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      02-14-2022, 05:17 PM   #12497
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Jesus tapdancing christ do you punch yourself in the dick every morning?

Go "OMG I'm so sorry! I hope its not covid. If it isn't and you can be social Id love to bring you dinner for a night in!"

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Well now is your chance to save it. Tell her to feel better and you can do your date night Friday instead of tonight. Make some damn plans. Go on the date and grab her and kiss her already.
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      02-14-2022, 05:23 PM   #12498
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She got railed Saturday night and probably again tonight. Move on homie. The dating scene is not 10 dates meet the parents and blah blah. It's meet, fuck and see where it goes. Try that next time
Just for the other members, anyone who thinks G MONEY is a cool handle in this day and age and posts stupid shit like that is probably someone you would be better off NOT taking advice from, unless you want that kind of advice then go find whatever replaced the red pill forum.

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Yea idk I just felt like the texting the whole time was practically a one way street 60 me 40 her so.

Attempting to grow a pair now. Yea it does tbh ok lets see what I can salvage here



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4 points:

1. 60-40 is not a "one way street" and texting is for 12 year olds (please tell me youre not going to end up on dateline).

2. Dont think about this as salvaging anything, just sack the fuck up and stop analyzing the chick.

3. Again, sack the fuck up.

4. Respond like a normal human being who is interested in her. If youre going to rub a few cells together think, "Hmm, if I just told a chick I was interested in I fell Ill how I would I want her to respond to ME?" And then do that.
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Dude seriously

Just text her "oh I'm sorry to hear that, hope it's not covid, i was looking forward to seeing you tonight" and just get a bullshit reservation somewhere and play it off, better than just ending at home posting about your dating life on a car forum. Not trying to be mean as I've detailed my dating life here way more than I probably should in the past 3-4 years

But seriously, text her and get that kiss in!


Edit: ryan's post is spot on, and I found a personal new favorite phrase "sack the fuck up"
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Tough love.
Im triggered

Because Im dealing with the same bullshit from a "woe is me" friend who keeps fucking shit up by either:

a. Overthinking shit and boring the hell out of a chick.
b. Spending his whole life getting a low-grade hit from intsta-likes from chicks whose pictures are edited to high heaven that he has either grown bored with a real human being who would touch him or he gets in trouble with said human being.

You like a girl THROW THE FUCKING KITCHEN SINK AT HER. Just fucking do it, go for broke, send it, whatever. You fall flat on your face so what? At least you tried. Learn a lesson, use it in the next play.
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      02-15-2022, 08:53 AM   #12501
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FFS man. Get it done! Quit reading into this or that and make a move.
I totally am reading to into it

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4 points:

1. 60-40 is not a "one way street" and texting is for 12 year olds (please tell me youre not going to end up on dateline).

2. Dont think about this as salvaging anything, just sack the fuck up and stop analyzing the chick.

3. Again, sack the fuck up.

4. Respond like a normal human being who is interested in her. If youre going to rub a few cells together think, "Hmm, if I just told a chick I was interested in I fell Ill how I would I want her to respond to ME?" And then do that.
1. I call her sometimes and we talk on the phone (favorite part about dating someone older versus a 20 something year old who thinks phone conversations are weird).

2. Absolutely right I am totally over analyzing and I need to stop getting in my own head.

3. Agreed.

4. I told her i'll take her out this weekend if shes feeling better.


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Dude seriously

Just text her "oh I'm sorry to hear that, hope it's not covid, i was looking forward to seeing you tonight" and just get a bullshit reservation somewhere and play it off, better than just ending at home posting about your dating life on a car forum. Not trying to be mean as I've detailed my dating life here way more than I probably should in the past 3-4 years

But seriously, text her and get that kiss in!


Edit: ryan's post is spot on, and I found a personal new favorite phrase "sack the fuck up"
I said "I hope you feel better and I'll take you out this weekend" she agreed and we chatted for a bit so i'll have to be on my A-game this next date and chill tf out, definitely get a good kiss in this next date and seal the deal.
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Im triggered

Because Im dealing with the same bullshit from a "woe is me" friend who keeps fucking shit up by either:

a. Overthinking shit and boring the hell out of a chick.
b. Spending his whole life getting a low-grade hit from intsta-likes from chicks whose pictures are edited to high heaven that he has either grown bored with a real human being who would touch him or he gets in trouble with said human being.

You like a girl THROW THE FUCKING KITCHEN SINK AT HER. Just fucking do it, go for broke, send it, whatever. You fall flat on your face so what? At least you tried. Learn a lesson, use it in the next play.
Agreed thats all I can do is try and play on my strengths and stop with the nervous BS and give it a solid effort and see what happens.
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Agreed thats all I can do is try and play on my strengths and stop with the nervous BS and give it a solid effort and see what happens.
Just think about what youd want HER to do with you and reverse it. If youre thinking, "Well, if she liked me she would lean in for a kiss" then do it. As long as she doesnt lean back youre in. Etc.

And, honestly, its a good way to find out if youre a match anyway. If you think, "Man, it would be cool if she just hiked her skirt in the car on the way to dinner and said 'so what are we going to do about this?'" and she gets mad because you whip it out in the car, well, then it wasnt meant to be.

Edit: Word of warning though, if a chick responds positively to you whipping it out and going "So, what are we going to do about this?" just know 2 things: She is going to be a LOT of fun for a LITTLE while AND she will spike a cell phone off of your head at some point.
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Just think about what youd want HER to do with you and reverse it. If youre thinking, "Well, if she liked me she would lean in for a kiss" then do it. As long as she doesnt lean back youre in. Etc.

And, honestly, its a good way to find out if youre a match anyway. If you think, "Man, it would be cool if she just hiked her skirt in the car on the way to dinner and said 'so what are we going to do about this?'" and she gets mad because you whip it out in the car, well, then it wasnt meant to be.

Edit: Word of warning though, if a chick responds positively to you whipping it out and going "So, what are we going to do about this?" just know 2 things: She is going to be a LOT of fun for a LITTLE while AND she will spike a cell phone off of your head at some point.
Ask him how he knows..
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She got railed Saturday night and probably again tonight. Move on homie. The dating scene is not 10 dates meet the parents and blah blah. It's meet, fuck and see where it goes. Try that next time
Just for the other members, anyone who thinks G MONEY is a cool handle in this day and age and posts stupid shit like that is probably someone you would be better off NOT taking advice from, unless you want that kind of advice then go find whatever replaced the red pill forum.

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Yea idk I just felt like the texting the whole time was practically a one way street 60 me 40 her so.

Attempting to grow a pair now. Yea it does tbh ok lets see what I can salvage here



yes dates not happening with her tonight
4 points:

1. 60-40 is not a "one way street" and texting is for 12 year olds (please tell me youre not going to end up on dateline).

2. Dont think about this as salvaging anything, just sack the fuck up and stop analyzing the chick.

3. Again, sack the fuck up.

4. Respond like a normal human being who is interested in her. If youre going to rub a few cells together think, "Hmm, if I just told a chick I was interested in I fell Ill how I would I want her to respond to ME?" And then do that.
Ha ha. Just trying to help this dude out. This chick has no interest in him. He needs to move on!! So MaNY others out there that won't dick him around. Your advice is what he should take though. It's the best I've read.😵🔫
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Just think about what youd want HER to do with you and reverse it. If youre thinking, "Well, if she liked me she would lean in for a kiss" then do it. As long as she doesnt lean back youre in. Etc.

And, honestly, its a good way to find out if youre a match anyway. If you think, "Man, it would be cool if she just hiked her skirt in the car on the way to dinner and said 'so what are we going to do about this?'" and she gets mad because you whip it out in the car, well, then it wasnt meant to be.

Edit: Word of warning though, if a chick responds positively to you whipping it out and going "So, what are we going to do about this?" just know 2 things: She is going to be a LOT of fun for a LITTLE while AND she will spike a cell phone off of your head at some point.

Wow, never had that happen before. What kind of phone was it, an iphone?
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Just think about what youd want HER to do with you and reverse it. If youre thinking, "Well, if she liked me she would lean in for a kiss" then do it. As long as she doesnt lean back youre in. Etc.

And, honestly, its a good way to find out if youre a match anyway. If you think, "Man, it would be cool if she just hiked her skirt in the car on the way to dinner and said 'so what are we going to do about this?'" and she gets mad because you whip it out in the car, well, then it wasnt meant to be.

Edit: Word of warning though, if a chick responds positively to you whipping it out and going "So, what are we going to do about this?" just know 2 things: She is going to be a LOT of fun for a LITTLE while AND she will spike a cell phone off of your head at some point.
Seems like you've learned the "don't stick your dick in crazy twice" rule the hard way
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Seems like you've learned the "don't stick your dick in crazy twice" rule the hard way
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Wow, never had that happen before. What kind of phone was it, an iphone?
Yeah, fucking stainless corners hurt.

Still moving her shit out of my house, the worst part is this grand piano, takes a specialist.

Such a shame too. Made her own money, tall and thin, had already bought her own expensive ass boobs, and was the epitome of DTF. Just the combination of drinking and daddy issues ruined it.

If she could ever figure it out she could be damn near perfect The kind of chick to fuck you at a rooftop bar in Italy.
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Wow, never had that happen before. What kind of phone was it, an iphone?
Yeah, fucking stainless corners hurt.

Still moving her shit out of my house, the worst part is this grand piano, takes a specialist.

Such a shame too. Made her own money, tall and thin, had already bought her own expensive ass boobs, and was the epitome of DTF. Just the combination of drinking and daddy issues ruined it.

If she could ever figure it out she could be damn near perfect The kind of chick to fuck you at a rooftop bar in Italy.
Do you still have her number?
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Do you still have her number?
I do, I'm still talking to her at least until I can get all her stuff out of my house. I told her I wouldn't entertain any talk of a future until that happened.

She immediately signed herself up for therapy, and alcohol program, and like anger management. It seems like she's doing all the right things I just don't know if I give a shit anymore.
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YStill moving her shit out of my house, the worst part is this grand piano, takes a specialist.
Does it though?...

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Yeah, fucking stainless corners hurt.

Still moving her shit out of my house, the worst part is this grand piano, takes a specialist.

Such a shame too. Made her own money, tall and thin, had already bought her own expensive ass boobs, and was the epitome of DTF. Just the combination of drinking and daddy issues ruined it.

If she could ever figure it out she could be damn near perfect The kind of chick to fuck you at a rooftop bar in Italy.
If she figures out the daddy issues, chances are the DTF will go too
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Imagine you meet someone at a party, hit it off really well, got his number; then he asked you out for V-day and you both enjoyed that date, even talked about future dates during. And after he dropped you off you texted him "thank you again so much for dinner, i had a really nice time "

To that text I replied "So did I! Glad you could join me tonight. We should hang again soon", and was left on delivered. For what it's worth, she did warn me she is a horrible texter; plus with all the positive reinforcement during and even after the date I don't think I'm on the shit list (yet).

I'm 100% overthinking this, but what would be a good timeline to ask her out again? I'm thinking on texting her tomorrow to go get brunch and then go to the broadcasting museum (she said she enjoys learning how film/cinema gets made). I don't want to come off too strong though especially because I can tell she's considerably more mature, composed, and independent than anyone I've been with before... And we've really vibed so far so I want to see where this goes.

Would asking her out again for this Sunday (so not even a week between dates) be too antsy?
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Imagine you meet someone at a party, hit it off really well, got his number; then he asked you out for V-day and you both enjoyed that date, even talked about future dates during. And after he dropped you off you texted him "thank you again so much for dinner, i had a really nice time "

To that text I replied "So did I! Glad you could join me tonight. We should hang again soon", and was left on delivered. For what it's worth, she did warn me she is a horrible texter; plus with all the positive reinforcement during and even after the date I don't think I'm on the shit list (yet).

I'm 100% overthinking this, but what would be a good timeline to ask her out again? I'm thinking on texting her tomorrow to go get brunch and then go to the broadcasting museum (she said she enjoys learning how film/cinema gets made). I don't want to come off too strong though especially because I can tell she's considerably more mature, composed, and independent than anyone I've been with before... And we've really vibed so far so I want to see where this goes.

Would asking her out again for this Sunday (so not even a week between dates) be too antsy?
If she warned you she's a horrible texter then I wouldn't read to much into as of yet. She prefaced that. Also, if she's that composed and mature going back and forth with texts that don't have substance may not be her thing. She may have read your response and felt she didn't need to send another response (I hope what I'm saying makes sense). I think when a date goes well and you enjoy another persons company it's natural to get excited and slightly over analyze.

I don't think tomorrow would be to soon. It's been a few days and you want to catch her before she makes plans for the weekend. I don't think asking her on a date a few days later is to strong. If you're worried about that maybe just suggest brunch and if it's going well pop the idea of the museum in while you're eating.

Let me know how it goes tomorrow!
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If she warned you she's a horrible texter then I wouldn't read to much into as of yet. She prefaced that. Also, if she's that composed and mature going back and forth with texts that don't have substance may not be her thing. She may have read your response and felt she didn't need to send another response (I hope what I'm saying makes sense). I think when a date goes well and you enjoy another persons company it's natural to get excited and slightly over analyze.

I don't think tomorrow would be to soon. It's been a few days and you want to catch her before she makes plans for the weekend. I don't think asking her on a date a few days later is to strong. If you're worried about that maybe just suggest brunch and if it's going well pop the idea of the museum in while you're eating.

Let me know how it goes tomorrow!
I agree with Rebekah. I think asking for a date this weekend is acceptable. You youngins need to stop with analyzing texts. How many back and forths are necessary? She said thank you, you said you're welcome. No need for more.
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I don't get the waiting period either. I've asked for second dates on first dates by saying "this is going too well to wait." And three out of four times it ended up being breakfast.
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