Originally Posted by OnerDriver
BMW, I'll side with everyone here. Bimmette made the first point, which can be valid, I won't say run literally, but do not get attached.
She's certifiable as Never_Enough said. A quick search on Plath mentioned she had been depressed her entire adult life.
You have little in common, she has many MANY signs of BPD. She's cute but from her pictures I got a vibe of "she's meh", her smile is not all there in any pictures, and she does not look athletic at all. Not saying that's bad, but it won't be like you.
All in all, she WILL hurt you when you get attached.
One thing, I believe, you have to get out of your head is the notion that you have to know the next steps. Do not look for a relationship. Do not try to certify something into a relationship. The best ones will kind of happen, and when you look at it you're in a relationship.
If you're like me, and get attached too easily, cool off with her and focus on something else.
If you can have fun with her and focus on your studies (very important) and having fun with your friends and other girls, why not keep her as a "friend"? Don't force yourself into anything, just go with the flow.
You're too young and have LOTS to lose to get involved to the point of trying to figure it out or "help" other people. You need to help yourself, graduate with fucking honours, get a visa, get a job. Enjoy youth. It goes by fast. If you don't now, you'll be a dysfunctional adult.
Just don't overthink stuff. Have fun, and if you're getting attached, get away. If it's meant to be it will be. Stop looking for a relationship, you'll come back saying you're in one when it happens.
When in doubt, play it safe. That's going to help you throughout life.
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