[Joekerr]

Originally Posted by pennsiveguy

Roger that.

I suppose if we had a wound that never healed, we'd be crazy too.

Maybe it would heal if you stopped reopening it every chance you got?


I'm kidding...I do the same.

[pennsiveguy]

Originally Posted by Joekerr

Maybe it would heal if you stopped reopening it every chance you got?


I'm kidding...I do the same.

I'm a scab-picker, I confess. Oh wait...wrong thread.

[FuriouslyFast]

Originally Posted by pennsiveguy

I'm a scab-picker, I confess. Oh wait...wrong thread.

I pick my nose

[SSW]

Just broke up w/my GF of 12 years, so I'm back in the game again.

Already met someone I like but too early to make any commitments.

[Dang3r]

Enjoy your fresh freedom and don't think about a new long relationship too early. My experience had shown in the past that I had needed nearly the half time of entire duration to get completely over it. Beat the bushes around is also an option

[Rmtt]

Originally Posted by SSW

Just broke up w/my GF of 12 years, so I'm back in the game again.

Already met someone I like but too early to make any commitments.

Just in time to not have to buy any gifts!

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by SSW

Just broke up w/my GF of 12 years, so I'm back in the game again.

Already met someone I like but too early to make any commitments.

i bet she was waiting for the rock on her finger??
what happen?

[FuriouslyFast]

Originally Posted by SSW

Just broke up w/my GF of 12 years, so I'm back in the game again.

Already met someone I like but too early to make any commitments.

Welcome to the shit show! Buckle up!!!!


Had a new date last night. She told me I am a 7.5, I sucked on one tit then she went home

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by FuriouslyFast

Welcome to the shit show! Buckle up!!!!


Had a new date last night. She told me I am a 7.5, I sucked on one tit then she went home

[FuriouslyFast]

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

She drove 1.5 hrs each way to tease herself.

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by FuriouslyFast

She drove 1.5 hrs each way to tease herself.

i bet she regretted not getting the d when she was 15mins into her road trip lol

[FuriouslyFast]

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

i bet she regretted not getting the d when she was 15mins into her road trip lol

Most likely

[Kelse92]

Curious, all other things equal (eg personality compatibility, chemistry, mutual attraction, etc), how much weight you guys put on things like age/financial status/career path when dating??

Currently in a situation where I've been on a few dates with a few different guys and all three are great and pretty much equal in all of the personal categories; but all very different in the "material" categories if you want to label it that. Not sure which road I want to go down if I want to pursue a relationship with any, each one has pros-cons. Without getting too much into specifics...
The oldest one is the most well off/stable career & 1yr divorced & college age children
Youngest one (closest to my age) most risky/unclear career path & no kids
Third one right in-between and has a 2yr old son & travels for work 70-80% of the time & half the weekends not traveling are spent with his son.

Obviously you guys can't make the decision for me but curious how you all weigh these things from your perspectives, all other things being equal.

[Joekerr]

Originally Posted by Kelse92

Curious, all other things equal (eg personality compatibility, chemistry, mutual attraction, etc), how much weight you guys put on things like age/financial status/career path when dating??

Currently in a situation where I've been on a few dates with a few different guys and all three are great and pretty much equal in all of the personal categories; but all very different in the "material" categories if you want to label it that. Not sure which road I want to go down if I want to pursue a relationship with any, each one has pros-cons. Without getting too much into specifics...
The oldest one is the most well off/stable career & 1yr divorced & college age children
Youngest one (closest to my age) most risky/unclear career path & no kids
Third one right in-between and has a 2yr old son & travels for work 70-80% of the time & half the weekends not traveling are spent with his son.

Obviously you guys can't make the decision for me but curious how you all weigh these things from your perspectives, all other things being equal.

I've been off market so long, but what I remember is I looked for someone like you said, but where all our "core pillars" were aligned. Things like spiritual (I'm a Christian, she had to be as well - and a true Christian, not someone who just says they are), financial views, children, etc.

Pillars were anything that were critical in my life. Should only be a few of them. The rest...you can work out.

So to your question, I didn't put much weight on age (nice to have someone around same age though), but I did see career and financial as important. Not so much that she had to be well off, I just wanted someone who had focus, on anything really, just focus, so for me, I was looking for someone who had a plan and was enacting that plan. I felt the ability to focus and make a plan a reality would lend itself well to other areas of life.

For financial, it was more that we shared the same views on money. I'm more of a saver, but can spend on certain weaknesses I have, but primarily am a saver. So I wanted someone similar. I would be having ulcers early in life if I was married to someone who just threw money away.

Maybe that helps, maybe not. The youngest one...ehh, I'd be worried.

[Germanauto]

This past weekend I told a girl i had met a few times that I'm not ready for a relationship....aka I wasn't that into her. I just never developed any feelings for her and ultimately felt I couldn't be myself around her. The interactions were just not "natural" for a couple. Everything was forced. She wasn't hot enough to keep faking it.

On to the next.

[bimmer456]

Originally Posted by Germanauto

This past weekend I told a girl i had met a few times that I'm not ready for a relationship....aka I wasn't that into her. I just never developed any feelings for her and ultimately felt I couldn't be myself around her. The interactions were just not "natural" for a couple. Everything was forced. She wasn't hot enough to keep faking it.

On to the next.

Sounds good to me. I don't get why you'd want to force it and have unnatural interactions with someone you are going to spend the rest of your life with. There may be a very small percentage of people doing that, the vast majority are not.

[Rmtt]

Originally Posted by Germanauto

This past weekend I told a girl i had met a few times that I'm not ready for a relationship....aka I wasn't that into her. I just never developed any feelings for her and ultimately felt I couldn't be myself around her. The interactions were just not "natural" for a couple. Everything was forced. She wasn't hot enough to keep faking it.

On to the next.

Been there many times. Got to a point where I just told them up front I wasn't looking for a relationship, just wanted to go out and enjoy life. Some understood and I had some good friends came from that, others thought they could change me which eventually ended up with me cutting ties altogether.

Near the end of my run, one took me by surprise as she had the same attitude as me, and things just clicked as time went by with neither of us rushing it.

[Dang3r]

Originally Posted by Kelse92

Curious, all other things equal (eg personality compatibility, chemistry, mutual attraction, etc), how much weight you guys put on things like age/financial status/career path when dating??

Currently in a situation where I've been on a few dates with a few different guys and all three are great and pretty much equal in all of the personal categories; but all very different in the "material" categories if you want to label it that. Not sure which road I want to go down if I want to pursue a relationship with any, each one has pros-cons. Without getting too much into specifics...
The oldest one is the most well off/stable career & 1yr divorced & college age children
Youngest one (closest to my age) most risky/unclear career path & no kids
Third one right in-between and has a 2yr old son & travels for work 70-80% of the time & half the weekends not traveling are spent with his son.

Obviously you guys can't make the decision for me but curious how you all weigh these things from your perspectives, all other things being equal.

I see your dilemma, you wont longer be alone but on the flipside: Would you consider to refuse all your three listed candidates to save you from a maybe wrong decision? Thats smart, if you are not too desperately seeking a man/friend or whatever.
What I miss into your post, what are you looking for? Should it be just a friend or partner to stay with or do you consider marriage at the end, family plans and so on?
Older man maybe more reliable, they're almost settled to themselves and know their points into their life. Con maybe that some fires are no longer so bright that you would be satisfied with it for longer times - and I dont talk about sex
Mid age is fine, more flexible and willing to adapt some of your … habits(?) if you know what I mean.
Same age or younger under the perspective of carreer and family planning were no match to me, neither nor.

You seem to stick to the mid ager but if I read his more or less absence from home...how close do you want him to your life? When his most time is planned out, is the rest enough for you? Just asking...

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by Kelse92

Curious, all other things equal (eg personality compatibility, chemistry, mutual attraction, etc), how much weight you guys put on things like age/financial status/career path when dating??

Currently in a situation where I've been on a few dates with a few different guys and all three are great and pretty much equal in all of the personal categories; but all very different in the "material" categories if you want to label it that. Not sure which road I want to go down if I want to pursue a relationship with any, each one has pros-cons. Without getting too much into specifics...
The oldest one is the most well off/stable career & 1yr divorced & college age children
Youngest one (closest to my age) most risky/unclear career path & no kids
Third one right in-between and has a 2yr old son & travels for work 70-80% of the time & half the weekends not traveling are spent with his son.

Obviously you guys can't make the decision for me but curious how you all weigh these things from your perspectives, all other things being equal.

Don't date people with kids if you are looking for something long term. Dating someone who already has kids is like playing someone else's paused game. They will always put them first as a priority (as they should). If you have kids also, that's one thing, but I find if you don't it makes things very difficult and one-sided.

As far as career/financial, I don't look for that specifically. I focus more on someone's character which tends to lead me towards people similar to me anyway. You can tell right away if someone is in a rough spot in their life but is a hard worker, or if they are a bum looking for handouts.

Age is just a number but it's much easier to relate to someone around your age for the most part. I know couples where there is a significant age difference and it does sometimes cause issues because they are in different stages of life. As far as your 3 choices, why limit yourself? Sometimes the answer is "none of the above" and that's perfectly okay, which many people seem to forget.

[Kelse92]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

As far as your 3 choices, why limit yourself? Sometimes the answer is "none of the above" and that's perfectly okay, which many people seem to forget.

Oh absolutely, and it may be the answer here

[FuriouslyFast]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

Don't date people with kids if you are looking for something long term. Dating someone who already has kids is like playing someone else's paused game. They will always put them first as a priority (as they should). If you have kids also, that's one thing, but I find if you don't it makes things very difficult and one-sided.

100% true. Every woman with kids I've met has pretty much told me F off b/c kids. Yet they expect me to put them 1st lol. I just have some fucking them till it ends then on to the next

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by FuriouslyFast

Most likely

She got the D, just someone else's.