[Cyn-BMW]

Originally Posted by Sara

You’re fucking disgusting

Two women together is not disgusting. It’s actually a beautiful thing!

[Joekerr]

Originally Posted by Cyn-BMW

Wow, that’s heavy. At least she didn’t shove a shotgun in your mouth. That’s what happened to one of my friends. She was a firefighter, till that happened. They’re still married though. I guess it was a shotgun anniversary!

Ok, I gotta admit, little curious - so this female friend was a firefighter and she got a shotgun in the mouth by the dude and still married him? And they're happy? Tell more.

Originally Posted by Cyn-BMW

Oh for fucks sake. I have no time for a nappy. I have to go to the gym. But, I have a back door date coming up. I’ll tell you guys about it later. Omar, is very excited!

Muhahaha, wait, are you saying you are as bi as these "girlfriends" of yours??

Hold up, wait...now I don't want to be racist and all, but you said "Omar". Now that could definitely be middle eastern - please tell me "Omar" was one of these "rebels" that you were "keeping an eye on" with your Israeli Defense Force friend with the blue eyes that moved in with you. Please. You captured him right? Singlehandedly?

[///d]

Originally Posted by Tambohamilton

Fucking hell. What are people's problems with Cyn?? You don't have to like him, but for feck's sake, you can all stop filling up the dating thread with either trying to prove he's a dickhead or that he doesn't live the life he says he does. Dull AF.


Now.
A couple of weeks ago I said the words "we're done" to my partner. And I was referring to our relationship. That was a gnarly day. In the evening she started messaging me on WhatsApp... "Is this really what you want?" and stuff. Well, that chat culminated in her telling me she wants to die. While that's never ever where I wanted it to go, or what I wanted to hear, it gave me a shred of comfort; we're both on the same level, somewhere. The next few days were a lot better, as we seemed to be just a lot better aligned...but since then we've slipped back to give or take where we were before. And for various reasons this really shows no sign of changing.

I love her dearly. We have 2 young kids. We live together in the house we own together. I work and she's full time parent. Staying sucks but how could I leave? What gives?

Well, Sara is going steady so this thread has become an off topic thread. Actually, it kind of has been for a while.

I've always had such a problem with the wanting to die or suicide threats during breakups. On one hand it makes me not want to talk to them because it's usually just a empty desperate and selfish attempt to get attention through guilt tripping, but on the other hand I never want to chance that it's not just an empty threat and see someone actually take their life.

[Mein11]

What a fucking train wreck this place is.

[vreihen16]

Originally Posted by Mein11

What a fucking train wreck this place is.

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[ryan stewart]

Originally Posted by ///d

Well, Sara is going steady so this thread has become an off topic thread. Actually, it kind of has been for a while.

I've always had such a problem with the wanting to die or suicide threats during breakups. On one hand it makes me not want to talk to them because it's usually just a empty desperate and selfish attempt to get attention through guilt tripping, but on the other hand I never want to chance that it's not just an empty threat and see someone actually take their life.

Its been mostly a non sequitur.

There is only ONE response to a suicide threat: Call the police for a welfare check. Dont text/call back, dont go there, dont budge an inch. Just call the police and tell them someone is threatening suicide and where to find them.

The police show up. If the person is a legit danger to themselves then the police can have them evaluated. If its just a ploy then the person learned not to fuck around. Either way your conscience is clear.

[M5Rick]

Originally Posted by vreihen16

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I went on that ride and survived

[Sedan_Clan]

Originally Posted by ryan stewart

Its been mostly a non sequitur.

There is only ONE response to a suicide threat: Call the police for a welfare check. Dont text/call back, dont go there, dont budge an inch. Just call the police and tell them someone is threatening suicide and where to find them.

The police show up. If the person is a legit danger to themselves then the police can have them evaluated. If its just a ploy then the person learned not to fuck around. Either way your conscience is clear.

Good advice! I second this. We'll place them on a 72-hour 5150 hold and hope they seek help following release. If the person meets the criteria of being a danger to themselves, a danger to others or gravely disabled, we can force the hold. It sucks though, because law enforcement interaction isn't what people considering suicide need……but we are tasked to deal with those situations anyway.

[ryan stewart]

Originally Posted by Sedan_Clan

Good advice! I second this. We'll place them on a 72-hour 5150 hold and hope they seek help following release. If the person meets the criteria of being a danger to themselves, a danger to others or gravely disabled, we can force the hold. It sucks though, because law enforcement interaction isn't what people considering suicide need……but we are tasked to deal with those situations anyway.

That is why just lumping everything under the slogan of "defund" the police was such a bad idea. I think it was Houston's chief that said it correctly. You average officer isnt equipped to handle every situation, we should be dedicating funding in our police forces to other disciplines to work in tandem. Like how police show up to a fire to secure the scene, direct traffic, etc. There should be mental health experts in the department that go on-scene with an officer (who is there as a contingency, obviously things CAN get dangerous, especially with domestics).

But we work within the system we have, and the safest thing for YOU is to call for the welfare check. You have done your duty and, if they are lying, the police showing up and the threat of being put on a psych hold should prevent them from using that lie again.

[Cyn-BMW]

Originally Posted by Joekerr

Ok, I gotta admit, little curious - so this female friend was a firefighter and she got a shotgun in the mouth by the dude and still married him? And they're happy? Tell more.



Muhahaha, wait, are you saying you are as bi as these "girlfriends" of yours??

Hold up, wait...now I don't want to be racist and all, but you said "Omar". Now that could definitely be middle eastern - please tell me "Omar" was one of these "rebels" that you were "keeping an eye on" with your Israeli Defense Force friend with the blue eyes that moved in with you. Please. You captured him right? Singlehandedly?

Lol, no no, I’m not bi. I’ll explain that and Omar later. Right now I have a long day of frolicking, playing and training. I’ll get back to you guys later.

[Cyn-BMW]

I know you guys are going to miss me. So here is a picture of our new Rottweiler puppy, Mr. Tank. He’s going for a play date. Dang dog gets more play dates than I do!

[Dang3r]

Originally Posted by Cyn-BMW

Two women together is not disgusting. It’s actually a beautiful thing!

Scissor on scissor rattles - heard it from a friend

[Cyn-BMW]

Originally Posted by Dang3r

Scissor on scissor rattles - heard it from a friend

Or an XYZ sandwich. Me being XYZ!

[upstatedoc]

Originally Posted by Cyn-BMW

I know you guys are going to miss me. So here is a picture of our new Rottweiler puppy, Mr. Tank. He’s going for a play date. Dang dog gets more play dates than I do!

"Our" ?

And we are about the same age. Can you share?

[Cyn-BMW]

Originally Posted by upstatedoc

"Our" ?

And we are about the same age. Can you share?

You’re just going to have to go back and read. I can’t keep everyone up-to-date.

[King Rudi]

This is officially where captain abandons ship. I don't even like coming in here anymore. I get a little more repulsed with each passing day. This shit is worse than Facebook.

[Cyn-BMW]

Originally Posted by King Rudi

This is officially where captain abandons ship. I don't even like coming in here anymore. I get a little more repulsed with each passing day. This shit is worse than Facebook.

Someone had to shake things up around here. Sara’s some ole, same ole was getting, well it was getting old!

[Cyn-BMW]

Originally Posted by Joekerr

Ok, I gotta admit, little curious - so this female friend was a firefighter and she got a shotgun in the mouth by the dude and still married him? And they're happy? Tell more.



Muhahaha, wait, are you saying you are as bi as these "girlfriends" of yours??

Hold up, wait...now I don't want to be racist and all, but you said "Omar". Now that could definitely be middle eastern - please tell me "Omar" was one of these "rebels" that you were "keeping an eye on" with your Israeli Defense Force friend with the blue eyes that moved in with you. Please. You captured him right? Singlehandedly?

I’m not really sure. I don’t really know anymore than that. They weren’t close friends. I just know that they are still together.

No, not bi. I’ll tell you about my backdoor date when I have more time.

So Omar, I never thought about where she got that name. But, that makes perfect sense. So, the first time GF #1 and I hooked up, we were in bed under the covers. She felt down there, pulled the covers back, looked at it and went, “Oh my!”. Then she said, “oh my, my marvelous cock”. She said, “I’m going to call it Omar”. I said, well, it not yours, that’s mine”. She looked at me and she said, “oh no honey, after tonight, that is mine and don’t you ever forget that”. I’m thinking WTF! I said, “I don’t know why you’re naming it. It’s not that big of a deal”. She said, “no it’s not big. But, it sure is nice looking”. Then I said, “aren’t they all kinda the same”? After that all I heard was gagging and spitting for the next hour!

[Sedan_Clan]

Originally Posted by ryan stewart

That is why just lumping everything under the slogan of "defund" the police was such a bad idea. I think it was Houston's chief that said it correctly. You average officer isnt equipped to handle every situation, we should be dedicating funding in our police forces to other disciplines to work in tandem. Like how police show up to a fire to secure the scene, direct traffic, etc. There should be mental health experts in the department that go on-scene with an officer (who is there as a contingency, obviously things CAN get dangerous, especially with domestics).

But we work within the system we have, and the safest thing for YOU is to call for the welfare check. You have done your duty and, if they are lying, the police showing up and the threat of being put on a psych hold should prevent them from using that lie again.

We actually have that. It's called our Mental Evaluation Team (M.E.T.). It consists of a deputy and a psychologist who respond to certain mental crisis calls in the field. Most progressive departments have something similar.

[Cyn-BMW]

Originally Posted by Joekerr

Muhahaha, wait, are you saying you are as bi as these "girlfriends" of yours??

Ok, I have a break between debauchery and training. So, let me explain the back door date. I have to keep this relevant, you know. So, GF #3 is the quiet one. She works, goes to college. She participates in the fun, once in a while. It seems to be a cycle thing with her. Which means, I probably have to be very careful about getting her prego. That’s the last thing I want at my age. Anyway, this was a real shock to me, coming form her. The other day, she’s like, “you know, when you back door GF # 1, it is such a turn on for me. Would you do that to me”? I’m like, “ok, but we should probably ease into that.” Pun not intended. But, it was funny! She’s like, “ok, whatever you think is best”. I’m like, “ok.” So, we’ll see. I’ll probably have to wait till she’s horny again.

[Sara]

Well, it’s been a good run.

Thanks for all the advice, guys. I hope it works for my current guy. 8 weeks now! Go us If not, I don’t plan on revisiting this thread. It’s taken a turn for the worse and I can’t bring myself to waste my spare time on this anymore.

[Cyn-BMW]

Typical woman, finds a guy and dumps everyone else! It was ok, when it was all about her!