Dating - Good/Bad Experiences

someguywithanm3 · 05-29-2019, 09:04 AM

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Originally Posted by Now_Rudi

Interesting on the time frames. Both length of time with the deceased husband and the 1.5 year relationship after indicates that she isn't someone who demonstrates what I refer to as "monkey syndrome" (going from limb to limb to support her all while not letting go of one limb until she already has her hand on another). This is very much a good thing. Not common in today's dating scene. Also the lack of being able to go to her house in avoidance of the conversation with the kids as to who you are is noble as well. No guidance needed here. You already know what you must do, just continue. This could mutually beneficial.

That reminds me, even though we are dating, I'm still not allowed to hug or kiss her around her daughter. I think that's a good thing.

King Rudi · 05-29-2019, 09:19 AM

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Originally Posted by someguywithanm3

That reminds me, even though we are dating, I'm still not allowed to hug or kiss her around her daughter. I think that's a good thing.

That's a good mother and a good woman right there.

I couldn't tell you how long the girlfriend and I were together before we were affectionate in front her children. Wasn't really something that we discussed, just the way it was. Now that they are well acclimated with me they are not bothered with it. We do get the occasional "GROSS!" when they see it.

Turkish Pickle · 05-29-2019, 09:25 AM

now that school's out i'm pretty dateless actually - kinda figured it'd be like this but long hours on construction and suburbia isn't really treating me well. "breaking up" with that one girl that lives 15-20 mins away from me was a bad move but it is what it is

on the bright side, i'm putting in hella work and i'm getting paid pretty well because of over time.

I'm actually looking to buy an E46 soon

FuzzyPeaches · 05-29-2019, 09:29 AM

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Originally Posted by someguywithanm3

She became a widow about 3-4 years ago. It took about 5-6 months (I think). It was a lot of work though. I gave up and that's when she reached out to me saying she loved me.

I'm not giving up, but I'm also to an age where I'm not going to beg anyone to spend time with me.

There's been a lot of good advice in here. I appreciate it all.

UncleWede · 05-29-2019, 10:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Joekerr

with the exception of an Uncle who...well, you know...becomes two words and all

No, WE don't know. Which two words does our Uncle become??? All the most endearing/used descriptions *I* can think of are single words.

CTinline-six · 05-29-2019, 11:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

now that school's out i'm pretty dateless actually - kinda figured it'd be like this but long hours on construction and suburbia isn't really treating me well. "breaking up" with that one girl that lives 15-20 mins away from me was a bad move but it is what it is

on the bright side, i'm putting in hella work and i'm getting paid pretty well because of over time.

I'm actually looking to buy an E46 soon

Welcome to the real world.

Rmtt · 05-29-2019, 11:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

now that school's out i'm pretty dateless actually - kinda figured it'd be like this but long hours on construction and suburbia isn't really treating me well. "breaking up" with that one girl that lives 15-20 mins away from me was a bad move but it is what it is

on the bright side, i'm putting in hella work and i'm getting paid pretty well because of over time.

I'm actually looking to buy an E46 soon

You got the whole world ahead of you my man. Enjoy your situation for what it is at the moment. Before long you will be back in over your head trying to figure women out again!

I look at it this way...I love my wife. But I also love my time apart from her. Both of us need our own space. Right now you are getting to play the "selfish - all about me" role!!

Matt@EuroJerks · 05-29-2019, 11:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Rmtt

You got the whole world ahead of you my man. Enjoy your situation for what it is at the moment. Before long you will be back in over your head trying to figure women out again!

I look at it this way...I love my wife. But I also love my time apart from her. Both of us need our own space. Right now you are getting to play the "selfish - all about me" role!!

Truer words have not been spoken.

Turkish Pickle · 05-29-2019, 11:58 AM

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Originally Posted by CTinline-six

Welcome to the real world.

fug :I where/how does one go about meeting women without going out or sitting next to the cute ones in class?

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Originally Posted by Rmtt

You got the whole world ahead of you my man. Enjoy your situation for what it is at the moment. Before long you will be back in over your head trying to figure women out again!

I look at it this way...I love my wife. But I also love my time apart from her. Both of us need our own space. Right now you are getting to play the "selfish - all about me" role!!

oh no no i love this! I'm only responsible for myself and the well-being of my car and apartment - gotta get that deposit back

all im saying is it'd be nice to have a girl to chill with, but reading Now_Rudi 's post on another thread with the excerpt from the art of not giving a fuck brought in a whole other perspective into this...

King Rudi · 05-29-2019, 12:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

fug :I where/how does one go about meeting women without going out or sitting next to the cute ones in class?

oh no no i love this! I'm only responsible for myself and the well-being of my car and apartment - gotta get that deposit back

all im saying is it'd be nice to have a girl to chill with, but reading Now_Rudi 's post on another thread with the excerpt from the art of not giving a fuck brought in a whole other perspective into this...

Various religions and people say it many ways, but how I see it is that life gives you what you need just when you need it. Relax, chill and enjoy the moment of what is within reach at the time. Everything else will come when you are ready for it.

FuzzyPeaches · 05-29-2019, 12:35 PM

Well....Looks like she's coming over on Friday so I can make her dinner.

Joekerr · 05-29-2019, 12:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Joekerr

Whoa there "Rudi"...now I know I say that we are all therapists here (with the exception of an Uncle who...well, you know...becomes two words and all).

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Originally Posted by UncleWede

No, WE don't know. Which two words does our Uncle become??? All the most endearing/used descriptions *I* can think of are single words.

Well...since you asked. I still ascribe all the letters of therapist to you as well, but as I alluded to, those letters form two words...the space between them is right after the "e" in therapist.

I just lost your vote didn't I? Rats.

UncleWede · 05-29-2019, 05:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Joekerr

Well...since you asked. I still ascribe all the letters of therapist to you as well, but as I alluded to, those letters form two words...the space between them is right after the "e" in therapist.

I just lost your vote didn't I? Rats.

It's hard to therapee the willing, just saying

andrewmr · 05-30-2019, 11:48 AM

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Originally Posted by FuzzyPeaches

Well....Looks like she's coming over on Friday so I can make her dinner.

What are you making?

King Rudi · 05-30-2019, 01:07 PM

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Originally Posted by andrewmr

What are you making?

sweet love

andrewmr · 05-30-2019, 01:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Now_Rudi

sweet love

That may be on his dessert plans, but he first has to cook a meal.

King Rudi · 05-30-2019, 01:19 PM

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Originally Posted by andrewmr

That may be on his dessert plans, but he first has to cook a meal.

Then he's doing it wrong! Whipper snappers.....

FuzzyPeaches · 05-30-2019, 01:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Now_Rudi

sweet love

That's the plan!

I'm grilling steak and veggies as a backup plan.

King Rudi · 05-30-2019, 01:36 PM

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Originally Posted by FuzzyPeaches

That's the plan!

I'm grilling steak and veggies as a backup plan.

Attaboy!!! Solid plan!

Go straight for the sex! If she gets upset and leaves, then you have two steaks, plenty of veggies and the entire evening to enjoy them!

FuzzyPeaches · 05-30-2019, 01:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Now_Rudi

Attaboy!!! Solid plan!

Go straight for the sex! If she gets upset and leaves, then you have two steaks, plenty of veggies and the entire evening to enjoy them!

It's like you read my mind!

Rmtt · 05-30-2019, 02:28 PM

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Originally Posted by FuzzyPeaches

That's the plan!

I'm grilling steak and veggies as a backup plan.

Hope your cardio is in order!

Sounds like it could have been awhile for her, and if so.....you may be in for a world of hurt.

I've been on the receiving end of plenty of pent-up frustration from women who had been saving themselves after certain circumstances when I was single!

upstatedoc · 05-30-2019, 03:25 PM

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Originally Posted by andrewmr

What are you making?

random people coming out of the woodwork

05-29-2019, 09:25 AM	#3743
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