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      09-11-2019, 08:28 AM   #4577
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regardless if you give up on dating or not, you should be making yourself happy!
at the end of the day, it's you. given you're looking into buying a countach you clearly can handle yourself more than fine, and i'd argue if you aren't truly happy with yourself then something is off. if anything, no one can make you feel happy if you aren't happy with yourself


side/legal note: please keep making yourself happy within legal bounds, yes many substances will make you feel happy but not worth it
Yeah - various things have happened over the past 4 years and I have become more withdrawn and less interested in anything. I've been searching for hobbies but everything I find is either meh or done that before. Even things I used to enjoy like flying I can't seem to get myself interested in again, although I have to say that flying light aircraft in NZ is way more appealing than flying them here. Hours in any direction and I'm still in Texas.

Heh - only substances I take are alcohol. And blood pressure medication. But not together.
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      09-11-2019, 08:33 AM   #4578
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In my world, if I told a guy "Hey sweetie, I'm afraid I won't make it, sorry" without scheduling another date the ball is in my court to make next contact. She did not. She blew you off and wants you to chase her. And now she's pissed that you didn't reach out. Walk away....and watch her flip. Ignore her and watch her chase you. I hate games, especially at our age. It's ridiculous.

She thinks if she plays hard to get, you'll chase after her and she'll be in control. I don't like it. You don't need it. Run away. This sex will have much drama.
Thanks - I feel the same way. She could have suggested something else but didn't. I'm to old to play these games.
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Priority number 1 is making yourself happy. Once you are happy with yourself, women will be standing in line for you.
Yeah - that's something I am struggling with. Long complicated story. Living 10,000 km from friends and family doesn't help.
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      09-11-2019, 08:36 AM   #4580
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Nasilsin! Ozur dilerim, gıdıklamak tursusu!
Oops - should have called him threesum pickle!
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      09-11-2019, 08:38 AM   #4581
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I've had 2 showers since I made my Kanye quote post and I still feel the dirt on me! When will this be gone???
Not until you have had the greatest shower of all time and he announces it at the Grammys.
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      09-11-2019, 08:38 AM   #4582
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In my world, if I told a guy "Hey sweetie, I'm afraid I won't make it, sorry" without scheduling another date the ball is in my court to make next contact. She did not. She blew you off and wants you to chase her. And now she's pissed that you didn't reach out. Walk away....and watch her flip. Ignore her and watch her chase you. I hate games, especially at our age. It's ridiculous.

She thinks if she plays hard to get, you'll chase after her and she'll be in control. I don't like it. You don't need it. Run away. This sex will have much drama.
Sprint away from this. What is the saying? If it flies, floats, or F^%ks, Rent it.
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      09-11-2019, 08:39 AM   #4583
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Sprint away from this. What is the saying? If it flies, floats, or F^%ks, Rent it.
The version I heard was "if it floats, flies or fornicates, it's cheaper to rent".
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      09-11-2019, 11:30 AM   #4584
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Nasilsin! Ozur dilerim, gıdıklamak tursusu!
I forgot you lived in Turkey for a while
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      09-11-2019, 11:34 AM   #4585
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In my world, if I told a guy "Hey sweetie, I'm afraid I won't make it, sorry" without scheduling another date the ball is in my court to make next contact. She did not. She blew you off and wants you to chase her. And now she's pissed that you didn't reach out. Walk away....and watch her flip. Ignore her and watch her chase you. I hate games, especially at our age. It's ridiculous.

She thinks if she plays hard to get, you'll chase after her and she'll be in control. I don't like it. You don't need it. Run away. This sex will have much drama.
Finally got a "Morning" about 9am. Replied with "Good morning" and silence...
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why did she cancel lunch?
i told the last girl it wouldn't work out after she'd basically say no to my invites to do something that isn't really a date, generally with stuff like "im going to brunch with the girls" etc. not really non-plausible, but if you won't even ask to reschedule i'll take that as a no.

she also could be not passive aggressive and could be wanting you to chase after her. i cant say for sure if women at that age still play those games, but given men don't really "grow up" i wouldn't be surprised
i'm going to be that dickhead and quote myself, yes

idk man, how willing are you to chase a tinder match?
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i'm going to be that dickhead and quote myself, yes

idk man, how willing are you to chase a tinder match?
Same here....I never have and never will chase anything. Back then I didn't have the time to be bothered by childish shit seeing as we are all adults.

Oddly enough...it's that type of attitude that kept my neighbor shaking his head at me every time he saw me. Once he told me that his wife said I must own a car dealership as there was a different car around every time she would be outside to notice. .
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Finally got a "Morning" about 9am. Replied with "Good morning" and silence...
Step away from that phone. Don't you dare answer her right away.
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      09-11-2019, 12:46 PM   #4589
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i'm going to be that dickhead and quote myself, yes

idk man, how willing are you to chase a tinder match?
Not very. I was still unsure how good of a match we were personality wise but was prepared to see where it went - not so much now. I don't need this grief, especially not now.
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Step away from that phone. Don't you dare answer her right away.
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Has she replied?
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Has she replied?
No. Back to silence.
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No. Back to silence.
I'd leave it this way.
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      09-11-2019, 01:12 PM   #4594
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I'd leave it this way.
Yeah - I will. I'm no good at small talk anyway so I have nothing to say.
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Not very. I was still unsure how good of a match we were personality wise but was prepared to see where it went - not so much now. I don't need this grief, especially not now.
i believe we have reached a conclusion...
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      09-11-2019, 01:24 PM   #4596
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The conclusion was reached during his first post questioning the intent of the relationship. If you need to ask random heads advice on whether or not to make a relationship more serious or if she's after your cash then you already know the answer (or at least it'll always be in the back of your mind which will only lead to more harm if things progress). When you know you'll know, other then that just enjoy your time boss. Just my 2cents though
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The conclusion was reached during his first post questioning the intent of the relationship. If you need to ask random heads advice on whether or not to make a relationship more serious or if she's after your cash then you already know the answer (or at least it'll always be in the back of your mind which will only lead to more harm if things progress). When you know you'll know, other then that just enjoy your time boss. Just my 2cents though
+1.

You sound like you have a good life. But the best advice I can give is that until you truly realize you can be happy without anyone but yourself....you are going to be more tempted to rely on others for something they may not can give you.

Whether she's trying to play hard to get....or if she thinks you may be on to some ulterior motives.....you can't sweat it.

It sounds like you are well rounded, but also sounds like you've been hurt in the past. Nothing will fix that but time and staying occupied.

I wish you the best!
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Women are always after your cash. The sooner you realize this, the better off you will be.
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