01-10-2019, 04:56 PM | #2487 |
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When I first started dating my sweetie, his son was young and he had the same deal with alternate weeks. When he had his son, that was their time. Off weeks were our time. I always made sure my schedule was clear when possible as that was our time and I cherished that. She is not making you her priority.
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01-10-2019, 04:59 PM | #2488 | |
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Fast forward to this past week I come to find out she has nothing left in her savings because her work has been slow. Is panicking because she literally has not much left. Helping her find a new job now and I cant help but feel betrayed. Part of her saving was so we can get a bigger place of our own. Before I asked this girl to move in with me, I had a couple of people warn me or advised me to find a woman at my level. Going to have a talk with her once the dust settles and she finds a new job. Having that convo now will probably just make things worse. As far as your situation goes, a lot of people already addressed the lack of consideration on her part. Also, I'm always about keeping life simple which doesnt sound like what you've got going. Lastly, I'm going to have to tell you what my friends told me, you should look for a partner at or close to your level in life Last edited by PshhhhhMW; 01-10-2019 at 05:05 PM.. |
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01-10-2019, 05:30 PM | #2489 |
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01-10-2019, 05:33 PM | #2491 | |
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01-10-2019, 05:36 PM | #2492 |
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Who's the white knight trying to break you two up?? Lol crazy!
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01-10-2019, 05:45 PM | #2493 | |
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unless someone put in the effort to find him through his car, and not only stop there but figure out who mrs. not_judy was that's borderline creepy |
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01-10-2019, 05:50 PM | #2494 |
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Wow that's pretty insane. I mean it has to be someone who knows your name, etc, to find you/her on facebook. Also someone douchy enough to show it to her.
That's a low blow whoever did it. I think you are justified in how you felt. I haven't dated anyone with those issues but I had a friend like that. He is a great guy but smoking got in the way of life for him. He went from a great job/wife/daughter to now he works at Autozone, is divorced, and hangs out with some of the nastiest women I've ever seen who also smoke constantly. She has young kids, and needs to get her life together, for both her sake and their sake. Nobody can fault you for feeling this way, even if she doesn't understand that right at this moment. Maybe this will be the wake up call she needs. If you care for her a lot, it might be worth saying that you want to be there for her but things can only continue if she gets her act together.
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01-10-2019, 05:57 PM | #2495 |
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Pretty bizarre, but at least she now knows how you feel. I think if she upon reflection doesn’t see some responsibility on her part to help correct things, you might be better apart.
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01-10-2019, 06:08 PM | #2496 |
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I was about to say the same thing. Getting this kind of perspective from your significant other would be hard, but would give true insight into the nature of your relationship and really provide some area for growth.
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01-10-2019, 06:21 PM | #2497 | |
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01-10-2019, 06:46 PM | #2498 |
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This may sound odd, but I wouldn’t actually hold that against her that much. Anybody who’s ever been cheated on probably has that deep down to want to trust but verify. But you’ve never said anything here to indicate you’ve been unfaithful in your relationship with her. I can see how she might not like your sharing this stuff with us, but, hey, this should be a wake up call for her imo...
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01-10-2019, 07:01 PM | #2499 | |
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I can see how someone reading my posts would get their feelings hurt, but I don't feel that I have said anything that wasn't true to how I feel. It's not as if I dogged her on here. I'm sure that she isn't happy about some of the more intimate details I've shared but it's not as if I mentioned her name or posted pictures of her. Aside from the recent posts I must say I would be somewhat flattered if the same were said about me.
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01-10-2019, 08:13 PM | #2501 |
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Have you shared your full name on this forum or with anyone on this forum? Someone would have to do A LOT of digging and searching to find out who you are exactly(if at all possible, not sure how much you share on the internet) if they didn't have your full name.
I'm having a hard time believing someone on here did it, but if so then they are exactly what's wrong with today's society. |
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01-10-2019, 08:21 PM | #2502 |
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She could have been reading this thread for awhile and after today, couldn't take it anymore.
Also, hi girl, heard you're smokin hot! At least he said all that nice stuff about you! ![]()
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My two cents worth, if reading this makes her want to break things permanently, let her.
I think she’ll cool off and want back in. |
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01-10-2019, 09:49 PM | #2504 |
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lol damn i should probably change my username. seeing as how its just my first initial and last name it probably would be pretty easy to find me.
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01-10-2019, 10:07 PM | #2505 | |
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Jody - sorry dude....I'm not normally on here at night, but read the story on my phone and wanted to log in to express my sympathy. I know from reading your posts that there were some things that frustrated you, but that you really enjoyed being with her as well and really appreciated all the good she brought to your life and this relationship meant a lot to you...which is probably part of the reason why you were frustrated - you saw a lot of value and really wanted it to work. But it isn't necessarily over either - maybe she only read a part of your posts, but haven't read them all...my guess is if she values you like you value her, she'll probably privately read the rest of your posts too and see there is a balance. And then you will both have to decide if there's something there worth pursuing, or whether that's really it. I wish you all the best - and if you need to talk, PM me. I'm with you on the facebook thing though...I really doubt someone could have drilled down that far to find her, and even if they did, why? Doesn't really make sense, can't understand what they would hope to gain. |
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even if they knew your name it's still a great mystery as to who your gf could be
i'm pretty sure she isn't the only person you follow/follows you or your only friend on facebook etc "hearing about this through facebook" as you said is an excuse to cover something up because i feel like you aren't the kind of guy to post a pic with your girl and tag her with a caption like "girlfriend appreciation post!!!!!!" so knowing your phone number isnt really going to help any of us find a girl that we don't know what she looks like or any "real" detail... it's extremely bizzare and unsettling ![]() |
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Well shoot. I've been off this thread for a while. Sorry to see you and your lady are having problems Not_Judy . That sucks.
From what you are saying it seems like she's a good person and you guys have fun together, but she's just in a different place in her life than you are. It seems you are viewing her more as someone to hang out with and have fun with and less as a partner. Nothing wrong with that of course, but it means that relationship has gone as far as you will allow it to. It's not going to get fundamentally better as you two are not going to get any closer. She has her kids and her life, you have your kids and your life. You two intersect in the middle somewhere when time, money, etc. allows. it seems you are hovering someplace between "friends with benefits" and "partner." If all involved are happy with that, then game on. But the fact that you are here sharing this and clearly disappointed by the state of affairs tells me you want more from a relationship, just not more from THIS relationship. Sorry man, but I think your options are: Status Quo, or move on. |
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lowkey, it might be time to change your wifi password and maybe even activate the MAC filter on your router
im extremely paranoid about this kind of stuff and know a lot which just adds to the paranoia, but if you need any help making your network more "secure" by any means, in case you have any feeling of she might be sniffing around instead of just seeing the thread open send me a text/PM and I'll help you out ![]() then again this is the ballistic option but you never know... i have two printers in my apartment for my network and for my roommate's computer/ps4 etc because of this reason hahah once you know what's possible it's hard to go back |
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