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Seems like one of the biggest issue with some of these fitness challenges is they're meant for short term results. In reality it needs to be a lifestyle change that's sustainable, otherwise you just end up putting the weight back on once the challenge ends. I know that doesn't help your situation - but that's my observation. Only thing I can think of is positive reinforcement. Might sound childish, but it works on adults too. Express excitement and happiness when she does something healthy (whether it be physical exercise or eating something healthy).
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This is hard. How is your relationship overall? When something has bothered you in the past and you've had to talk with her does she get defensive or is she good with communication?
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Good luck.... you're gonna need it.
In all seriousness, it's a topic most of us have dealt with in the past. Most of us were smart enough to not poke the hive. I'm assuming your relationship is solid and there are no underlying issues. Assuming that, you need to find something to motivate her. Praising her when she exercises or eats healthy isn't the way to motivate her. Do you have something (exercise - outdoor activity) that you would like to start doing? If so, talk with her and tell her you'd like some help getting into the activity and see if she has any interest in doing it with you. If she's not interested, buy a bigger couch and bigger TV and tell her to move over and join her watching TV. |
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Honestly you should be able to talk about living a healthier lifestyle with her without having to mention fatness. It's not just about muffin tops - you live healthier and you feel better in general.
I've never once called my wife fat (she's not, but you know what I mean)... but I do encourage healthier eating and exercise for the sake of being healthy.
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No kids together? Go find a younger , in shape Yoga teacher😉🤣 JK🤷🏽*♂️
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Had a first date with someone. I went in feeling like this woman has big potential to be my wife.
But, so did she. She is a few years older than me (31 vs 24) and just got out of a 9 year relationship, and she's made it very clear that she's looking to get married and start a family. I would like to know her better before jumping into this head first. It really felt like my priority is finding the right-ish person to have kids with, whereas she's kinda looking for a person to have kids with. Otherwise very nice woman. 6'1, super hot, super nice. "mom of the group" sort of girl, definitely no where near as a shithead as i am I don't think I'm seeing her a second time. As much as this is a HUGE redflag, it is not my choosing to not see each other again, she said she is uncomfortable with the age gap. In all honesty I'd love to go on a few more dates and know her a bit better beyond a few weeks of texting and a 3.5hr date to see if I can see myself marrying her. |
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Do not go there. If you get into this relationship, you'll eventually find that she doesn't actually want you, and you're stuck in the relationship because you co-own the house and have 2 kids who like having 2 parents simultaneously... |
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Wait no I want another tall brunette girl with flying red flags, I miss my exes
But in all seriousness, this isn't what I'm looking for. She's nice and hot and I'd love to have a summer fling with her but I'm making grad school plans, not white picket fence plans. I'm feeling like a "mutual ghosting" is the exit plan here |
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I've met gals who wanted that picket fence life so bad they really didn't care who they were with. One gal I knew years ago said she wanted a kid so bad she was going to start going to parties and start sleeping with anyone until she got pregnant. She didn't care who the dad was or if he even knew about the child, she just wanted a kid. She followed through and ended up pregnant after a party and is a single mom with a 7 or 8 year old now. Not sure if the father even knows tbh.
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You guys avoiding commitment, time is gonna bit you on the arse hard. If you find the right girl, get it done, it's never too early, just find the right girl.
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Easier said than done...
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You know what? The older I get, the less optical attraction is the later trigger, but just the sum of things we wouldn't arguing each other counts. Times' too short for bothering when your half life has passed.
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You get to raise your kids in a stable home with a loving mother to your children. Just do what I did, marry a woman that makes more than you do.
If you want kids, as I have said before here, leaving them too late is something you will regret. Middle age comes at you hard and small kids make it way harder. |
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