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Originally Posted by OnerDriver
You're conflating things that aren't equal.
Let's get our terminology straight, because I agree we have choices to our actions.
We're not disagreeing we can walk away, as we all have.
Let me speak metaphorically (I'm not going to go down the path of discussing that if you do not display emotions, you're a psychopath etc.):
I'll pick your mom as she may be the closest human being to you, so your emotions will be more latent towards her.
Say you're walking with her and she falls off a 300ft cliff.
Your first reaction is probably to be scared (what will happen to her? Is she going to be harmed?) and you can't control that.
You may start panting. Or not, that's your choice. You control your actions, not how you feel.
Then you get sad when you see she's dead. You may cry, or not, that's your choice.
Say she is struck by a knife. You will likely be angry at the person who stabs her. You may show your anger, or not... that's your choice.
Say your mom is orgasming from all the pleasure I'm giving her... you'll likely get very happy... you may smile, or not.
Now when you love someone, you don't choose to love them. You may act on getting away from them.
I hope you get the point. Don't get hung up on your mom as example, it's meant as a joke.
You want to smile or laugh. You have a choice.  |
what the fuck happened to this thread im so confused i literally thought i grasped what you guys meant
then you pull this and back to square 1
i read somewhere, yesterday actually:
"Involuntarily love isn’t love. That’s a chemical reaction in your brain - infatuation. Love is a choice you make. It’s voluntarily, because you have control over your love. You love something or someone by investing time, effort, energy, and attention into them. You consider them valuable enough to be worthy of those things from you. You choose to let them in a little deeper than someone you just casually fuck. You’re still in control. You can just as easily remove them from that coveted place. It’s your choice.
Love is sacrifice. Don’t cheapen love by making it out to be something as pedantic as brain juice."
someone replied with this after someone said enjoying a connection is voluntary and love is involuntary - im getting the vibe you guys dont think as this guy does and Never_Enough does? i kinda have to agree with him, the more you invest in them the more shit can go south - i cant say im free of trust issues though so maybe im not the person to talk too much about this...