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Normally this would be easier for me, but she truly is an amazing person. Affectionate, loving, has carried me through a lot of shit, and basically looks like Mia Khalifa without the abnormally huge chest. She hasn't had the best childhood, doesn't speak to her parents, etc. So this is one for the crazy books lol.
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Ok joking aside. I know and understand this feeling all too well. First, let me ask how emotionally invested into this girl are you? Is it possible to move closer to her? How long will she need to be living there? The reason for my line of questioning is that one of my best friends is a female from London. We've been friends for almost 20 years and 7 years ago she started dating on of her old school mates from London. Seven years they stayed committed to each other while living in other countries. With that being said they both had the means of being able to travel and see each other every month but again....seven damn years. They made it work and got married last month and he has moved to the U.S. to be with her. Six hours is a drive for sure, but is she worth it to try this. I mean, 6 hours is 6 hours but at least it isn't another country. |
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do you guys live together because if you did, this is something to talk about with your partner before making a decision. Good for her that shes going to grad school, but does she really need to move 6hrs away? |
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Not living together, she would stay over for extended periods of time. I don't necessarily think it has to do with anyone else (obviously I could be wrong). I think it has more to do with fear of commitment, seeing things were getting serious, etc. I have a stable job, house, my family lives close by, l've pretty much lived in the same area most of my life. She wants to travel the world, not be tied down, join the peace corps, that sort of thing. Her reasoning was "we are on different paths right now".
This is someone who held my hand pretty much the entire weekend we spent away together, so that's why I'm confused.
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her "reasoning" is enough to part ways. Time heals all wounds been there done it. keep your head up. |
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Another shitty story. Same girl two years prior. She comes over to the house one night after work, we're making out, things get heavy and I go down.....immediately tasted condom. FUCKING GRRRRrrrrr. |
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Dammit Onesy! I'm telling you about my "distaste" (see what I did there? ) with a past relationship and you use this as a segue into job openings???
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We met in college, 7 years ago. We dated briefly for a few months, she told me her heart was mine, etc. After graduation, she got a job a few states away and we broke up. She dated another guy during that time, I dated someone else also. Both of us broke up with people we were with over the course of that time period, and out of the blue she reached out to me through Facebook. Which is what started the whole thing of us getting together again. Very strange. Usually for me relationships are not back and forth like this.
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or worse, find a boy because it's "cuffing season" and enjoy the perks of being in a relationship and break up right before spring break so she can have more "fun"
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Yup, more texts. I'm not sure why you would keep taunting someone if you don't have feelings for them anymore.
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this might sound harsh, but your best bet is to change yourself for the better. women absolutely HATE it when they see you're thriving without them, and you're doing better for yourself too. stuff like if you smoke quit it, start hitting the gym etc. it is hard after a breakup to get back on your feet, yes, but if you fell every time you stumbled you wouldn't be able to walk forward at all |
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She of course went ape shit and it was all my fault because I read her text message. |
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Something else to consider. Let her have her fun while you have yours. I've been considering open relationship type mentality lately myself. Seems to me that people tend to get bored or complacent with relationships after a while. If a person is interested in someone else, let them be. by giving them an ultimatum of either them or me ends up making them resent you or you get a slap in the face when they choose them over you. Most people aren't wired this way, but it does eliminate "caging" someone or yourself even. Allow her to be her and explain to her that at the same time you are going to do you. Down side to this will be that when she realizes that you have no problem getting with another girl, she will get jealous and then not want to have anything to do with you. I speak from experience. |
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the girl I was with last night, neither of us are in a relationship, and both of us do our own thing but every now and then we get together and just chill - it's like an "open relationship" i guess without the title? |
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I love this community. Who would've thought that the thread I've been giving advice in would be the one I turn to in order to seek advice. You guys/girls are great.
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