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      09-13-2018, 03:19 PM   #419
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I suppose I'll never meet my lady then since all my LTRs have come from online dating. I suck at life.
eh, just have 3-4 "stages" for your lady friends is what i'd say
stage 0: one night stand
self explanatory
stage 1: hookup partner
literally all you do is sleep together, no exclusivity or any "time spending" out of sex
stage 2: friends with benefits
do many things together, literally friends but with sex as well
stage 3: LTR/GF/whatever you want to call it
stage 2 evolves into this, do not think stage 0/1 will immediately become gf material that quickly

though i get the vibe you know exactly what i'm referencing...
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eh, just have 3-4 "stages" for your lady friends is what i'd say
stage 0: one night stand
self explanatory
stage 1: hookup partner
literally all you do is sleep together, no exclusivity or any "time spending" out of sex
stage 2: friends with benefits
do many things together, literally friends but with sex as well
stage 3: LTR/GF/whatever you want to call it
stage 2 evolves into this, do not think stage 0/1 will immediately become gf material that quickly

though i get the vibe you know exactly what i'm referencing...
I wasn't talking about that stuff, I was talking about where I meet women.
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To be honest, in this area of the rural south it's nothing but a bunch of overweight government assistance advantage taking, low income, uneducated, entitled women who think they should be worshiped along with supporting their 5 kids whose 3 separated daddy's are in jail for manufacturing methamphetamine or not paying child support.
Ah, I see you've met my first wife.
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I wasn't talking about that stuff, I was talking about where I meet women.
ahhhh i see

to be honest women are hard and i used to think "you cant live with them, cant live without them" was just an exaggeration by unhappy husbands. more of those creatures i meet the more i realize how true that is, like jesus
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      09-13-2018, 03:38 PM   #423
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Dating in today's society is much like porn auditions if it is to be done correctly.



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I honestly found that internet dating sites lowered my self esteem. You are putting yourself out there in hopes that someone will bite, when no one does you begin to wonder what is wrong with me. Once I shut down all my dating sites/apps I felt better about myself. To be honest, in this area of the rural south it's nothing but a bunch of overweight government assistance advantage taking, low income, uneducated, entitled women who think they should be worshiped along with supporting their 5 kids whose 3 separated daddy's are in jail for manufacturing methamphetamine or not paying child support. Not even worth the time....and to think, these are the people that allowing you to feel bad about yourself. Nah....personally I'm better than that.

I learned to adapt and become in control of my emotions. I learned to not want what I thought I wanted and redirect my focus elsewhere. Kind of like shooting the hostage type mentality.


it's nothing but a bunch of overweight government assistance advantage taking, low income, uneducated, entitled women who think they should be worshiped along with supporting their 5 kids whose 3 separated daddy's are in jail for manufacturing methamphetamine or not paying child support

sooo dead. like girl has three kids and expects you to be accepting, then shames you for it.

Fuckin shamers. Get shamed for everything now adays. People soft af
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To be honest, in this area of the rural south it's nothing but a bunch of overweight government assistance advantage taking, low income, uneducated, entitled women who think they should be worshiped along with supporting their 5 kids whose 3 separated daddy's are in jail for manufacturing methamphetamine or not paying child support.
Ah, I see you've met my first wife.
There were several posts made on here that made me wonder if some of you were dealing with my second wife.
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it's nothing but a bunch of overweight government assistance advantage taking, low income, uneducated, entitled women who think they should be worshiped along with supporting their 5 kids whose 3 separated daddy's are in jail for manufacturing methamphetamine or not paying child support

sooo dead. like girl has three kids and expects you to be accepting, then shames you for it.

Fuckin shamers. Get shamed for everything now adays. People soft af
people soft af because today there are many issues within the legal system and how stuff is treated/punished. many of these "issues" arose because people stopped being rational and started being emotional...

and once you can call the cops on someone for being offended shit's out the window anyway...

started out small, with "healthy at every size". then one by one it grew into what we face today
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it's nothing but a bunch of overweight government assistance advantage taking, low income, uneducated, entitled women who think they should be worshiped along with supporting their 5 kids whose 3 separated daddy's are in jail for manufacturing methamphetamine or not paying child support

sooo dead. like girl has three kids and expects you to be accepting, then shames you for it.

Fuckin shamers. Get shamed for everything now adays. People soft af
I love the ones that have 47 kids & no job then tell me to "fuck off" when I tell them to stop stealing my tax dollars.
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I love the ones that have 47 kids & no job then tell me to "fuck off" when I tell them to stop stealing my tax dollars.
Of course that's going to be their response. They didn't get where they are by be upstanding members of society. Fuck manners let alone do anything for themselves besides getting neck tattoos.
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There were several posts made on here that made me wonder if some of you were dealing with my second wife.
Dude, you're supposed to learn after the first one. The starter wife. Second wife should be a breeze.
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I love the ones that have 47 kids & no job then tell me to "fuck off" when I tell them to stop stealing my tax dollars.
I really want to hit a bar and just sit at the next booth and listen to your conversations with these chicks. You sound hilariously brutal.
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long day, successful one too... ran into a friend from freshmen earlier today, havent seen her last year because she studied abroad.

anyway she invites me to study at her place even though we have no classes in common - see you boys soon

i love college
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long day, successful one too... ran into a friend from freshmen earlier today, havent seen her last year because she studied abroad.

anyway she invites me to study at her place even though we have no classes in common - see you boys soon

i love college
Enjoy it while you can lol. College sucked for me I worked full-time and commuted.

Get it out of your system now so you are ready for the workplace where looking at someone wrong can result in a harassment charge.
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Enjoy it while you can lol. College sucked for me I worked full-time and commuted.

Get it out of your system now so you are ready for the workplace where looking at someone wrong can result in a harassment charge.
i see i haven't been as slick with my ninja edit as i thought.

but yeah definitely, not trying to catch a case... i have this and next year to enjoy it, then its workplace castration
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I really want to hit a bar and just sit at the next booth and listen to your conversations with these chicks. You sound hilariously brutal.
Truth hurts! Someone has to start fixing this snowflake society we now live in.

Also, I don't meet those types in person. I'm not desperate.
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Get it out of your system now so you are ready for the workplace where looking at someone wrong can result in a harassment charge.
I cannot second this statement enough. It's 1,000,000% accurate.

The little company I work for has gone so far to appease these sorts of people that we are now empowering and enabling them. it's ridiculous. One particularly troublesome young woman, who we have dubbed the "virtue signaler" is a freakin' lawsuit ready to happen. She's very attractive and knows it but she's also in a relationship with a woman, primarily socializes with gay men, and has serious issues with heterosexual men who she has called "repugnant" for their objectification of women on more than one occasion that I have personally overheard. Needless to say I steer clear of her. I don't look at her, I don't talk to her, unless she approaches me needing something. otherwise I keep my distance. Well apparently she complained to HR that she thought I was upset with her or didn't like her because I'm not friendly and open with her. WTF!? There's no winning with this one and there's a bazillion more of them just like her out there in offices across the country, just waiting to F you up. Anyway, I'm in a management position with my company and thus the stakes are high. HR knows all about this woman and just brushed off her concerns, though they thankfully alerted me. I told HR my concerns and that I refuse to be alone in my office or a conference room with her. Any time she sets up a meeting with me I forward the invite to her manager, who is a woman, and require her to join us. Gotta cover my backside.
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I cannot second this statement enough. It's 1,000,000% accurate.

The little company I work for has gone so far to appease these sorts of people that we are now empowering and enabling them. it's ridiculous. One particularly troublesome young woman, who we have dubbed the "virtue signaler" is a freakin' lawsuit ready to happen. She's very attractive and knows it but she's also in a relationship with a woman, primarily socializes with gay men, and has serious issues with heterosexual men who she has called "repugnant" for their objectification of women on more than one occasion that I have personally overheard. Needless to say I steer clear of her. I don't look at her, I don't talk to her, unless she approaches me needing something. otherwise I keep my distance. Well apparently she complained to HR that she thought I was upset with her or didn't like her because I'm not friendly and open with her. WTF!? There's no winning with this one and there's a bazillion more of them just like her out there in offices across the country, just waiting to F you up. Anyway, I'm in a management position with my company and thus the stakes are high. HR knows all about this woman and just brushed off her concerns, though they thankfully alerted me. I told HR my concerns and that I refuse to be alone in my office or a conference room with her. Any time she sets up a meeting with me I forward the invite to her manager, who is a woman, and require her to join us. Gotta cover my backside.
Can we put all these clowns on an island & blow it up?
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Can you share more about your story?

Recently got out of a relationship with a BPD person, I believe a narcissist, and I left without understanding anything. Took me over a month to get to a reasonably sane level.
Most people canít comprehend the level of crazy that borderline personality brings. In order to date one you have to be very hard on them and never full emotionally commit.

Iím still dating mine.

She has crazy episodes but never directs them towards me. She knows how that would end. Lots of self harm scars. Suicide threats and attempts. Downloaded an app to translate her words to her cat. Reckless bevahior with tattoos and shopping. Always skipping school. Zero relationship with her father. Unbelievable narcissistic episodes.

Itís a real treat to watch sometimes.

Letís me do absolutely ridiculous things to her in bed and sheís very hot which is why Iím in. Very loyal as well, which is unusual for BPD.
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Dude, you're supposed to learn after the first one. The starter wife. Second wife should be a breeze.
I learn something from all of them. Each is a different experience all it's own. I learned everything I wanted that I wasn't getting from the first one, the second one taught me to read in between the lines of getting everything I wanted but not accepting the things I didn't want. I got more than I bargained for with the second one. I loved the wife, just not the other 42 personalities that came with her.

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I cannot second this statement enough. It's 1,000,000% accurate.

The little company I work for has gone so far to appease these sorts of people that we are now empowering and enabling them. it's ridiculous. One particularly troublesome young woman, who we have dubbed the "virtue signaler" is a freakin' lawsuit ready to happen. She's very attractive and knows it but she's also in a relationship with a woman, primarily socializes with gay men, and has serious issues with heterosexual men who she has called "repugnant" for their objectification of women on more than one occasion that I have personally overheard. Needless to say I steer clear of her. I don't look at her, I don't talk to her, unless she approaches me needing something. otherwise I keep my distance. Well apparently she complained to HR that she thought I was upset with her or didn't like her because I'm not friendly and open with her. WTF!? There's no winning with this one and there's a bazillion more of them just like her out there in offices across the country, just waiting to F you up. Anyway, I'm in a management position with my company and thus the stakes are high. HR knows all about this woman and just brushed off her concerns, though they thankfully alerted me. I told HR my concerns and that I refuse to be alone in my office or a conference room with her. Any time she sets up a meeting with me I forward the invite to her manager, who is a woman, and require her to join us. Gotta cover my backside.
Wow....the fact that even avoiding confrontation with her causes a big enough issue in her mind to take it to HR says everything. That's crazy!!!

I have a tendency to keep my head down at work and not associate with anyone in particular as not to be viewed by other employees as being associated with a clique. This will cause serious issues in what I do. Where I work is so clique-y it's a lot like a prison yard. If I joke around with someone and then work on a project in a department where employees don't like the person I was seen joking with, the other employees will do everything in their power to wreck what I'm working on. This goes with management here as well, they're actually worse than the production employees. They will intentionally not approve projects that need completed for production/financial/compliance/environmental reasons just because they are upset with you about completely unrelated issues. Craziness. "Oh you took the stand of xyz on this topic? Well I can't approve project abc because of this."

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Most people can’t comprehend the level of crazy that borderline personality brings. In order to date one you have to be very hard on them and never full emotionally commit.

I’m still dating mine.

She has crazy episodes but never directs them towards me. She knows how that would end. Lots of self harm scars. Suicide threats and attempts. Downloaded an app to translate her words to her cat. Reckless bevahior with tattoos and shopping. Always skipping school. Zero relationship with her father. Unbelievable narcissistic episodes.

It’s a real treat to watch sometimes.

Let’s me do absolutely ridiculous things to her in bed and she’s very hot which is why I’m in. Very loyal as well, which is unusual for BPD.
I can relate. The second wife was eat up with BPD. Basically anything that you couldn't handle is exactly what she would do. She would make plans to do things she knew I would be upset about, then intentionally start a fight with me over something minute; escalate it so she could pretend to be so mad that she would leave then go do what she wanted and use it as an excuse that she did this because she was mad about the argument. Just like yours, she was ridiculously hot, a great cook and the sex was beyond intense but you have a odd one with the loyal bit; most are not this way. In fact, it's almost unbelievable. Good luck....you ultimately know where this will goo though.

btw.....downloaded and app to communicate with her cat????? I bet the sex is amazing!
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I can relate. The second wife was eat up with BPD. Basically anything that you couldn't handle is exactly what she would do. She would make plans to do things she knew I would be upset about, then intentionally start a fight with me over something minute; escalate it so she could pretend to be so mad that she would leave then go do what she wanted and use it as an excuse that she did this because she was mad about the argument. Just like yours, she was ridiculously hot, a great cook and the sex was beyond intense but you have a odd one with the loyal bit; most are not this way. In fact, it's almost unbelievable. Good luck....you ultimately know where this will goo though.

btw.....downloaded and app to communicate with her cat????? I bet the sex is amazing!
Wow canít imagine being married to one. Sounds stressful when thereís money involved. And holy shet if thereís kids.

For mine, Granted she is 18. Thereís an immaturity factor too.

Another few classic signs:

Loves to dye her hair or cut her hair differently
Very up and down relationship with friends and mom
Told me she loves me the third day I knew her
Watches porn a lot
Hates her own race (chinese) in terms of looks
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