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      01-29-2020, 02:34 PM   #5149
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Curious, do you guys usually dress up pretty nicely when you meet for the first time or do you just stay moderate and average dressed?

Also, how are y'all determining whether to go for a coffee or for an actual dinner lol?
I try to shoot for happy hour because
1- i probably could qualify as an alcoholic
2- chances are, she could too (college campus).

Used to go on coffee dates, but they tore down my favorite coffee shop. I loved going there because I'd try to have the date when one of my buddies was working (free coffee), and if shit hit the fan 95% chance someone else I knew would be around so I'd try to pull them in to the conversation and get her to leave

Was big on dinners, but didn't take for my buddies to realize I was probably saved as "free food" on the girls' phones so that ended quickly. :I
Ahh. Understood. Not too big on drinking myself, so I'd hope she would respect just having a meal without having to go for happy hour lol. She seems pretty nice and chill, so figured I'll give it a shot.

I hope I'm not going to be saved as the 'free meal' as I will catch on that pretty quick lmao!
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Ahh. Understood. Not too big on drinking myself, so I'd hope she would respect just having a meal without having to go for happy hour lol. She seems pretty nice and chill, so figured I'll give it a shot.

I hope I'm not going to be saved as the 'free meal' as I will catch on that pretty quick lmao!
didn't take long**
I mean hey, you live and you learn. I was a naive and horny freshman on a college campus who didn't know much better

Honestly dinner is probably a better prospect than an afternoon/evening in a crowded, social place. Let us know how it goes!! Plus, chances are (read: hopefully) you aren't going on serious dates after chatting for 2 weeks with girls that are "free" because their parents are in the suburbs about 2 hours away so your option is probably a better call
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Ahh. Understood. Not too big on drinking myself, so I'd hope she would respect just having a meal without having to go for happy hour lol. She seems pretty nice and chill, so figured I'll give it a shot.

I hope I'm not going to be saved as the 'free meal' as I will catch on that pretty quick lmao!
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I mean hey, you live and you learn. I was a naive and horny freshman on a college campus who didn't know much better

Honestly dinner is probably a better prospect than an afternoon/evening in a crowded, social place. Let us know how it goes!! Plus, chances are (read: hopefully) you aren't going on serious dates after chatting for 2 weeks with girls that are "free" because their parents are in the suburbs about 2 hours away so your option is probably a better call
Thanks, will keep you all updated lol. And nah man, in my 30s so nothing with her parents being out of town business going on lol. I'm not a fan of huge crowds and I get anxiety pretty quick in those situations, so I figured a nice calm dinner is best.

Just going to go and see how it turns out! Still new to all this 'online dating' shit which has seemed pretty crap for the most part honestly.
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Curious, do you guys usually dress up pretty nicely when you meet for the first time or do you just stay moderate and average dressed?

Also, how are y'all determining whether to go for a coffee or for an actual dinner lol?
Polo shirt or t-shirt & jeans. I stay true to myself. I hate playing dress up.
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Very similar for me. I don't do dinner or anything ambitious for the meet-and-greet first "date," which I don't really consider to be a date; it's more like a meeting to see if there should be a first date.

I usually shoot for 30-45 minutes. I've had them go a few hours, though, if I'm not booked elsewhere and the conversation's fun and easy.

I try to maintain a conversational tone, but I ask some probing questions. I'm there to get an impression of their character and some answers to questions that are deal-breakers for me (and might be for her too). I can be direct without it feeling like an interrogation. If they're dodgy with their answers, then we're done.
I hate the shit where things seem to be going well an hour, or whatever, in and they pull some crap about having to go b/c they booked something else. Don't put me on a clock. It's rude & makes ya look like an ahole. Just my opinion about it.

Speaking of questions, I just like to get to the real shit & I have found many women can't handle real conversation & they get upset or act like I'm some terrible person lol
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Nice. I just got out of a semi long relationship and decided to give these "app" a try now. Noticed most are absolutely trash, and you can converse for a bit and they just either go MIA or I lose complete interest from the way they respond (1-2 word messages making me carry a conversation, or they just sound uneducated af).

Met someone who seems pretty chill, been talking for like 2 weeks and told her I'd take her out to dinner but now I feel like I should've just said coffee from the responses here lol.
You can always change it & just pick a local bar or something.
I always meet for a drink or pool at my place.
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Moderate. Usually nice jeans with a decent shirt. My first meet is usually for coffee though. The goal is look casual but well put together. I do coffee when meeting online because it's easy and gives you an idea of what the person is like especially if you met online. Dinner is usually awkward anyway. For a second date I'll do something fun or competitive like mini golf and lunch. Third would be dinner at one of the local casinos or something.
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Very similar for me. I don't do dinner or anything ambitious for the meet-and-greet first "date," which I don't really consider to be a date; it's more like a meeting to see if there should be a first date.

I usually shoot for 30-45 minutes. I've had them go a few hours, though, if I'm not booked elsewhere and the conversation's fun and easy.

I try to maintain a conversational tone, but I ask some probing questions. I'm there to get an impression of their character and some answers to questions that are deal-breakers for me (and might be for her too). I can be direct without it feeling like an interrogation. If they're dodgy with their answers, then we're done.
Either a suit with no tie or slacks and a sport coat, again, no tie. I arrive first to make certain I have the high ground. Also, and this is critical, VIDEO CHAT if you met them online.

Happy hour and if things click, dinner.
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I feel for you guys these days. Back when I was single, I got texts non-stop. I could have just left a date, and they would be texting me 45 minutes later. And I hated talking on the phone.

As I have mentioned before, I like a strong independent woman.....I could never do clingy.

Lol....I guess I lived in an area where most of the women were desperate. I had more problems trying to ditch them than I did finding them.

Now that I think about it, I was approached more often by the opposite sex......a lot more than me approaching them.

Like I said.....desperate women in my area!
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I feel for you guys these days. Back when I was single, I got texts non-stop. I could have just left a date, and they would be texting me 45 minutes later. And I hated talking on the phone.

As I have mentioned before, I like a strong independent woman.....I could never do clingy.

Lol....I guess I lived in an area where most of the women were desperate. I had more problems trying to ditch them than I did finding them.

Now that I think about it, I was approached more often by the opposite sex......a lot more than me approaching them.

Like I said.....desperate women in my area!
I have 2 that want to come into town this week and 3 that want me to come to them. It's insane.
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I feel for you guys these days. Back when I was single, I got texts non-stop. I could have just left a date, and they would be texting me 45 minutes later. And I hated talking on the phone.

As I have mentioned before, I like a strong independent woman.....I could never do clingy.

Lol....I guess I lived in an area where most of the women were desperate. I had more problems trying to ditch them than I did finding them.

Now that I think about it, I was approached more often by the opposite sex......a lot more than me approaching them.

Like I said.....desperate women in my area!
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Don't sell yourself short. You have plenty of time and plenty to offer.

So be picky and have the attitude that you deserve the best. You're a Good guy no matter what Now_Rudi says!!!
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Either a suit with no tie or slacks and a sport coat, again, no tie. I arrive first to make certain I have the high ground. Also, and this is critical, VIDEO CHAT if you met them online.

Happy hour and if things click, dinner.
I always get there first and sit so I'm facing the door. Fewer distractions for them. It's an old sales trick.

Deal breaker: if she picks her phone up more than once or twice (unless the date goes longer than an hour or so, or she's showing me pix). I leave mine in my car; whatever's going on, I'll catch up when the date's over. If she'd rather be texting "IKR?" to her besty than having a conversation with me, I'll happily let her do so while I get up and leave. I've done that 3 times and it felt fantastic. If her life revolves around her phone, we're not a match. I own my phone; my phone doesn't own me.
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Based on the market opportunity I'm seeing here, I've decided to start a hairy arm cam show, as a side hustle. I'll be doing dishes, detailing my humidifier, folding laundry. I'll post the URL when it goes live.

Group buy?

I'm sure MKSixer and 1MOREMOD are in with me

Can we request with goat arms too???
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