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      11-07-2019, 10:13 AM   #4709
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Next time the topic comes up, maybe reframe it in a way that goes "I'm not preoccupied with the thought of death, but I make sure to cherish every moment because you never know what'll happen even in a few hours"?
If there is a next time.

This isn't my first rodeo, but this girl is pretty special aside from this.
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Thanks. Maybe she thinks that if I'm afraid of death it means i'm afraid of losing her??

I just don't want to worry about things that are out of my control. Being afraid of death isn't going to magically make it stay away.

Don't get me wrong, when the time comes, I'm going to feel some anxiety/fear (I've had a couple of close calls), but I'm not going to worry about it in a daily basis.

To me, love and death are separate. She thinks my thoughts on one subject are not inline with hers and it's causing a lot of tension. She even told me she was leaving. I don't understand.

something is missing if she wants to walk away so fast over a comment regarding a situation that was very difficult to deal with. I believe you been supporting her and stood by her side during that period . Having different views shouldnt be the reason to walk away from someone else.
if i were you, i would sit her down and have serious talk to what the issue is.
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something is missing if she wants to walk away so fast over a comment regarding a situation that was very difficult to deal with. I believe you been supporting her and stood by her side during that period . Having different views shouldnt be the reason to walk away from someone else.
if i were you, i would sit her down and have serious talk to what the issue is.
Yeah, I'm going to do that. It just doesn't make sense.
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Yeah, I'm going to do that. It just doesn't make sense.
good luck, i hope everything is ok and it was just her being emotional.
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good luck, i hope everything is ok and it was just her being emotional.
Thank you
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      11-07-2019, 12:58 PM   #4714
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To me, love and death are separate. She thinks my thoughts on one subject are not inline with hers and it's causing a lot of tension. She even told me she was leaving. I don't understand.
Start with "I don't understand." Have her explain exactly what she's thinking and what set her off. If she means that much to you, why not ask her to spell things out from her perspective and why don't you listen to what she's saying?

This sounds like a land mine topic for her that you unfortunately stepped on. The only way forward is to first understand what the hell she's on about, then decide if you can abide what the resolution might require.
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Thanks. Maybe she thinks that if I'm afraid of death it means i'm afraid of losing her??

I just don't want to worry about things that are out of my control. Being afraid of death isn't going to magically make it stay away.

Don't get me wrong, when the time comes, I'm going to feel some anxiety/fear (I've had a couple of close calls), but I'm not going to worry about it in a daily basis.

To me, love and death are separate. She thinks my thoughts on one subject are not inline with hers and it's causing a lot of tension. She even told me she was leaving. I don't understand.

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Next time the topic comes up, maybe reframe it in a way that goes "I'm not preoccupied with the thought of death, but I make sure to cherish every moment because you never know what'll happen even in a few hours"?
I agree with Pickle on this.
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Yeah, I'm going to do that. It just doesn't make sense.
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What's with women wanting to meet in public, getting a public venue & then just bailing on the date or ghosting?

Had one recently (Unrelated to above) give the age old death in the family excuse & another one didn't even try with "Something came up. Can't make it tonight, sorry!" After all her talk about being excited to meet me & claiming we'll have lots of fun. SMH...
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just move on, pof in the ocean
How's the love life doc? Same girl?
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What's with women wanting to meet in public, getting a public venue & then just bailing on the date or ghosting?

Had one recently (Unrelated to above) give the age old death in the family excuse & another one didn't even try with "Something came up. Can't make it tonight, sorry!" After all her talk about being excited to meet me & claiming we'll have lots of fun. SMH...
Funny story, I was talking with this girl through tinder and we agreed to meet up. Shortly after that a good friend of mine said she was in the hospital, so I had to bail on the date because I wanted to visit my friend

I'm sure she thought I was blowing her off because it's been two weeks and complete radio silence

on other news, going on a first date on tuesday. hyped about it because the girl actually seems like a chill person :woo:
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What's with women wanting to meet in public, getting a public venue & then just bailing on the date or ghosting?

Had one recently (Unrelated to above) give the age old death in the family excuse & another one didn't even try with "Something came up. Can't make it tonight, sorry!" After all her talk about being excited to meet me & claiming we'll have lots of fun. SMH...
Sorry you're being handled so clumsily. Fortunately, they're revealing flakey behavior and/or a lack of interest right from the get-go, and this saves you time and energy. Makes it super easy to holler "Next!" and move on.
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is no one getting laid lately?
Any time I want, which isn't very often lately. I'm tiring of hearing the ignorant things that spew out of her mouth at random times. Nothing takes the starch out of a hard-on like ignorance...at least, for me.

Latest irksome utterance: "There are a lot more decent women than there are decent men." So many snarky retorts came to mind that I couldn't pick one and got up and went for a drive. I called her on it later, and she failed to own having used a negative stereotype wrapped in a cliche wrapped in an old wives' tale. I told her that stereotypes are the mark of an ignoramus. She wasn't pleased...and I didn't give a fuck.
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Any time I want, which isn't very often lately. I'm tiring of hearing the ignorant things that spew out of her mouth at random times. Nothing takes the starch out of a hard-on like ignorance...at least, for me.

Latest irksome utterance: "There are a lot more decent women than there are decent men." So many snarky retorts came to mind that I couldn't pick one and got up and went for a drive. I called her on it later, and she failed to own having used a negative stereotype wrapped in a cliche wrapped in an old wives' tale. I told her that stereotypes are the mark of an ignoramus. She wasn't pleased...and I didn't give a fuck.
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Sorry you're being handled so clumsily. Fortunately, they're revealing flakey behavior and/or a lack of interest right from the get-go, and this saves you time and energy. Makes it super easy to holler "Next!" and move on.
No doubt, but I'm still tired of my time being wasted
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Funny story, I was talking with this girl through tinder and we agreed to meet up. Shortly after that a good friend of mine said she was in the hospital, so I had to bail on the date because I wanted to visit my friend

I'm sure she thought I was blowing her off because it's been two weeks and complete radio silence

on other news, going on a first date on tuesday. hyped about it because the girl actually seems like a chill person :woo:
Don't get hyped just yet. Chances are, she's another clown. Good luck!
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on other news, going on a first date on tuesday. hyped about it because the girl actually seems like a chill person :woo:
Or is really good at acting...
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Or is really good at acting...
They are all actresses to a degree
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Update?
Things have calmed down. She explained that she let her feelings get the best of her. She said she loves me a lot and that she doesn't want me to die.

Keep in mind, I'm not doing anything out of the ordinary to increase my chances of dying/getting killed.

Are all girls crazy?
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I know she's a widow, but this situation hurt me. I went from enjoying her company to wondering if we should break up.

I'm going to continue trying to fix things, but I'm not opposed to ending things if it gets too crazy. I went through a lot with my ex and I don't want to hang around for years to see if things improve.
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