[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by Rmtt

When I started dating again as a newly single man, one of the first was a girl who was 5" taller than me! She was like a Amazon. Beautifully built, hair to her waist...and did I mention 5" taller. She actually had done some modeling for Vespa in the past, and also a "hand " model.

But she was also my first taste of how crazy some of them could be and I ended it. After that I was a lot more wary of the emotional health of people I would see although they hide it pretty well when they want to.

YES. Very important. There's always that saying of "hurt people will hurt people". I have been impacted by this myself. Emotional stability seems very rare these days. Lots of people who aren't necessarily unstable or crazy, but have zero regard for other people and how they treat them. Personally, I could never mistreat someone intentionally and be able to live with myself, but many have no issue with it or don't even realize it. I recently went through something with an ex where I called her on her bullshit and she claimed to have "guilt anxiety". My response was "oh, you mean feeling guilty for shit you've done?" Never heard of "guilt anxiety" before.

[Dang3r]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

What??

Ok, at this point I see, that not every phrase could be translated that it make sense in english, my bad.

You know the set "I wouldn't say you're fat, but when you're stop eating, two underdeveloped nations would have enough to eat"?
That means, someone is really fat.

In Germany we often use to say it like "Dude, you're not sitting onto the stool/chair, you sit the stool/chair".
That means, someones butt is kinda fat, that it covers literally the whole thing below.

Hope that'll clears it up a bit.

P.S.: And she was far beyond from this

[FuriouslyFast]

Originally Posted by Dang3r

Dude, I won't complain into a too serious way, because this is the lighter side of life; but I have to admit that this hurts my feelings a bit.
She wasn't as fat as she hadn't sat onto a stool, she sat the stool or something like this. She was just more than I'd ever asked to have and even this is now more than 10 years ago, right now in this second I miss her a bit though...

Call her

[cmyx6go]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

YES. Very important. There's always that saying of "hurt people will hurt people". I have been impacted by this myself. Emotional stability seems very rare these days. Lots of people who aren't necessarily unstable or crazy, but have zero regard for other people and how they treat them. Personally, I could never mistreat someone intentionally and be able to live with myself, but many have no issue with it or don't even realize it. I recently went through something with an ex where I called her on her bullshit and she claimed to have "guilt anxiety". My response was "oh, you mean feeling guilty for shit you've done?" Never heard of "guilt anxiety" before.

^This. I don't get it. I live by treating people the way I want to be treated. Unfortunately, it doesn't seem to be reciprocal.

[Dang3r]

Originally Posted by FuriouslyFast

Call her

No, all which was build to last were smashed and isn't reconstructable.
That would never be fine, but I had learnt to live with it, and I think so does she.

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by Dang3r

Ok, at this point I see, that not every phrase could be translated that it make sense in english, my bad.

You know the set "I wouldn't say you're fat, but when you're stop eating, two underdeveloped nations would have enough to eat"?
That means, someone is really fat.

In Germany we often use to say it like "Dude, you're not sitting onto the stool/chair, you sit the stool/chair".
That means, someones butt is kinda fat, that it covers literally the whole thing below.

Hope that'll clears it up a bit.

P.S.: And she was far beyond from this

AHH I see now! Thanks for clarifying.

[premier3is]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

Yep, this I don't get. Online dating is difficult enough, adding requirements basically narrows your potential candidates down to nothing. I'll have to see if I can find it, but a friend sent me a screenshot a year or so ago of this chick's Tinder profile. Her hobbies included "riding in nice cars, laying out on yachts" and other stupid shit. She was not as attractive as she probably thought.

One requirement I saw was "must live in a nice neighborhood". Too much HGTV watching I guess.


I went on a coffee date tonight and it was a fail. 32 year old blonde teacher in decent shape turned out to be a 37 year old ex-teacher (she didn't say why) who was also a smoker and TERRIBLE at conversation.

I was immediately thinking of how I would get out of it as soon as she sat down.

Did she say why she bullshitted her age and whatnot? Would've called her ass out on it immediately.

[premier3is]

Alright boys! Got a second date with her to come in 2 weeks lol. She is supposedly busy all next week, and the week after she has time.

But... if she was interested wouldn't she free up here calendar to grab dinner again next week? Or am I just overthinking all this? She goes to the gym 5x a week, and frees up around 7... so that would be somewhat late for us to hang out and get dinner so she suggested the week after she'll work it in.

[Rmtt]

Honestly...I believe you are over thinking it. In a situation like that, I would be acting like it's not a big deal.....lining something else up if you have options, and let her be the pursuer.

[pennsiveguy]

Originally Posted by premier3is

Alright boys! Got a second date with her to come in 2 weeks lol. She is supposedly busy all next week, and the week after she has time.

But... if she was interested wouldn't she free up here calendar to grab dinner again next week? Or am I just overthinking all this? She goes to the gym 5x a week, and frees up around 7... so that would be somewhat late for us to hang out and get dinner so she suggested the week after she'll work it in.

It's puzzling that she's not able to find time until then. I don't think 7 is too late for dinner. Or is she not eating dinner during that whole time? How 'bout lunch? People find time to do the things they want to do.

Rmtt is right, though. Have a couple other dates with other people in the meantime, to get perspective. This thing will be what it is...whatever that is. It's out of your control, so don't obsess over it.

[premier3is]

Originally Posted by Rmtt

Honestly...I believe you are over thinking it. In a situation like that, I would be acting like it's not a big deal.....lining something else up if you have options, and let her be the pursuer.

Trying to line up more option as well, but you know how online dating is lol. It is a mission to find someone decent lol.

[premier3is]

Originally Posted by pennsiveguy

It's puzzling that she's not able to find time until then. I don't think 7 is too late for dinner. Or is she not eating dinner during that whole time? How 'bout lunch? People find time to do the things they want to do.

Rmtt is right, though. Have a couple other dates with other people in the meantime, to get perspective. This thing will be what it is...whatever that is. It's out of your control, so don't obsess over it.

That's what I'm saying, if she really wanted to meet up she'd make time to get together. Females man.. can never understand them.

[pennsiveguy]

Originally Posted by premier3is

That's what I'm saying, if she really wanted to meet up she'd make time to get together. Females man.. can never understand them.

You can't trust anything that bleeds for a week and lives.

[Rmtt]

Originally Posted by premier3is

Trying to line up more option as well, but you know how online dating is lol. It is a mission to find someone decent lol.

Try this....line up options that you don't expect anything serious to come out of it. Approach it as you are looking for someone to accompany you out just to have fun. No strings attached.

Like one poster said....cast a net and see what bites. Of course don't settle for some hag, but if they look decent enough and willing to go out for company....go for it.

When I was doing this, I would have a different date each night....sometimes 2 different dates in the same day.

I wasn't interested in being serious with anybody, and that attitude seemed to permeate out to anyone around me....and I guess they figured it was a challenge as it was hard to get rid of them.

[premier3is]

Originally Posted by Rmtt

Try this....line up options that you don't expect anything serious to come out of it. Approach it as you are looking for someone to accompany you out just to have fun. No strings attached.

Like one poster said....cast a net and see what bites. Of course don't settle for some hag, but if they look decent enough and willing to go out for company....go for it.

When I was doing this, I would have a different date each night....sometimes 2 different dates in the same day.

I wasn't interested in being serious with anybody, and that attitude seemed to permeate out to anyone around me....and I guess they figured it was a challenge as it was hard to get rid of them.

Gona give it a shot... been slacking on it lol. Let's see if I catch any fish

Shit kinda turned me off by her wanting to wait 2 weeks before meeting up again. If you wanted to hang out, you'd make time one way or the other.

[Rmtt]

That's the spirit. Be selfish.....it's all about you. You can do that and be cordial at the same time. Just look at it as practice. After awhile of doing that, you learn to read people quickly.

If she can't make time for you, she's not worth your time

[UncleWede]

Originally Posted by Rmtt

When I started dating again as a newly single man, one of the first was a girl who was 5" taller than me! She was like a Amazon. Beautifully built, hair to her waist...and did I mention 5" taller. She actually had done some modeling for Vespa in the past, and also a "hand " model.

But she was also my first taste of how crazy some of them could be and I ended it. After that I was a lot more wary of the emotional health of people I would see although they hide it pretty well when they want to.

So, she was like what, 5' 4"???

[FuriouslyFast]

Originally Posted by Rmtt

Try this....line up options that you don't expect anything serious to come out of it. Approach it as you are looking for someone to accompany you out just to have fun. No strings attached.

Like one poster said....cast a net and see what bites. Of course don't settle for some hag, but if they look decent enough and willing to go out for company....go for it.

This is what I have been doing for years. If I meet someone that sticks, awesome. Otherwise, at least I'm getting laid.

[FuriouslyFast]

Originally Posted by premier3is

Alright boys! Got a second date with her to come in 2 weeks lol. She is supposedly busy all next week, and the week after she has time.

But... if she was interested wouldn't she free up here calendar to grab dinner again next week? Or am I just overthinking all this? She goes to the gym 5x a week, and frees up around 7... so that would be somewhat late for us to hang out and get dinner so she suggested the week after she'll work it in.

Write her off. Women that do that are not serious about you and/or meeting someone good. Been there done that.

[FuriouslyFast]

I was supposed to have a new date last night. It was supposed to be 6 PM then it turned into 6:15 then 6:22 then she texts "parked" & a few more minutes go by still nothing (The lot is across the damn street from the place!!!!)

Told her I'd meet her outside the place beforehand so I'm there in the cold waiting. She finally waltzes over asking if I'm Tom. I said "I might be" she asks again so I said the same. Bitch did you never look at my pics or what?!

What does she do? Just turns & goes inside the place. Don't let me walk over or hold the door for me or anything. I said F this cunt & just went home.

A minute or 2 later, I get a text from her "I'm inside" Is she super stupid, an asshole or both? I told her off & blocked her # at that point.

Can ya tell I'm fed up with dating & this society?

[Mason Hatcher]

Originally Posted by FuriouslyFast

I was supposed to have a new date last night. It was supposed to be 6 PM then it turned into 6:15 then 6:22 then she texts "parked" & a few more minutes go by still nothing (The lot is across the damn street from the place!!!!)

Told her I'd meet her outside the place beforehand so I'm there in the cold waiting. She finally waltzes over asking if I'm Tom. I said "I might be" she asks again so I said the same. Bitch did you never look at my pics or what?!

What does she do? Just turns & goes inside the place. Don't let me walk over or hold the door for me or anything. I said F this cunt & just went home.

A minute or 2 later, I get a text from her "I'm inside" Is she super stupid, an asshole or both? I told her off & blocked her # at that point.

Can ya tell I'm fed up with dating & this society?

You did her a favor. You were a jerk

[pennsiveguy]

Originally Posted by FuriouslyFast

I was supposed to have a new date last night. It was supposed to be 6 PM then it turned into 6:15 then 6:22 then she texts "parked" & a few more minutes go by still nothing (The lot is across the damn street from the place!!!!)

Told her I'd meet her outside the place beforehand so I'm there in the cold waiting. She finally waltzes over asking if I'm Tom. I said "I might be" she asks again so I said the same. Bitch did you never look at my pics or what?!

What does she do? Just turns & goes inside the place. Don't let me walk over or hold the door for me or anything. I said F this cunt & just went home.

A minute or 2 later, I get a text from her "I'm inside" Is she super stupid, an asshole or both? I told her off & blocked her # at that point.

Can ya tell I'm fed up with dating & this society?

Brother, I appreciate your frustration. But you seem a little fried and a little bitter. Maybe it's time to take a break. I think you may be in a place where even if you met someone cool, you wouldn't be very receptive to it/her. Just my thoughts, one guy to another.