ones.
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      07-21-2021, 09:22 AM   #9905
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Is this right outside of the Whale's Tail across the street from Seascape in Destin? That's where I spent my summers for 20 years. I loved it.

Now I live in S. FL, but can't convince my wife to go from the beach we live to visit another beach lol. She's a south FL native
No its in Santa Rosa off 30a.

https://goo.gl/maps/qnisb691vBbiCXFV7

Dont blame you though, it all looks like that. Ive been as far west as Henderson Park Inn (used to rent a corner suite there on the reg before doing condos).
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This is critical. With my current, gf, we decided to have a long and open conversation about the good, the bad, and the ugly from our entire lives. It was one of the most cathartic experiences I've ever had and served as the foundation of what we have now. I've had connections with others, even recently before her, and the major difference is the following: This is easy. The passion of the past is there but an ease of being and openness exist with her that I've never had before. She says the same thing. This openness leads to a level of trust that is the best I've ever experienced.

Your lady has to give as much as you and be as open as you or it is all for nothing. I really wish you the best, my friend. You are one of the good ones.
Thank you MK. I truly appreciate that. I'm an odd one, when it comes to women. I'm way more transparent than a person would expect. For some, it's hard to tolerate and other's appreciate the fact that I have no filter. I just feel like being 100% open/honest, it creates that level of trust that you speak of. Even if a person doesn't believe what I say, because honestly, some of this shit is hard to believe, they are then forced to look back on my track record and then realize; I'm not full of shit. This, then, trickles down to other aspects of the relationship. Sex is great, but sex with someone who fully surrenders to you, is something all together different.
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"If you want to be with me, you have to give as much as I do and you have to trust me as much as I trust you. It's all in or it's nothing."
This!
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Thank you MK. I truly appreciate that. I'm an odd one, when it comes to women. I'm way more transparent than a person would expect. For some, it's hard to tolerate and other's appreciate the fact that I have no filter. I just feel like being 100% open/honest, it creates that level of trust that you speak of. Even if a person doesn't believe what I say, because honestly, some of this shit is hard to believe, they are then forced to look back on my track record and then realize; I'm not full of shit. This, then, trickles down to other aspects of the relationship. Sex is great, but sex with someone who fully surrenders to you, is something all together different.
Spot on.

The mutual surrender makes the sex so amazing and this is the difference between my current and previous gf. The previous was always holding back and I later found out the reasons, which I won't go into here. If that trust isn't there, it permeates through every aspect of the relationship and limits everything that can be accomplished.
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No its in Santa Rosa off 30a.

https://goo.gl/maps/qnisb691vBbiCXFV7

Dont blame you though, it all looks like that. Ive been as far west as Henderson Park Inn (used to rent a corner suite there on the reg before doing condos).
Awe, I was so close! Even the umbrellas are similar to Seascape's.

Love this entire area and it's grown tremendously. I haven't been back in 8-9 yrs, so all the land to the East in Santa Rosa, that's been developed, was nothing but forest last time I was there.

OK, I'm done high-jacking the thread!
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I've been married for 15 years now to the same girl and I find this thread:

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Keep up the good work guys/girls!
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Spot on.

The mutual surrender makes the sex so amazing and this is the difference between my current and previous gf. The previous was always holding back and I later found out the reasons, which I won't go into here. I that trust isn't there, it permeates through every aspect of the relationship and limits everything that can be accomplished.
This. All of it.
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From what Ive heard from people who have partaken is the ones you really want arent actually that much cheaper, just easier.
Ease of use has a value, I guess...
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Ease of use has a value, I guess...
Cheaper to rent for one night than months to years on end.

However, you can rent per night via Tinder instead of scrounging lot lizards.
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Usually deep in crap. Yes. That is us.
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Usually deep in crap. Yes. That is us.
You know, I was going to say "Balls deep, son" to the Doc initially, but then I thought...well, that's juvenile, and I'm far more mature than that...so I didn't.

But I mean, hey, if you are a back door person, that's fine - I know you are going to get respect from Sedan_Clan . He even keeps a collection of cleaning apparatuses for just these types of occasions.
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You know, I was going to say "Balls deep, son" to the Doc initially, but then I thought...well, that's juvenile, and I'm far more mature than that...so I didn't.

But I mean, hey, if you are a back door person, that's fine - I know you are going to get respect from Sedan_Clan . He even keeps a collection of cleaning apparatuses for just these types of occasions.
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I used to avoid dating. Something about getting to know someone and having to answer all their questions about myself just drives me away. Being in the military also tends to drive gals away because of the time spent away from home, and I've witnessed too many of my battles get completely wrecked by ladies who take them for everything while they are deployed or at trainings, so I've never really had the desire to even try. Well I finally let my guard down and ended up hanging out again with an old fling from 10 years ago and we hit it off pretty well and are now coming up on 2 years together. In those two years I've been away from home more than I have been home due to military service and she is still around and seems to handle me being gone alright. I'm overseas right now and I keep waiting for a mental breakdown or to hear that she can't do it, but everyday she powers through and kicks ass. She's stronger than me I think.
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I used to avoid dating. Something about getting to know someone and having to answer all their questions about myself just drives me away. Being in the military also tends to drive gals away because of the time spent away from home, and I've witnessed too many of my battles get completely wrecked by ladies who take them for everything while they are deployed or at trainings, so I've never really had the desire to even try. Well I finally let my guard down and ended up hanging out again with an old fling from 10 years ago and we hit it off pretty well and are now coming up on 2 years together. In those two years I've been away from home more than I have been home due to military service and she is still around and seems to handle me being gone alright. I'm overseas right now and I keep waiting for a mental breakdown or to hear that she can't do it, but everyday she powers through and kicks ass. She's stronger than me I think.
You do know that she is getting her back blown out by some other dude right?

Hopefully you are getting some ass overseas.

Thanks for serving our country.
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You do know that she is getting her back blown out by some other dude right?

Hopefully you are getting some ass overseas.

Thanks for serving our country.
Not always the case. Believe it or not some decent people still exist out there.
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Not always the case. Believe it or not some decent people still exist out there.
LOL yeah and Santa Clause exists as well. Anybody who thinks long distance relationships can work out nowadays is a bloody fool.

2one8: Try this and you will get your answer. Call her and tell her that you fucked up and got a dishonorable discharge and that you lost your pension. If she sticks around, then she might be a keeper. If she bails on you, then you got your answer. You are welcome.
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2one8: Try this and you will get your answer. Call her and tell her that you fucked up and got a dishonorable discharge and that you lost your pension. If she sticks around, then she might be a keeper. If she bails on you, then you got your answer. You are welcome.
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