[Never_Enough]

Originally Posted by DETRoadster

Wrong! It's freakin' nuts up here. Must be the lack of sunlight or something. My wife's office manager and one of her receptionists are in "poly pods" (yes, that's what the call them). These chicks are gross and the dudes they ensnare are typically weirdo, socially awkward, gamer types. They have these complex set of rules about dating but by in large the women seem to run the show. They have date nights with these guys and get taken out to dinner, movies, and generally lavish in all the attention and money that's spent on them. They all have their "primary" who is usually a husband. The primary get a say in who they can date but the common thread seems to be that they married the husband when they were young and got bored. Rather than divorce they just turn poly and start fulfilling their empty souls with as many men as possible who will pay attention to them.

My wife and i attended her office manager's wedding a few years back. All the bridesmaids and groomsmen were part of the poly pod. Fast forward 3 years and they are divorced. Shocker.

My theory is that these chicks bounce from one dude to the next because it keeps things fresh. It's always the early stages of attraction where no one notices the the irritating personality traits, the cellulite, the anxiety disorder, the herpes. They do a date a week and can keep things in those fun early stages for a year or two. Then when sh*t gets real it's time to pull the chute and move on to the next one.

Sounds like most women in general in 2018.

[Germanauto]

Originally Posted by DETRoadster

Wrong! It's freakin' nuts up here. Must be the lack of sunlight or something. My wife's office manager and one of her receptionists are in "poly pods" (yes, that's what the call them). These chicks are gross and the dudes they ensnare are typically weirdo, socially awkward, gamer types. They have these complex set of rules about dating but by in large the women seem to run the show. They have date nights with these guys and get taken out to dinner, movies, and generally lavish in all the attention and money that's spent on them. They all have their "primary" who is usually a husband. The primary get a say in who they can date but the common thread seems to be that they married the husband when they were young and got bored. Rather than divorce they just turn poly and start fulfilling their empty souls with as many men as possible who will pay attention to them.

My wife and i attended her office manager's wedding a few years back. All the bridesmaids and groomsmen were part of the poly pod. Fast forward 3 years and they are divorced. Shocker.

My theory is that these chicks bounce from one dude to the next because it keeps things fresh. It's always the early stages of attraction where no one notices the the irritating personality traits, the cellulite, the anxiety disorder, the herpes. They do a date a week and can keep things in those fun early stages for a year or two. Then when sh*t gets real it's time to pull the chute and move on to the next one.

Seattle tends to attract a lot of hipsters and alternative types especially in neighborhoods like Cap Hill. Frankly I have yet to see a city with as many as we get here. Cross the bridge across Lake Washington and it's a different world. People are...normal.

I've always felt more of a Vancouverite than Seattleite. The city (and women) are more my type!

[DETRoadster]

Originally Posted by Germanauto

Seattle tends to attract a lot of hipsters and alternative types especially in neighborhoods like Cap Hill. Frankly I have yet to see a city with as many as we get here. Cross the bridge across Lake Washington and it's a different world. People are...normal.

I've always felt more of a Vancouverite than Seattleite. The city (and women) are more my type!

Vancouver Washington? Or BC?

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by Never_Enough

I'm surprised it was not 5 out of 5. The "poly" thing is the new fad. I'm happily married blah blah we're in an "ethical non-monogamous relationship" etc. Look, if you wanna fuck around, who cares?! Just be honest with yourself that you're a slut/manwhore. I especially love those poly hags that also say they're not looking for just sex. WTF do you think you're gonna get? No one is gonna wine & dine you. Go out with your husband for that, cunt.

Poly seems to have taken over from bi as the latest trend - for a while every woman on Tinder was bisexual. I guess when women get bored in their marriage, they'll go for anything that will have them.

[Never_Enough]

Originally Posted by dinonz

Poly seems to have taken over from bi as the latest trend - for a while every woman on Tinder was bisexual. I guess when women get bored in their marriage, they'll go for anything that will have them.

I really want to punch these dudes in the dick. Grow a pair!

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by Never_Enough

I really want to punch these dudes in the dick. Grow a pair!

The husbands who are letting their wives get bored, or me?

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by dinonz

Poly seems to have taken over from bi as the latest trend - for a while every woman on Tinder was bisexual. I guess when women get bored in their marriage, they'll go for anything that will have them.

They are craving attention, and will try to get as much of it as they can from as many different people as they can. I think it is becoming more popular due to social media and dating sites providing women with an overwhelming amount of guys just looking to bang.

One of my friends just got divorced. She's 27, and fairly attractive. She posted a status on Facebook about "starting over" and literally less than an hour later all these guys started coming out of the woodwork wanting to hang out with her, people she hadn't spoken to in 10 years. For her it was upsetting, due to the nature of her divorce, but most would welcome the attention. She showed me some of the messages and it was hilarious. Guys she had never met who were 10+ years older than her offering to "help her forget her ex-husband ever existed" as their very first message to her.

[Never_Enough]

Originally Posted by dinonz

The husbands who are letting their wives get bored, or me?

Husbands, but not for "letting them get bored" A marriage is a 2 way street that requires work from both. Punch them for letting these whores do this. Just fix the marriage or divorce.

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

They are craving attention, and will try to get as much of it as they can from as many different people as they can. I think it is becoming more popular due to social media and dating sites providing women with an overwhelming amount of guys just looking to bang.

One of my friends just got divorced. She's 27, and fairly attractive. She posted a status on Facebook about "starting over" and literally less than an hour later all these guys started coming out of the woodwork wanting to hang out with her, people she hadn't spoken to in 10 years. For her it was upsetting, due to the nature of her divorce, but most would welcome the attention. She showed me some of the messages and it was hilarious. Guys she had never met who were 10+ years older than her offering to "help her forget her ex-husband ever existed" as their very first message to her.

Seems for some guys the solution to everyone else's problems is for them to get their dick wet.

[Germanauto]

Originally Posted by DETRoadster

Vancouver Washington? Or BC?

BC.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by bimmette

It means to take off or end things.

I thought it meant he put his hands upon her hip.....

The when he dip she dip we dip.

In the event anyone has no memory of terrible songs from 20+ years ago.

You're welcome.

[Turkish Pickle]

i cant wait to turn 21 and go out in chicago tbh
on campus its fun you have people your age but in a bigger city... slightly older women potentially go out

[xander_g]

Originally Posted by Not_Judy

I thought it meant he put his hands upon her hip.....

The when he dip she dip we dip.

In the event anyone has no memory of terrible songs from 20+ years ago.

You're welcome.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by xander_g

Uh thank you.

[DETRoadster]

Originally Posted by Germanauto

BC.

Ah, yeah, that makes sense! BC is a world apart from Seattle, despite the close proximity.

[catcher22]

Originally Posted by DETRoadster

I see your signature says you are from the NW and the Midwest. Wondering which of those locations your friend is from? I can see his technique being a goldmine in the midwest and failing miserably in the NW. Around here (Seattle) people are generally the most unfriendly and closed off of anywhere I have lived or visited. No one will look you in the eye. Any coffee shop you enter is a sea of people with headphones on, watching their electronic devices, shutting out the whole world. People legitimately give you the look of death if you even talk to them and say "hello." I grew up in Seattle and never knew any different. It wasnt until I started traveling extensively for work that I realized something was off. I still remember this chick striking up a conversation with me while in the TSA line at the airport. She was very friendly and pretty and my immediate gut reaction was to think "F*uck off, why are you talking to me? I'm in a hurry, no one likes the security line, I'm irritated, and you're chatting me up about nothing?" She said she was headed home to Chicago. I retold the story to a friend who grew up in the Chicago area and that's when he enlightened me that Seattle is pretty much F'd." I never knew!

So anyway, curious if your buddy who cleans up with the women in coffee shops by just chatting and being real is from Chicago or the NW.

This is so true. I once had a really pretty blonde and real cool coworker who moved to the DC area from rural Ohio. She was friendly as can be, but was astounded at how closed off people are in this area (just like Seattle i guess), especially while "in their zone". She would try to strike up conversations in the metro and random other places only for people to be suspect of the entire conversation to begin with. For those who did speak to her, most of the conversations obviously weren't genuine, scratched the surface, and were filled with rhetorical questions. Kinda different than the midwest attitude. I really found it amazing that a pretty cute blonde didn't get the reception she I guess was used to back home. It's a cold world out there sometimes.

[Never_Enough]

Originally Posted by catcher22

This is so true. I once had a really pretty blonde and real cool coworker who moved to the DC area from rural Ohio. She was friendly as can be, but was astounded at how closed off people are in this area (just like Seattle i guess), especially while "in their zone". She would try to strike up conversations in the metro and random other places only for people to be suspect of the entire conversation to begin with. For those who did speak to her, most of the conversations obviously weren't genuine, scratched the surface, and were filled with rhetorical questions. Kinda different than the midwest attitude. I really found it amazing that a pretty cute blonde didn't get the reception she I guess was used to back home. It's a cold world out there sometimes.

I call bs. "Really pretty blonde" she knows all she has to do is walk outside & men will talk to her.

[Alfisti]

people getting bored in their marriages just shows me they are not happy with themselves and need attention to be happy.

There are things we can do to keep things LESS boring and fresher but absolutely no way can you be with someone 10, 15, 20, 40 years and not lose that spark like you are first dating. it's absolutely impossible. Get a hobby, enjoy your family, be happy with what you have.

I don't get it, what did you expect??

[Never_Enough]

Originally Posted by Alfisti

people getting bored in their marriages just shows me they are not happy with themselves and need attention to be happy.

There are things we can do to keep things LESS boring and fresher but absolutely no way can you be with someone 10, 15, 20, 40 years and not lose that spark like you are first dating. it's absolutely impossible. Get a hobby, enjoy your family, be happy with what you have.

I don't get it, what did you expect??

Good post, but you can keep a well lit spark if both parties work at it & want it.

[Alfisti]

Originally Posted by Never_Enough

Good post, but you can keep a well lit spark if both parties work at it & want it.

I touched on that, a spark well lit yes, but not THE spark that got it rolling. It's impossible, we are people, we get used to things and you get a reality check with financial pressures and children that you don't have when young and dating.

[Alfisti]

A lot of the thrill is in the chase and the "oh wow she likes me" ... that's never gonna happen again, ever, 'cos you've got them.

[Germanauto]

Originally Posted by Alfisti

people getting bored in their marriages just shows me they are not happy with themselves and need attention to be happy.

There are things we can do to keep things LESS boring and fresher but absolutely no way can you be with someone 10, 15, 20, 40 years and not lose that spark like you are first dating. it's absolutely impossible. Get a hobby, enjoy your family, be happy with what you have.

I don't get it, what did you expect??

Solid advice.

I get bored after a couple dates, which I suppose is natural for my age. But life is not all fun and games and that includes dating.