[Tambohamilton]

Originally Posted by chinniciF32

Yea it really is crazy, I was out with someone recently and we were talking about this topic over dinner and she proceeded to show me her tinder blowing up it was no exaggeration dozens of guys liking her profile and sending her messages every few minutes and I was "woah", now I know why the apps have those settings in your messages to organize them by recent, distance, or favorite people meanwhile i'll maybe have 11 people in my inbox 2 or 3 out of the 11 im actively messaging.

Its hard for the genuine average or even above average guy to stand out in her inbox or liked section in a sea of thirsty pervs, all of that boosts the womans ego and like you said it causes them to overvalue themselves so as a guy you really have to have a solid first pic and witty one liner in your profile for them to right swipe or even consider liking you....all of this versus approaching her at whole foods, homegoods or even at the gym in the flesh in real time and having a signifcantly better shot if you look decent and have some game

What about those of us who have no game, though? In person I'm like a deer in the headlights, but behind a keyboard I can at least string a sentence together.

(Yes, I know I'm odd! )

[Mike.]

I think in 2016, or 2017 I documented a lot of my dating experiences-was a wild time.

Well, fast forward to last month and I got married.

There's hope ya'll!!

[Chihuahua]

Originally Posted by Tambohamilton

What about those of us who have no game, though? In person I'm like a deer in the headlights, but behind a keyboard I can at least string a sentence together.

Don't pedestalize women, they're just regular people - all of them. I promise you have more game than you're aware of; your 'game' is just you being you. Get out and practice talking to women, approaching them, making eye contact, etc. It's no different than going to the gym; you'll be weak at first, but before you know it you'll be benching twice your body weight. Besides, if you can't interact with a woman in person you will 100% lose out to a guy who can.

[Tambohamilton]

Originally Posted by Chihuahua

Don't pedestalize women, they're just regular people - all of them. I promise you have more game than you're aware of; your 'game' is just you being you. Get out and practice talking to women, approaching them, making eye contact, etc. It's no different than going to the gym; you'll be weak at first, but before you know it you'll be benching twice your body weight. Besides, if you can't interact with a woman in person you will 100% lose out to a guy who can.

Thanks. I'm not single anyhow - met my partner on tinder But yeah, things were never as simple for me as they seem for most. No doubt mainly my fault, but I'm not bitter - it's just how it is!

[Chihuahua]

Originally Posted by Tambohamilton

But yeah, things were never as simple for me as they seem for most.

Same here, I've always had to learn the things I know by making every mistake in the book and learning the hard way.

[440i6MT]

Not necessarily a date, but I'd been chatting up this girl for a few days. Going well. I eventually asked "what made her wifey material". It was on her profile, so you'd figure someone would defend a statement they themselves made. Checked back the next day and our conversation disappeared

[Chihuahua]

Originally Posted by 440i6MT

Not necessarily a date, but I'd been chatting up this girl for a few days. Going well. I eventually asked "what made her wifey material". It was on her profile, so you'd figure someone would defend a statement they themselves made. Checked back the next day and our conversation disappeared

Did you ever meet her in person? More importantly, what's up the the E60 M5 manual situation?

[LDT]

Ignore the political ad at the beginning

[440i6MT]

Originally Posted by Chihuahua

Did you ever meet her in person? More importantly, what's up the the E60 M5 manual situation?

I did not.
If I meet any girl/woman in person where the context is that of a date, it's a wrap. Getting there has always, and obviously, been the challenge.

I've been waiting 3 months for it to go live on the auction block

[erickonphoenix]

This is probably a terrible post but it was very effective.

On the dating apps I would find ones I liked. Open a word doc and drop their pic and general info under neath. As I called them or met them in person I would add pertinent details. If I called or met them again I'd study their doc so I'd be up on all their personal info. Helped me look engaged and thoughtful.

Next was filtering out dead ends or problem candidates. If they filtered me out that was fine, it will happen most of the time. Had some good wife material come through but ultimately wound up reconnecting with a woman I know years ago.

It was a very efficient system but comes with a few caveats. Don't take you dates to the same watering holes. Be mindful of violent exes, ask about them. Be vague about your residence early on.

[///d]

Originally Posted by erickonphoenix

This is probably a terrible post but it was very effective.

On the dating apps I would find ones I liked. Open a word doc and drop their pic and general info under neath. As I called them or met them in person I would add pertinent details. If I called or met them again I'd study their doc so I'd be up on all their personal info. Helped me look engaged and thoughtful.

Next was filtering out dead ends or problem candidates. If they filtered me out that was fine, it will happen most of the time. Had some good wife material come through but ultimately wound up reconnecting with a woman I know years ago.

It was a very efficient system but comes with a few caveats. Don't take you dates to the same watering holes. Be mindful of violent exes, ask about them. Be vague about your residence early on.

See I think this is why I struggled so much with dating in todays age. It's common and acceptable to date multiple at once, or one after another, and with online apps it's so easy to have options. I was not raised this way, I'm a one at a time kind of guy.

TI felt like online dating or when dating multiple at once it's just shopping for whatever you liked the most at the time. It's fast paced, now or never and I never felt like there was ever any real connections. Just hammered with questions that gave no real indication of the person. It wasn't until I stopped looking that I found someone that I actually connected with.

[Chihuahua]

Originally Posted by 440i6MT

I did not.
If I meet any girl/woman in person where the context is that of a date, it's a wrap. Getting there has always, and obviously, been the challenge.

Not sure if I'm following correctly; you're saying that you have difficultly interacting with someone if it's implied that you're officially on a date?

Also, specs on M5 please. color/transmission/etc.

[G35POPPEDMYCHERRY]

Originally Posted by Chihuahua

Not sure if I'm following correctly; you're saying that you have difficultly interacting with someone if it's implied that you're officially on a date?

Also, specs on M5 please. color/transmission/etc.

its hard for him to make dates, but if hes on a date he can close easily.

[Chihuahua]

Originally Posted by G35POPPEDMYCHERRY

its hard for him to make dates, but if hes on a date he can close easily.

thanks for translating, re-read his post and it makes complete sense. it's been a long day today, my brain is toast.

[440i6MT]

Originally Posted by Chihuahua

thanks for translating, re-read his post and it makes complete sense. it's been a long day today, my brain is toast.

No worries man. I've been told the way I structure sentences is peculiar

Originally Posted by G35POPPEDMYCHERRY

its hard for him to make dates, but if hes on a date he can close easily.

Originally Posted by Chihuahua

Also, specs on M5 please. color/transmission/etc.

It's a '08, Silverstone on Black, 6-speed. 119.6k miles on the clock. Minimal impact to the driver-side quarter panel. I will part ways with my f32, invest 80% of the return, and use the remaining 20% (& many paychecks) to build the M5 to perfection.
Not that my f32 is bad. I can see myself selling it tomorrow or driving it for another 5 years... but I have the mind set on investing + M5.
https://f30.bimmerpost.com/forums/sh....php?t=2058674

[Chihuahua]

Originally Posted by 440i6MT

It's a '08, Silverstone on Black, 6-speed. 119.6k miles on the clock. Minimal impact to the driver-side quarter panel. I will part ways with my f32, invest 80% of the return, and use the remaining 20% (& many paychecks) to build the M5 to perfection.
Not that my f32 is bad. I can see myself selling it tomorrow or driving it for another 5 years... but I have the mind set on investing + M5.
https://f30.bimmerpost.com/forums/sh....php?t=2058674

Sounds like a nice spec. I think the car community is finally coming around on the E60 M5, it's the one to have IMO. Every now and then I get the bug to swap out my B7 for an E60 M5; I want that V10 in the worst way. Good luck with it if you end up getting it.

[440i6MT]

Originally Posted by Chihuahua

Sounds like a nice spec. I think the car community is finally coming around on the E60 M5, it's the one to have IMO. Every now and then I get the bug to swap out my B7 for an E60 M5; I want that V10 in the worst way. Good luck with it if you end up getting it.

My longest-serving car was a 2010 e60 528i. I still regret selling it, ironically, as I upgraded to my current car...
It's a scary bug. Digs itself deep into you. Then you watch some M539 Restorations and it's over, you're checking the sites daily for the M5 haha

[Chihuahua]

Originally Posted by 440i6MT

My longest-serving car was a 2010 e60 528i. I still regret selling it, ironically, as I upgraded to my current car...
It's a scary bug. Digs itself deep into you. Then you watch some M539 Restorations and it's over, you're checking the sites daily for the M5 haha

Tell me about it. I had a well set up E60 530i (in my profile), sold it when I moved. There are a couple of cars in my history I wish I would have kept, that's one of them. I love M539's channel too but man oh man does it give me some really, really dumb ideas sometimes...