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11-23-2021, 11:37 AM | #11708 |
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I ended the 6 year relationship with the now ex-girlfriend yesterday. I want to be somewhat sad about it, I just can't be. Things haven't been what they should for a while now. Shit escalated Sunday afternoon into a full-blown argument which resulted in her leaving and "cooling down." We didn't talk much Sunday night and now when she speaks to me it's screaming like a banshee. Yeah, she can keep that shit.
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11-23-2021, 12:07 PM | #11710 | |
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If two people have a disagreement, they can talk like adults and sort things out, or one person can continue to drag the situation on for as long as they possibly can until the other has just had enough. I've had enough. I'm already at peace. I wish that she could find it. I must be the strangest ex-boyfriend on the planet; I've called her twice since yesterday to check on her, make sure she is ok and to listen is she needed to clear the air on her end. Thank you Joe. Appreciate you. This relationship was the easiest and the emptiest that I've had to date. I feel partially responsible. I should have ended it a long time ago.
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11-23-2021, 12:52 PM | #11711 | |
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11-23-2021, 02:36 PM | #11712 |
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At some point, the question needs to be asked why so many women seem so angry in their relationships. There are a lot of jokes about this, happy wife, happy life etc, or men in the "dog house" etc, but this theme is there, this theme of woman cracking the shits.
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11-23-2021, 02:51 PM | #11713 | |
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So while they may not be angry in their relationship, they may be angry at certain aspects of it and do not address it properly. |
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The way I see things is that when problems arise, communication is key. Talking things out amicably and finding a resolution quickly seems like the responsible thing to do. It seems like she just wanted to be in control and string me along/torment me in the process. Wrong melon farmer. ![]() Quote:
I also know some loud individuals who just happened to grow up in a home where the parents where shouting at each other constantly. that is just simply being conditioned from an early age. Regardless of origin, it's completely unacceptable behavior.
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Maybe someone here can chime in on this. What is it with women’s infatuation with animals? Cats in particular. Reading through a bunch of various posts on different forums, I found it quite alarming that women would chose their cat over their significant other they supposedly love, especially if their SO has an issue with cats due to medical reasons, i.e. severe allergies to cats. Does that strike anyone else as being fucked?
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11-24-2021, 06:51 AM | #11718 | |
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With you 100%. I really want to be sad and go through the emotional onslaught of processing and rebuilding. It almost doesn't seem healthy not feel sad about it. I do miss her, but then when I think about what encompasses being with her; my opinion instantly changes again. Side note: I've had two nights in a row, with getting more than 4-5 hours of sleep. After just two days, I can tell a difference in how my thought process and physical appearance. |
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11-24-2021, 07:16 AM | #11720 | |
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![]() After another quick thought, would I choose to spend an afternoon with my last cat or would I rather spend an afternoon with any of my ex's.....Cat for sure. No actually. Normally she was cool, calm and collected. Almost frightening and scary at how calm she is most of the time. Almost like when your parents knew you had done something wrong, but haven't said anything yet, all the while you are waiting for them to drop the hammer and they just keep acting nice....it's like that, all the time. A few odd things that I have noticed though - If she knows something that she has a right to be upset about and bring to my attention, she doesn't. She acts like everything is fine and no problems whatsoever.....until I say anything about being upset or something she has done that bothered me. Then all hell breaks lose and she begins dropping every little thing that I've done to upset her. I suppose in her mind if she drops 20 reasons why she should be upset, it pales why I'm upset and I just shouldn't be upset at all. Why not just discuss these things as they arise and talk them out then? Another hot topic for me recently is how she tries to cover up or justify her actions, that she knows hurts or upsets me. If she has done something that upsets me, if I bring it to her attention; rather than explaining why she did something in hopes me understanding or apologizing, she justifies her actions with bullshit excuses. Never admits fault, never initially says she is sorry and will act like her actions, screaming and staying away from me are acceptable methods of resolving an issue. I figure she thinks if she yells incoherently, loud enough, the other person just secedes. I've been through tons of sales, how to read body language/tone/facial expression trainings. I can read people instantly. After 6 years, I still can not read her. Maybe this is because I'm an empath and she completely lacks empathy. She can act fine and be on fire inside, or make a person think it's the worst day of her life, and she'll continuously reassure you that she is fine. The only time that screamed and yelled like this is when I explain some form of emotional issue in the relationship. The first time it happened, I told her I felt like she didn't have time for a boyfriend/everything else is put before me. That shit was bad. In my face, pointing finger about 2 inches from my nose and acted like she wanted to murder me....all for feeling like she had lost interest and wanting to discuss. A person would think that reassurance was the answer to hurt feelings not yelling at the other person to make them feel better. Just odd behavior, I've never experienced a personality trait like this. I feel kinda weird typing all this. My intent isn't to complain or nag about the situation. Just providing details to paint the picture. |
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11-24-2021, 07:59 AM | #11721 |
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But again, there's this underlying thing in our culture where it is the man treading on egg shells and the woman "has something to be upset about". What is driving this? Confrontational TV (reality shows, soap operas)?
I dunno what it is but almost every case of there being relationship issues on this forum it is the woman getting pissed at something. If I was to go my separate ways I don't think i would couple up again, this shit really is ridiculous. |
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11-24-2021, 08:33 AM | #11722 | |
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There's a different balance where women are now more empowered (rightfully so) because of disparities from the past. But, men are still supposed to suck it up and "be a man". Not that it makes any of it any more right than wrong, but you have to find someone that is on the same level both maturity wise and mentally. |
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@King Rudi sorry to hear about the break up. At the same time, I think it's been coming for a while. You gave it your best. It isn't a relationship where there is no communication & you tried your best to try and work through things with her. If you need anything, hit me up.
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I see it all over this forum and I see it in all the couples i know, how often is the man doing the no talking thing to the woman or shooting her daggers or whatever? How often is the woman trying to understand why the man is upset? I have two sons, 6 and 10, i need to figure this shit out before they start dating. It's fucking ridiculous. |
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I think culturally women are conditioned not to be up-front, etc and let stupid shit fester. Almost every single fight I have had is some asinine thing being blown out of proportion because had she told me about in real time I would have told her how stupid it was. So we get into a hole where she thinks ive committed some perceived slight, is bitchy, which in turn makes me react, and it becomes a real fight. Just last night we had one of those and it basically ended with me saying, "Youre hiding a problem from me, effectively stealing my ability to do anything about it, then being shitty to me because of it, and then acting like the victim when I want nothing to do with you. If youre not going to give me a chance to do something about it then Im not going to allow you to be a bitch about it, fix it yourself." If it were more often and she wasn't bringing a lot of other things to the table Id be out. Its also something Ive had to battle with other girls so it just seems to be a thing, just some are better or worse than others. Guys are more conditioned to just be up-front about it, rock the boat immediately and get it over with. The only guys Ive seen that kind of BS from were weirdos I just avoided anyway. |
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