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So I've been living with that hot widow for a few months and I apparently messed it up.
I've been in the dog house since Sunday and it looks like she's calling it quits. It's not something I did, but apparently it's my view on death. I believe it can happen at any moment and why worry about it. Well, she thinks that means I don't care about anyone. I'm trying to understand how that makes me a non-caring person. Can anyone help me understand? It's a shame. I really loved her. |
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11-07-2019, 05:24 AM | #4270 |
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If you act in a reckless manner because you can be dead tomorrow, then I get it. Meaning you don't lead a healthy lifestyle or make poor life choices (drugs, dangerous behavior) because why bother if you might get hit by a bus tomorrow. If this is the case, then she feels that you are being selfish as those who love you will feel the pain of your death because you didn't care enough about them to take care of yourself. I can't respond to how to react without knowing the backstory - not trying to pry.
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![]() its obvious that death is a very sensitive topic for her. she doesnt want to deal with it again with you. All you can do is talk with her again and let her vent and you can tell her how you feel and it was taken out of context. |
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We've had a lot of good times together and this is coming out of left field. I don't want to lose her, but I certainly don't want her to stay if she's unhappy. I'd rather her be happy without me instead of miserable with me. Sucks and sorry for venting guys. |
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I agree with what NYAlpine said. Death is a tough subject for her but I honestly don't get what she thinks you should think or feel. Try and talk it out with her. She's traumatized over losing someone she loved but I don't get her being upset with you because you don't stress over dying. You got me ![]()
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Next time the topic comes up, maybe reframe it in a way that goes "I'm not preoccupied with the thought of death, but I make sure to cherish every moment because you never know what'll happen even in a few hours"?
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I just don't want to worry about things that are out of my control. Being afraid of death isn't going to magically make it stay away. Don't get me wrong, when the time comes, I'm going to feel some anxiety/fear (I've had a couple of close calls), but I'm not going to worry about it in a daily basis. To me, love and death are separate. She thinks my thoughts on one subject are not inline with hers and it's causing a lot of tension. She even told me she was leaving. I don't understand. |
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something is missing if she wants to walk away so fast over a comment regarding a situation that was very difficult to deal with. I believe you been supporting her and stood by her side during that period . Having different views shouldnt be the reason to walk away from someone else. if i were you, i would sit her down and have serious talk to what the issue is. |
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This sounds like a land mine topic for her that you unfortunately stepped on. The only way forward is to first understand what the hell she's on about, then decide if you can abide what the resolution might require.
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I agree with Pickle on this.
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What's with women wanting to meet in public, getting a public venue & then just bailing on the date or ghosting?
Had one recently (Unrelated to above) give the age old death in the family excuse & another one didn't even try with "Something came up. Can't make it tonight, sorry!" After all her talk about being excited to meet me & claiming we'll have lots of fun. SMH... |
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