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Originally Posted by OnerDriver
I don't know but my guess is:
As usual, we got infatuated when started dating, lots of passion, heat (not like upstatedoc), made plans, moved in together, did lots of stuff together (move out, new houses, international trips, MBA together, Post grad together, etc)
Then we got married...
At a certain point things weren't so hot anymore, and I fully accept that is normal.
But I started to feel like I was the only one "starting things" so to speak.
So, maybe instinctively or counterproductively I started to "not" start things. As in: you should do something as well.
Well, lo and behold, we'd go months with just a closed lip kiss everyday...
It took me a couple of years to decide that wasn't going to work and left.
Apparently for her the passion is still there and she regrets not making any move. But I'm uncertain I'd be open for that now...
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That doesn't sound like you're not physically attracted to her, that sounds like the flame went out. The flame can be reignited, but you both have to put in the work.
I've been in the relationship where I was always initiating & I got tired of that bs so I stopped & then it became a roommate thing really. Then she cheated & left on a whim. Don't let that be you.
