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All she had to do was kindly say, "Hey guy! I appreciate you taking the time to come talk to me and my friends. That was really nice of you, but unfortunately I'm/we're not interested. I really hope you and your friends have a great rest of your evening."
Exactly! But in reality what really happens is this.
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Exactly! But in reality what really happens is this.
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All she had to do was kindly say, "Hey guy! I appreciate you taking the time to come talk to me and my friends. That was really nice of you, but unfortunately I'm/we're not interested. I really hope you and your friends have a great rest of your evening."
Exactly! But in reality what really happens is this.
So wait, if you tell her you own an M3/4 she doesn't just get naked? Ba ha ha ha. Just kidding
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I've never met anyone in public, or really pursued anyone that way. It's always been in the "right" environment whether online, at a social gathering, workplace/school, through friends, etc.

Walking up to a random chick at a store and asking for her number seems like it won't work 99% of the time, even if you are a super attractive guy with good intentions. Maybe I'm biased as a millennial, and also a New Englander, but it just seems socially abnormal, which is a turn off.

I'm not saying I automatically assume anyone who approaches me is a weirdo, but even as a 31 year old physically fit guy I've had way too many strange encounters with odd people approaching me or following me I can't imagine how a woman would feel getting approached by random guys.
You'd be amazed at what works. Having the confidence, but not being cocky, to approach a woman you don't know, to be genuine and sincere and start a conversation isn't for everyone. The other side to this is knowing who you can approach and who you can't. If you had told me at a younger age that women like to be smacked, choked and have their hair pulled, I would think you were crazy. As a man, think of what you'd never imagine to work....then try that. You'll be surprised. Just make sure it isn't too much and it isn't disrespectful, until you get her in bed.

The secret behind this is, you have to be a certain kind of man to pull this off. I've heard all women say it. A compliment from the right guy will make your day.
My brother from another mother. We were cut from the same fabric. Allow me to share a little silly story….


….so, most guys are scared of rejection. I find it weak to be honest; you can't pull every chick you meet. Anyway, we had just left the gym and had stopped by Ralph's to buy something. A few buddies were really attracted to this woman, but were scared to approach her. I offered to initiate the conversation so one of them could piggyback and try to make the connection. They declined! Shortly thereafter, we're in the aisle and the same woman - who was really attractive and who had presumably been in the same gym we were in based on her attire - comes walking toward us and she had a broom and a few items in her hand. Me being me, and one who never passes up an opportunity when I'm single, I made eye contact with her and said, "Soooo, were you coming to sweep me off of my feet?!?" She cracked up laughing and ultimately I got her number and…..the inevitable happened. It's that simple if you can think on your feet and not worry about someone declining your advance(s).
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So wait, if you tell her you own an M3/4 she doesn't just get naked? Ba ha ha ha. Just kidding
I've actually had women assume I'm "just another douchebag" when they find out I have a BMW, and mine is old.
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All she had to do was kindly say, "Hey guy! I appreciate you taking the time to come talk to me and my friends. That was really nice of you, but unfortunately I'm/we're not interested. I really hope you and your friends have a great rest of your evening."
Exactly! But in reality what really happens is this.
So wait, if you tell her you own an M3/4 she doesn't just get naked? Ba ha ha ha. Just kidding
In Sara's case he'd need to say that he just flew in for dinner and would be flying back home since he has a private landing strip on 20 acres of property.
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In Sara's case he'd need to say that he just flew in for dinner and would be flying back home since he has a private landing strip on 20 acres of property.
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My brother from another mother. We were cut from the same fabric. Allow me to share a little silly story….


….so, most guys are scared of rejection. I find it weak to be honest; you can't pull every chick you meet. Anyway, we had just left the gym and had stopped by Ralph's to buy something. A few buddies were really attracted to this woman, but were scared to approach her. I offered to initiate the conversation so one of them could piggyback and try to make the connection. They declined! Shortly thereafter, we're in the aisle and the same woman - who was really attractive and who had presumably been in the same gym we were in based on her attire - comes walking toward us and she had a broom and a few items in her hand. Me being me, and one who never passes up an opportunity when I'm single, I made eye contact with her and said, "Soooo, were you coming to sweep me off of my feet?!?" She cracked up laughing and ultimately I got her number and…..the inevitable happened. It's that simple if you can think on your feet and not worry about someone declining your advance(s).
This right here. Damn social media and dating apps ruined peoples ability to communicate in person on the fly. Charm and wit account for a lot. No one knows how to interact in person anymore. Everything needs to be scripted and edited. Just be yourself!
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This right here. Damn social media and dating apps ruined peoples ability to communicate in person on the fly. Charm and wit account for a lot. No one knows how to interact in person anymore. Everything needs to be scripted and edited. Just be yourself!
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My brother from another mother. We were cut from the same fabric. Allow me to share a little silly story….


….so, most guys are scared of rejection. I find it weak to be honest; you can't pull every chick you meet. Anyway, we had just left the gym and had stopped by Ralph's to buy something. A few buddies were really attracted to this woman, but were scared to approach her. I offered to initiate the conversation so one of them could piggyback and try to make the connection. They declined! Shortly thereafter, we're in the aisle and the same woman - who was really attractive and who had presumably been in the same gym we were in based on her attire - comes walking toward us and she had a broom and a few items in her hand. Me being me, and one who never passes up an opportunity when I'm single, I made eye contact with her and said, "Soooo, were you coming to sweep me off of my feet?!?" She cracked up laughing and ultimately I got her number and…..the inevitable happened. It's that simple if you can think on your feet and not worry about someone declining your advance(s).
Exactly!

Kind of the same story. Manager's meeting almost 15 years ago. Regionals and Store Managers all invited to a conference. There was one really attractive sales trainer. When we took break, we began chatting, I ended up with her number. When we took a break for lunch, all the male managers were taking secret pictures of her and texting about her. When they brought me in on the conversation and asked why I wasn't a part of the text conversation, my response was "You guys are texting back about forth about the girl; I'm texting the girl." She came to my hotel room that night and almost got both of us fired, but legend status was achieved that night. Having the confidence to strike up a conversation is sometimes all it takes.
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This right here. Damn social media and dating apps ruined peoples ability to communicate in person on the fly. Charm and wit account for a lot. No one knows how to interact in person anymore. Everything needs to be scripted and edited. Just be yourself!
Last time I went out to dinner, there was a couple at the table across from us and they were texting on their phones the whole time. I don't think they said a word to each other. What's the point of going out to dinner then? If I go out with someone I want to enjoy their company.
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In Sara's case he'd need to say that he just flew in for dinner and would be flying back home since he has a private landing strip on 20 acres of property.
In truth, I think the drama caused recently by that guy was actually due to the fact that the landing strip wasn't private...
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JFC….this endless circle of advice is pointless.

Literally a regurgitation of the exact same direction from 3 years ago….
I'm just here to be entertained and play amateur psychologist.
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This right here. Damn social media and dating apps ruined peoples ability to communicate in person on the fly. Charm and wit account for a lot. No one knows how to interact in person anymore. Everything needs to be scripted and edited. Just be yourself!
Last time I went out to dinner, there was a couple at the table across from us and they were texting on their phones the whole time. I don't think they said a word to each other. What's the point of going out to dinner then? If I go out with someone I want to enjoy their company.
That phenomenon annoys me. I see it with couples and families alike. Like you, I've watched couples and families on cellular phones, worried about posting on social media and/or texting others, and not engaging each other at all. I'm the type where I will turn off every notification when I'm with a woman. I want to be fully immersed in her.
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In truth, I think the drama caused recently by that guy was actually due to the fact that the landing strip wasn't private...
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In Sara's case he'd need to say that he just flew in for dinner and would be flying back home since he has a private landing strip on 20 acres of property.
Does she then respond to him with a "I have a landing strip at home you can fly back on"? Couldn't help myself
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Perfect example of a gentleman. Just saying...

I haven't met this guy yet. We'll go on a date eventually sometime, maybe next week. He saw me and walked past me about an hour ago when I was walking with a girlfriend. He did not call my name, he did not approach us. Classic gentleman. Now I have a lot more respect for him for not approaching us and catching me off guard and I'm looking forward to meeting him just bit more now.
What does that even mean, catching you off guard? You don't know what to say unless you have time to think about it? I'm not being catty, I'm honestly curious.
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Perfect example of a gentleman. Just saying...

I haven't met this guy yet. We'll go on a date eventually sometime, maybe next week. He saw me and walked past me about an hour ago when I was walking with a girlfriend. He did not call my name, he did not approach us. Classic gentleman. Now I have a lot more respect for him for not approaching us and catching me off guard and I'm looking forward to meeting him just bit more now.
What does that even mean, catching you off guard? You don't know what to say unless you have time to think about it? I'm not being catty, I'm honestly curious.
In on this. I'd much rather have someone come up to me in person as opposed to walking past me then message me after. Backwards world we live in.
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Perfect example of a gentleman. Just saying...

I haven't met this guy yet. We'll go on a date eventually sometime, maybe next week. He saw me and walked past me about an hour ago when I was walking with a girlfriend. He did not call my name, he did not approach us. Classic gentleman. Now I have a lot more respect for him for not approaching us and catching me off guard and I'm looking forward to meeting him just bit more now.
What does that even mean, catching you off guard? You don't know what to say unless you have time to think about it? I'm not being catty, I'm honestly curious.
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Perfect example of a gentleman. Just saying...

I haven't met this guy yet. We'll go on a date eventually sometime, maybe next week. He saw me and walked past me about an hour ago when I was walking with a girlfriend. He did not call my name, he did not approach us. Classic gentleman. Now I have a lot more respect for him for not approaching us and catching me off guard and I'm looking forward to meeting him just bit more now.
What does that even mean, catching you off guard? You don't know what to say unless you have time to think about it? I'm not being catty, I'm honestly curious.
In on this. I'd much rather have someone come up to me in person as opposed to walking past me then message me after. Backwards world we live in.
Yeah, I'm confounded. I don't know how that makes him more gentlemanly.
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In on this. I'd much rather have someone come up to me in person as opposed to walking past me then message me after. Backwards world we live in.
I agree! It’s kinda creepy.
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