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      09-12-2018, 06:12 PM   #397
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It's a new "fad", like veganism and tree hugging.

It's supposed to be more environmentally friendly than tampons, because you only have the one silicon cup for its life...
Another reason to be glad I am not a woman!
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NO but yes, you can do that but i'd say make sure you can convey the sarcasm and not just sound like... yourself


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we have a IP camera in my apartment, not risking that shit. i work with the school on this issue and at least here literally anything can be defined as "sexual assault" aka ruin your career material even if it's a hug she's not into it...

also a tip, idk how necessary this is in real life (off campuses) but i let them stay the night to take them out to breakfast in the morning. by doing so you convey the message that they aren't "objectified" - shit's complicated and almost even unnecessary but gotta do what you gotta do
Believe me, I get it. Years ago I went one 1 date with a chick & we got to the point of her topless & she didn't wanna do more. I said cool np. She got dressed & I took her home. fast forward, a weekend or 2 later & I am out with friends at a bar & she is also there. She is telling everyone "That's the guy that tried to rape me" Fuck you crazy bitch. Thankfully, that is as far as it went. Women abuse the system like no other
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Crazy. The sh*t people have to deal with these days. How long before you have to whip out a consent form?

I am not under this influence of drugs or alcohol - check
I am over the age of 18 - check
I am here of my own free will and not being paid or coerced - check
I wish to engage in the following sexual acts (check all that apply)
Can’t seem to find Dave Chappelle’s “Love Contract” skit, so this will have to do...

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Just troll them about something in their photos.
im trying to think of something generic that i can apply to most women without having to think about it. the worst thing is to put effort into a response and get no response back.

like if they have a dog, ill usually just start with 'cute dog, too bad mine is cuter'. if they dont have a dog though i usually dont even respond, just out of laziness.

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Bumble is a joke like all the apps. Most of my matches don't even speak. WTF are you swiping for then you lazy cunt?

When they do, it's also the bs "hi" & that's it etc. get a personality.

Just say something like "Hey, what exciting things do you have going on this week? or try "Hey, is that all you got? If so, I guess we can still fuck. Number?"
lol the problem is they always have a ton of options. as soon as a better looking match comes along they have no reason to bother with you.
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lol the problem is they always have a ton of options. as soon as a better looking match comes along they have no reason to bother with you.
Welcome to dating in 2018. It's a bs game where we do all the work for little return. I'm about to delete my Bumble account. I deleted my Tinder earlier today. I'm seriously to the point of taking a hiatus from dating all together. Beating off is more satisfying than dealing with all this shit. One chick I was seeing not too long ago, was 31 & almost zero sexual experience. I am 37 years old, I'm not gonna teach you how to suck & fuck! I'd rather take a nap. Yep, I'm jaded & just don't care. I'll go drive my Hellcat and get more satisfaction

EDIT: Although, Ms 31 year old now loves anal after me. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
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The bottom line of this thread is, a bunch of us need to live closer to each other so we can all grab a drink, share stories & enjoy cars.
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update about the situation if anyone's interested:
hit her up with the "when are you coming down to visit me", got some stupid replies, realized
1- shes probably actually BPD and its bad
2- i actually am better than this
3- still not a definite answer as to when (lol)

dont even care about the boyfriend honestly, at this point i just value my own sanity/safety - fuck this, fuck whoever said "she deserves an explanation" instead of simply ghosting, fuck that. ive just blocked her on every thing i know of i wont deal with this.

on other news though, i have an interview tomorrow with one of the firms i visited at the career fair - wish me luck!
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update about the situation if anyone's interested:
hit her up with the "when are you coming down to visit me", got some stupid replies, realized
1- shes probably actually BPD and its bad
2- i actually am better than this
3- still not a definite answer as to when (lol)

dont even care about the boyfriend honestly, at this point i just value my own sanity/safety - fuck this, fuck whoever said "she deserves an explanation" instead of simply ghosting, fuck that. ive just blocked her on every thing i know of i wont deal with this.

on other news though, i have an interview tomorrow with one of the firms i visited at the career fair - wish me luck!
Fuck you too
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Just troll them about something in their photos.
im trying to think of something generic that i can apply to most women without having to think about it. the worst thing is to put effort into a response and get no response back.

like if they have a dog, ill usually just start with 'cute dog, too bad mine is cuter'. if they dont have a dog though i usually dont even respond, just out of laziness.

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Bumble is a joke like all the apps. Most of my matches don't even speak. WTF are you swiping for then you lazy cunt?

When they do, it's also the bs "hi" & that's it etc. get a personality.

Just say something like "Hey, what exciting things do you have going on this week? or try "Hey, is that all you got? If so, I guess we can still fuck. Number?"
lol the problem is they always have a ton of options. as soon as a better looking match comes along they have no reason to bother with you.
Yes! With as much self esteem issues as I have, the rejection or knowing that you're being judged based on a few pics and a couple random lines that the app developer thought would be AWESOME, it's just too much imo.

All the health nuts want organic everything in their bodies but randomly suck off the first douchebag that hits them up on a dating app and ignores all the good one with actual substance

Guess we'd all better get used to it because it's not going anywhere anytime soon....sadly.
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Loll love all the responses.

Basically text game on these apps is a shit show. Somethings certain girls find funny others will be turned off by. Most chicks never respond or will exchange a few messages at most.

At a certain point I stopped caring and became more assertive with what I desired. It worked but now I've backed off. Not interested in hook ups anymore, would rather just go out and have a good time!
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The internet? I have her number. I found everything. It all checks out. Even the dirty pics she sent lol
So she showed up last night & another case of using old pics before she put on a few more pounds. She was also not as wild as she made herself out to be. However, she was a squirter like she advertised. I've never been into that. Had to change my sheets before I could go to sleep.

Overall, I was not into it, but still hit it. When in Rome...

Doubtful I'll bother with her again.
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Crazy. The sh*t people have to deal with these days. How long before you have to whip out a consent form?

I am not under this influence of drugs or alcohol - check
I am over the age of 18 - check
I am here of my own free will and not being paid or coerced - check
I wish to engage in the following sexual acts (check all that apply)

Sounds like a real minefield out there.

Dating in today's society is much like porn auditions if it is to be done correctly.

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Yes! With as much self esteem issues as I have, the rejection or knowing that you're being judged based on a few pics and a couple random lines that the app developer thought would be AWESOME, it's just too much imo.

All the health nuts want organic everything in their bodies but randomly suck off the first douchebag that hits them up on a dating app and ignores all the good one with actual substance

Guess we'd all better get used to it because it's not going anywhere anytime soon....sadly.
I honestly found that internet dating sites lowered my self esteem. You are putting yourself out there in hopes that someone will bite, when no one does you begin to wonder what is wrong with me. Once I shut down all my dating sites/apps I felt better about myself. To be honest, in this area of the rural south it's nothing but a bunch of overweight government assistance advantage taking, low income, uneducated, entitled women who think they should be worshiped along with supporting their 5 kids whose 3 separated daddy's are in jail for manufacturing methamphetamine or not paying child support. Not even worth the time....and to think, these are the people that allowing you to feel bad about yourself. Nah....personally I'm better than that.

I learned to adapt and become in control of my emotions. I learned to not want what I thought I wanted and redirect my focus elsewhere. Kind of like shooting the hostage type mentality.
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Crazy. The sh*t people have to deal with these days. How long before you have to whip out a consent form?

I am not under this influence of drugs or alcohol - check
I am over the age of 18 - check
I am here of my own free will and not being paid or coerced - check
I wish to engage in the following sexual acts (check all that apply)

Sounds like a real minefield out there.

Dating in today's society is much like porn auditions if it is to be done correctly.

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The bottom line of this thread is, a bunch of us need to live closer to each other so we can all grab a drink, share stories & enjoy cars.
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Yes! With as much self esteem issues as I have, the rejection or knowing that you're being judged based on a few pics and a couple random lines that the app developer thought would be AWESOME, it's just too much imo.

All the health nuts want organic everything in their bodies but randomly suck off the first douchebag that hits them up on a dating app and ignores all the good one with actual substance

Guess we'd all better get used to it because it's not going anywhere anytime soon....sadly.
I honestly found that internet dating sites lowered my self esteem. You are putting yourself out there in hopes that someone will bite, when no one does you begin to wonder what is wrong with me. Once I shut down all my dating sites/apps I felt better about myself. To be honest, in this area of the rural south it's nothing but a bunch of overweight government assistance advantage taking, low income, uneducated, entitled women who think they should be worshiped along with supporting their 5 kids whose 3 separated daddy's are in jail for manufacturing methamphetamine or not paying child support. Not even worth the time....and to think, these are the people that allowing you to feel bad about yourself. Nah....personally I'm better than that.

I learned to adapt and become in control of my emotions. I learned to not want what I thought I wanted and redirect my focus elsewhere. Kind of like shooting the hostage type mentality.
There's also a reason a lot of these women are on dating sites.

For some, they truly have a hard time meeting people due to work schedule, location, being shy, etc. Those are few and far between though. Many of them just have mental issues or want the gratification for their egos.

I remember taking a college sociology class that studied dating sites and the percentages of what people actually were looking for. Surveys were distributed, and the results indicated that small percentages of women actually swiped right on anyone, and an even smaller percentage wanted relationships or hookups. Most wanted the attention, which makes sense considering the nature of social media. Guys had a higher percentage of hookups, but had a similar amount of attention seeking/ego building.
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There's also a reason a lot of these women are on dating sites.

For some, they truly have a hard time meeting people due to work schedule, location, being shy, etc. Those are few and far between though. Many of them just have mental issues or want the gratification for their egos.

I remember taking a college sociology class that studied dating sites and the percentages of what people actually were looking for. Surveys were distributed, and the results indicated that small percentages of women actually swiped right on anyone, and an even smaller percentage wanted relationships or hookups. Most wanted the attention, which makes sense considering the nature of social media. Guys had a higher percentage of hookups, but had a similar amount of attention seeking/ego building.
How did guys have the higher % when they are still hooking up with said women? Shouldn't it be even?
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There's also a reason a lot of these women are on dating sites.

For some, they truly have a hard time meeting people due to work schedule, location, being shy, etc. Those are few and far between though. Many of them just have mental issues or want the gratification for their egos.

I remember taking a college sociology class that studied dating sites and the percentages of what people actually were looking for. Surveys were distributed, and the results indicated that small percentages of women actually swiped right on anyone, and an even smaller percentage wanted relationships or hookups. Most wanted the attention, which makes sense considering the nature of social media. Guys had a higher percentage of hookups, but had a similar amount of attention seeking/ego building.
How did guys have the higher % when they are still hooking up with said women? Shouldn't it be even?
I think the survey asked for the "reason" to be in the app/site.

Most of women said it was for attention.
Many men said it was for hookup.
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There's also a reason a lot of these women are on dating sites.
Exactly. The women that men who want fruitful relationships with are already taken. The same concept applies with employers looking for employees. Rarely you will find a good employee who is a victim of circumstance but mostly those who are constantly looking for jobs, I have found, tend to be those that job hop or are not valid candidates.

In the same notion, the few times that I have been on dating sites, you will often find the same people on there over and over again. The problem isn't that they can't find a good person to match with, the problem is them.

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How did guys have the higher % when they are still hooking up with said women? Shouldn't it be even?
I instantly thought the same.
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There's also a reason a lot of these women are on dating sites.

For some, they truly have a hard time meeting people due to work schedule, location, being shy, etc. Those are few and far between though. Many of them just have mental issues or want the gratification for their egos.

I remember taking a college sociology class that studied dating sites and the percentages of what people actually were looking for. Surveys were distributed, and the results indicated that small percentages of women actually swiped right on anyone, and an even smaller percentage wanted relationships or hookups. Most wanted the attention, which makes sense considering the nature of social media. Guys had a higher percentage of hookups, but had a similar amount of attention seeking/ego building.
How did guys have the higher % when they are still hooking up with said women? Shouldn't it be even?
I think the survey asked for the "reason" to be in the app/site.

Most of women said it was for attention.
Many men said it was for hookup.
Yup, this.
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I honestly found that internet dating sites lowered my self esteem. You are putting yourself out there in hopes that someone will bite, when no one does you begin to wonder what is wrong with me. Once I shut down all my dating sites/apps I felt better about myself. To be honest, in this area of the rural south it's nothing but a bunch of overweight government assistance advantage taking, low income, uneducated, entitled women who think they should be worshiped along with supporting their 5 kids whose 3 separated daddy's are in jail for manufacturing methamphetamine or not paying child support. Not even worth the time....and to think, these are the people that allowing you to feel bad about yourself. Nah....personally I'm better than that.

I learned to adapt and become in control of my emotions. I learned to not want what I thought I wanted and redirect my focus elsewhere. Kind of like shooting the hostage type mentality.
that is exactly why i deleted my first tinder account back in 2017. i spent a few months on their and met a couple of cool girls, but for the most part i just ended up hating myself. i didnt bother with online dating again until just this week.

now that im back on it is the same shit emotions. we will see how long i can take it before i give up again.
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that is exactly why i deleted my first tinder account back in 2017. i spent a few months on their and met a couple of cool girls, but for the most part i just ended up hating myself. i didnt bother with online dating again until just this week.

now that im back on it is the same shit emotions. we will see how long i can take it before i give up again.
I'm winding my accounts down. Deleted Tinder yesterday, have an email into Bumble on how to delete since delete option is not where their FAQ says, messaged a couple POF chicks that I am deleting the shit so shoot me your number if you want to meet & I'm going to delete CMB & Hinge after I meet the women from there this weekend. I need a mental break from the shit show.
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the point that jody made about girlfriend material girls being already in relationships and/or not being available on apps is 100% true

im still keeping my tinder/bumble because it makes my life easier to some extent but it is kinda sad (i guess) because it's literally just physical. im not even after some "emotional bond" or anything outside of it but it gets boring after a while for sure, imo almost no difference than rubbing one out vs having a one night stand. friends with benefits though? suuuuper happy to have 2 that i can count on
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the point that jody made about girlfriend material girls being already in relationships and/or not being available on apps is 100% true

im still keeping my tinder/bumble because it makes my life easier to some extent but it is kinda sad (i guess) because it's literally just physical. im not even after some "emotional bond" or anything outside of it but it gets boring after a while for sure, imo almost no difference than rubbing one out vs having a one night stand. friends with benefits though? suuuuper happy to have 2 that i can count on
I suppose I'll never meet my lady then since all my LTRs have come from online dating. I suck at life.
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