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Originally Posted by OnerDriver
Oh so it's a coworker/colleague feelings review gone south?
I'm sorry it happened to you, but it does happen.
Instead of giving up, you need to change 1 thing immediately.
You said you're ugly. You have to change that, now. Gym, first. You BELIEVING you're not ugly, second.
If you believe you're ugly, why should others think you look good?
Confidence is the name of the game.
While you're building your improved looks and how you feel about yourself, you can also work on reading how others feel toward you, so you don't crash and burn. All of us can improve, but look at doc situation above... the guy has had all signs that she wants him, and he still doesn't have a clue and doesn't have the courage to make a move.
The opposite happened to you, but with the same root cause: lack of understanding of how she felt before making the move.
Far from giving up, but also far from trying too hard. Find yourself and your balance. Focus on YOU, not on being with others. When you're happy with yourself, you can share that with somebody else.
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No - friend thing gone south.
I've recently lost 60 lbs, and am planning to lose another 30 - but that's mainly so I can get in and out of my Ferrari and Lamborghini easier (when I get them). But no amount of trim/buff appearance will change Jabba the Hutt.
I've always had issues with women - being a shy introvert does not help at all. By the time women get to know the real me, I'm already friend-zoned. And very few even take the time to get to know me. But as my life is about to change dramatically (about to go from renting and servicing debt to probably getting a house, Ferrari and Lamborghini - paying cash) I will in future become very suspicious of anyone who does show interest.
But it's ok - I've become accustomed to being alone. Sometimes even prefer it. Especially my introverted side.