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Originally Posted by ******
But also, otherwise secure people can become insecure when they care more about the other person than that person cares about them. Seems like in many, if not most, relationships that’s the case... unequal “power”...
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Yes! This is the ying to the yang in this topic. I found myself in this situation with the second wife. I had always been the heartbreaker in the past. Perhaps it was due to dating women with whom I had the leverage on rather than the inverse. It blew my mind at how the tables had turned and I was now on this side of the fence. I heard someone say once that in every relationship someone settles and the other steps up. I've also heard it as one adopts and and one adapts. I'd like to think this isn't the case yet unfortunately it has been the scenario with every relationship that I have had......until now. I have to say I do see the girlfriend as an equal now. If anything she settled, I'm pretty crazy to deal with I imagine.