[andrewmr]

Originally Posted by Chelsea_Tractor

It depends on your age. If you're 78 you don't want to be caught with a 16 year old. Well what goes on the yacht stays on the yacht :

I would say it is more down to respecting her priorities. Her kid(s) will always come first and it's probably not a good idea for you to discipline them. Understand she's not looking for a dad. Stay clear of any drama with her ex if he is still on the scene. If he is I wouldn't touch her with a barge pole unless drama is your thing. The rest is basics of being trustworthy, supporting her and, always paying the check in the restaurant.

On a side note the average age of a single mom is 38. Apparently many men in their 20's go for a single mom in her 30's.

Single mom's in their 30's know stuff......

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by Chelsea_Tractor

It depends on your age. If you're 78 you don't want to be caught with a 16 year old. Well what goes on the yacht stays on the yacht :

I would say it is more down to respecting her priorities. Her kid(s) will always come first and it's probably not a good idea for you to discipline them. Understand she's not looking for a dad. Stay clear of any drama with her ex if he is still on the scene. If he is I wouldn't touch her with a barge pole unless drama is your thing. The rest is basics of being trustworthy, supporting her and, always paying the check in the restaurant.

On a side note the average age of a single mom is 38. Apparently many men in their 20's go for a single mom in her 30's.

right, but i get what you're saying. I meant as in the "single mom" stereotype where they're like early 30s at most, those (or so i've heard) come with the most drama - not trying to get involved with that

i'm asking because i met this girl/woman the other day, she seems chill but she's 34, so about 13 years older than i am. not really looking to get involved (doubt she is looking for a relationship anyway) and we met at an event so i didn't get to learn more details. it seems like she's just on a rebound thing which i'm more than fine with, but how can i figure out if the ex is still on the scene?

don't really want to ask it flat out at lunch tomorrow but also if the guy is still around i don't want to get involved

[Rmtt]

Originally Posted by Chelsea_Tractor

If she's over him she will tell you herself. If it bothers you then ask in a way you would want to be asked. If anything changes and she sounds like she's not quite moved on then bolt. However, it takes one to get over one so you might be the one that makes her forget about the ex if there is one.

I found with these things. It works best if you focus on her, having a good time, making her feel good.. when you show her what good is then she we will think about what she missed out on and how she deserves better. Well most do but some do end up going backwards... again if you see that then bolt.

I guess signs she is not quite over him... she stalks him online... he's blowing up her cell or she's messaging him more... probably a lot more other signs.

One way to find out. Keep it cool and casual I say. See where it goes.

+1

Just be you....if the ex is still in the picture you will find out really quick. If so....just back out and tell her you don't want drama. Ex's can be bad news as while she may be over him.... you never know how he is feeling. He may think they are trying to work things out. But if she has stuff out on Social Media that show her having fun, partying, etc.....I would be sure he knows it's over.

Now the good thing about that situation. If all you're looking for is to have a good time among "other things".... this is the perfect scenario.

I can guarantee you she's not looking for anything else but the same thing. And if by chance she was looking for something more especially if she hasn't been split up too long.....those are the ones you run....not walk....but run from!

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by Chelsea_Tractor

If she's over him she will tell you herself. If it bothers you then ask in a way you would want to be asked. If anything changes and she sounds like she's not quite moved on then bolt. However, it takes one to get over one so you might be the one that makes her forget about the ex if there is one.

I found with these things. It works best if you focus on her, having a good time, making her feel good.. when you show her what good is then she we will think about what she missed out on and how she deserves better. Well most do but some do end up going backwards... again if you see that then bolt.

I guess signs she is not quite over him... she stalks him online... he's blowing up her cell or she's messaging him more... probably a lot more other signs.

One way to find out. Keep it cool and casual I say. See where it goes.

thanks man, i just saw this but all in all i'd say she's pretty chill about it. i brought it up after she mentioned how her kid was at dad's place this weekend, she seems like she's pretty over it. I asked about the kid because she gave me her insta and it's like 50% pics with the little guy and 50% "i crave dick" pictures, and then from there just went towards getting an answer about the ex. by her admission she's over it because the ex was a cheater and ended up getting married to the other girl and she realized there's no point in getting hung up on him. didn't talk bad about him given the frame so that's one less red flag too

Originally Posted by Rmtt

+1

Just be you....if the ex is still in the picture you will find out really quick. If so....just back out and tell her you don't want drama. Ex's can be bad news as while she may be over him.... you never know how he is feeling. He may think they are trying to work things out. But if she has stuff out on Social Media that show her having fun, partying, etc.....I would be sure he knows it's over.

Now the good thing about that situation. If all you're looking for is to have a good time among "other things".... this is the perfect scenario.
I can guarantee you she's not looking for anything else but the same thing. And if by chance she was looking for something more especially if she hasn't been split up too long.....those are the ones you run....not walk....but run from!

yes! i hoped she got that vibe when i told her i still had another year in my undergrad, and today at lunch it was made clear that we're just looking to hang over the summer. we'll see how stuff unfolds after i return to school maybe we'll stay in touch maybe not but at least for the time being both of us don't really want more than a summer fling.


lowkey she's really hot for a 34 year old

Now_Rudi I know it's not work hours so you're probably not around - please chime in

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

thanks man, i just saw this but all in all i'd say she's pretty chill about it. i brought it up after she mentioned how her kid was at dad's place this weekend, she seems like she's pretty over it. I asked about the kid because she gave me her insta and it's like 50% pics with the little guy and 50% "i crave dick" pictures, and then from there just went towards getting an answer about the ex. by her admission she's over it because the ex was a cheater and ended up getting married to the other girl and she realized there's no point in getting hung up on him. didn't talk bad about him given the frame so that's one less red flag too



yes! i hoped she got that vibe when i told her i still had another year in my undergrad, and today at lunch it was made clear that we're just looking to hang over the summer. we'll see how stuff unfolds after i return to school maybe we'll stay in touch maybe not but at least for the time being both of us don't really want more than a summer fling.


lowkey she's really hot for a 34 year old

Now_Rudi I know it's not work hours so you're probably not around - please chime in

My advice: Take advantage of the opportunity. A missed opportunity is just that. If it's nothing more than a fling and you have no drama to deal with, get that shit done!

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by Now_Rudi

My advice: Take advantage of the opportunity. A missed opportunity is just that. If it's nothing more than a fling and you have no drama to deal with, get that shit done!

Oh that is 100% the plan! Just wanted to make sure I knew what to look for

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

Oh that is 100% the plan! Just wanted to make sure I knew what to look for

You have a green light my man. Enjoy!

[Rmtt]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

Oh that is 100% the plan! Just wanted to make sure I knew what to look for

Be sure to act all Naïve and innocent at first. Let her think she is teaching you something! Then you rock her world.

In those situations, they tend to go out of their way to "prove" something.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Rmtt

Be sure to act all Naïve and innocent at first. Let her think she is teaching you something! Then you rock her world.

In those situations, they tend to go out of their way to "prove" something.

This!

[Turkish Pickle]

guys... i dont think i can go back, last night was GREAT

[kscarrol]

Do tell!

[cmyx6go]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

guys... i dont think i can go back, last night was GREAT

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

guys... i dont think i can go back, last night was GREAT

Welcome to the shit show lad.

This experience is going to change you in more ways than you can imagine. Women will also pick up on this little extra something that you will now have exuding from you, thus making them curious as to what it is.

You will also now ensnare the younger ladies. Enjoy the rite of passage sir! It's like becoming a man all over again.

[Turkish Pickle]

they say a gentleman doesn't kiss and tell

but it's okay because no one was gentle last night
holy shit was it a fun night, Rmtt gave the best advice of acting young and naive, so i was kinda expecting something but definitely not THIS. i just have a stupid smile on my face in the office now hahah

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

guys... i dont think i can go back, last night was GREAT

She did the coconut challenge on you???

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

She did the coconut challenge on you???

Are we talking about the hips?

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

they say a gentleman doesn't kiss and tell

but it's okay because no one was gentle last night
holy shit was it a fun night, Rmtt gave the best advice of acting young and naive, so i was kinda expecting something but definitely not THIS. i just have a stupid smile on my face in the office now hahah

This deserves more than the ability to only give one appreciate!

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by Now_Rudi

Are we talking about the hips?

the girl has to spell coconut while she is riding it

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

the girl has to spell coconut while she is riding it

dude i think she spelled the whole alphabet

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

the girl has to spell coconut while she is riding it

Yep, that's the one!

All women should know how to do this.

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

dude i think she spelled the whole alphabet

[UncleWede]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

dude i think she spelled the whole alphabet

BUTT, did you reciprocate? Is that while you are only smiling, tongue too tired to speak????

[Joekerr]

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

the girl has to spell coconut while she is riding it

I'm not getting this...unless most women just lie there like a fish? Why does spelling out coconut add anything to the activity at hand - wouldn't it be just as good with or without spelling a word?

I feel like I am missing something significant here....