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      02-01-2019, 04:41 PM   #3169
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This is what I am fearing. I just ended a 13 year relationship. I'm 43 and I guess it's time to go to work again in this new environment. How old is your buddy? I'm just curious if the women in my demographic are going to do things the new way or the 'old school' way.
he's in his late 40's. I just talk to him last night and he said this new girl he's talking to doesn't understand chicks nowadays? he called her and all he said was "hey you, whatcha doing?" she got upset and said "you could have sent me a text and asked me vs calling me?" him being confused said "I just wanted to call you and say hi and hear your voice?" she than replied "well next time just send me a text!"

damn! is that how you're suppose to talk to people nowadays?
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Got ya. Just parlaying on what MKsix said earlier about the red flags of your situation to a potential mate, I would say this greatly adds to that. Never having been married at 43 is one thing but then finding out you were in a very long-term relationship which didnt result in marriage is another. Makes it seem as if you are afraid to commit (which you basically said you are).

Hope you dont take this the wrong way as I dont mean any of this to be mean spirited. Just trying to point out factors and questions which will likely arise the next time you meet someone special.
Nope, I definitely don't take it the wrong way! Believe me these are all things I have thought about too. I'm definitely not afraid to commit. I'm much more mature at age 43 than I was at 30, and that's an understatement. I've definitely learned a lot from this last relationship. Had I felt deep down we were still compatible in 2019, I would not be typing this. I did propose to her in 2013, shortly after which we had a major life or death crisis occur in the household. After that point we essentially started moving in different directions. It's unfortunate, but it happens. I've learned more about myself within the past year than I ever thought I would, with the help of a professional. My thought process right now is to improve upon who I am now, and make myself the best me I can possibly be. That's all I really can do, and I want to make sure that when my future wife does cross paths with me that I am putting forth the best version of me I can.

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      02-01-2019, 04:43 PM   #3171
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he called her and all he said was "hey you, whatcha doing?" she got upset and said "you could have sent me a text and asked me vs calling me?" him being confused said "I just wanted to call you and say hi and hear your voice?" she than replied "well next time just send me a text!"

That is complete lunacy. I would never want to call that person again if that's the response I got.
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I will say I have some girls as close friends of mine who's not in any relationships because they want to stay single but they tell me some raunchy stories. I mean really crazy stories! just like that song from Ludacris and Nate Dogg she's uses guys as basically boy toys from different area codes or cities. calls them up when ever she's hungry, wants to go to the movies, wants clothes, or do something. so she goes out and gets what she wants, bangs the dude and sends him home and she does this repeatedly like Sun-Sat lol! and she's fine with it
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he's in his late 40's. I just talk to him last night and he said this new girl he's talking to doesn't understand chicks nowadays? he called her and all he said was "hey you, whatcha doing?" she got upset and said "you could have sent me a text and asked me vs calling me?" him being confused said "I just wanted to call you and say hi and hear your voice?" she than replied "well next time just send me a text!"

damn! is that how you're suppose to talk to people nowadays?
See, this is what I mean. What happened to people? Relationships of any kind come from talking to people. NOT from texting! Pretty sad. It drives me nuts. I tell my employees to pick up the phone. Call. When I ask the outcome I get they didnít answer my email!?! Really. If you donít want to speak with me and would rather text. Next!
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      02-01-2019, 06:59 PM   #3174
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I will say I have some girls as close friends of mine who's not in any relationships because they want to stay single but they tell me some raunchy stories. I mean really crazy stories! just like that song from Ludacris and Nate Dogg she's uses guys as basically boy toys from different area codes or cities. calls them up when ever she's hungry, wants to go to the movies, wants clothes, or do something. so she goes out and gets what she wants, bangs the dude and sends him home and she does this repeatedly like Sun-Sat lol! and she's fine with it
wow! Its hard to think that stuff happens IRL
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      02-01-2019, 08:22 PM   #3175
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wow! Its hard to think that stuff happens IRL
Eh, not really. The girls are just as bad as the boys.
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      02-01-2019, 10:32 PM   #3177
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question for all of you: why do girls care more if you cheat on your gf/wife/partner emotionally but guys care more if you cheat physically?
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      02-02-2019, 07:44 PM   #3179
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question for all of you: why do girls care more if you cheat on your gf/wife/partner emotionally but guys care more if you cheat physically?
I'm not sure that's necessarily true.
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The good:

My current relationship is fantastic beyond my wildest dreams. I can honestly say I am with my dream girl. She's stunning. Tall, great legs, bright blue eyes, blonde hair, incredible body. She's a brilliant writer, working on feature films for Netflix. She has great taste in cars, drinks whiskey, and knows how to party, yet knows when its time to work and gets things done. Oh and she is fully supportive of my car obsession.

The bad:

Many years ago I owned a mobile car detailing company. I was contacted by this middle aged woman who asked me to detail her pride and joy, her Porsche. Very rare to find such a woman. I agreed to the job and subsequently went to her home the following week to start the work. About an hour in, her daughter, roughly my age, came out with a beer for me, and we started chatting. She told me all about the Porsche. It was her fathers, who passed a few years back and it fostered a real love for cars within this girl. I was fascinated by her in all aspects, but her genuine love for cars was a HUGE plus.

After the job was done, I got this girls number and we went out the next Friday. I took her to this quaint wine bar for a low key evening. We drink, eat, talk, and just have a fantastic time. We start dating and things went very well for the first 2 months. Now around that 2 month mark, she starts to get very clingy. To the point where she would ask for the address of customers homes where I would be detailing. I was not okay with this type of jealousy. We had a talk and she brought up her father and her being scared to lose me. It was a very rough conversation for me, as I knew I was right to stand my ground about her antics, yet there is a fine line i did not want to cross, as I understand her pain as well.

We continued on for another month or so, where one evening at her house, a guy shows up to the door. I open the door to find this guy calling her name and asking who I am, and whats going on. Confused and angry, I step towards him and tell her to get downstairs now. He tells me she is his girlfriend. I say the same. She now runs to her room and locks the door. An absolute mess, I tell her not to contact me again, and leave the home immediately for them two to sort out this mess.

At about 3 am, I get a knock on my door. She's drunk, with the Porsche. Angry and fed up, I tell her to leave. I still regret this, as she was far too drunk to drive. I was caught up in my emotions and not thinking clearly.

About an hour later I get a call from her mother saying she has been in an accident. She crashed the Porsche, yet thankfully was okay. I picked up the mother and we met her at the hospital. She tells me how sorry she is, and how this has been a life changing experience. I was simply at a loss of what to do. I stayed with her that night at the hospital, and left the next morning. We haven't spoken since.

This was certainly the most emotionally draining relationship I have had, and will always be a memory of my past. She was a troubled girl, who I certainly hope has found happiness.
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I feel for you man, in my experience an absolute 100% relationship w/o any disturbances are impossible - but this is beyond of all nightmares.
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The good:

My current relationship is fantastic beyond my wildest dreams. I can honestly say I am with my dream girl. She's stunning. Tall, great legs, bright blue eyes, blonde hair, incredible body. She's a brilliant writer, working on feature films for Netflix. She has great taste in cars, drinks whiskey, and knows how to party, yet knows when its time to work and gets things done. Oh and she is fully supportive of my car obsession.

The bad:

Many years ago I owned a mobile car detailing company. I was contacted by this middle aged woman who asked me to detail her pride and joy, her Porsche. Very rare to find such a woman. I agreed to the job and subsequently went to her home the following week to start the work. About an hour in, her daughter, roughly my age, came out with a beer for me, and we started chatting. She told me all about the Porsche. It was her fathers, who passed a few years back and it fostered a real love for cars within this girl. I was fascinated by her in all aspects, but her genuine love for cars was a HUGE plus.

After the job was done, I got this girls number and we went out the next Friday. I took her to this quaint wine bar for a low key evening. We drink, eat, talk, and just have a fantastic time. We start dating and things went very well for the first 2 months. Now around that 2 month mark, she starts to get very clingy. To the point where she would ask for the address of customers homes where I would be detailing. I was not okay with this type of jealousy. We had a talk and she brought up her father and her being scared to lose me. It was a very rough conversation for me, as I knew I was right to stand my ground about her antics, yet there is a fine line i did not want to cross, as I understand her pain as well.

We continued on for another month or so, where one evening at her house, a guy shows up to the door. I open the door to find this guy calling her name and asking who I am, and whats going on. Confused and angry, I step towards him and tell her to get downstairs now. He tells me she is his girlfriend. I say the same. She now runs to her room and locks the door. An absolute mess, I tell her not to contact me again, and leave the home immediately for them two to sort out this mess.

At about 3 am, I get a knock on my door. She's drunk, with the Porsche. Angry and fed up, I tell her to leave. I still regret this, as she was far too drunk to drive. I was caught up in my emotions and not thinking clearly.

About an hour later I get a call from her mother saying she has been in an accident. She crashed the Porsche, yet thankfully was okay. I picked up the mother and we met her at the hospital. She tells me how sorry she is, and how this has been a life changing experience. I was simply at a loss of what to do. I stayed with her that night at the hospital, and left the next morning. We haven't spoken since.

This was certainly the most emotionally draining relationship I have had, and will always be a memory of my past. She was a troubled girl, who I certainly hope has found happiness.
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It's good that you can not lie. Girls like honesty.
It is also convenient that he always knows the location of his posse.
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We've been talking strictly as friends since my last post. We hung out Sunday morning to go grocery shopping and watch a soap opera at my place (don't laugh). I took her home so I could go to a super bowl party and she asked me if I wanted to stay because she was going to cook something. I stuck around until the first half was over and she told me she didn't want me to leave. I apologized, but I said that I told my buddies I would go. I got a text message saying she didnt want me to go, but that she understood. She asked me to come back after and I did. We just continued talking. I asked her why she wanted me to stay and she said she was enjoying my company.

I took the day off yesterday and we spent the whole day together, half at my place and half at hers. Towards the end of the night, she bet me I couldn't guess some trivia and she asked me what I wanted to bet. She bet some meat to grill next Sunday and I bet a kiss jokingly and she laughingly agreed. Well, I won and I told her to pay up. It was nice.

To be continued.
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I wish I would have bet something else. Lol. She was wearing these pants on Sunday that might as well been painted on...I had to think of random aircraft and motorcycle facts to keep from my imagination from going crazy. I'm usually not a horndog, but it's been a while.

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We've been talking strictly as friends since my last post. We hung out Sunday morning to go grocery shopping and watch a soap opera at my place (don't laugh). I took her home so I could go to a super bowl party and she asked me if I wanted to stay because she was going to cook something. I stuck around until the first half was over and she told me she didn't want me to leave. I apologized, but I said that I told my buddies I would go. I got a text message saying she didnt want me to go, but that she understood. She asked me to come back after and I did. We just continued talking. I asked her why she wanted me to stay and she said she was enjoying my company.

I took the day off yesterday and we spent the whole day together, half at my place and half at hers. Towards the end of the night, she bet me I couldn't guess some trivia and she asked me what I wanted to bet. She bet some meat to grill next Sunday and I bet a kiss jokingly and she laughingly agreed. Well, I won and I told her to pay up. It was nice.

To be continued.
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-wanting you to stick around
-cooking for you
-texting you saying she didn't want you to leave
-kissing
-wearing painted on pants

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This is so romantic right now <3 reminds me of me and the wifey coming together
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