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So, as the newbie around here who hasn't earned his credibility yet, I will wade into the deep end with y'all on the whole sex and marriage topic. If you don't want to read an amateur psychology diatribe, feel free to skip.
In a way, I think everyone here has been right and the biggest problem people have with sex and marriage is a lack of appreciation of the complexity of the whole thing. Yes, marriage is a piece of paper, but to people who are truly married, the piece of paper (and the ring) are symbols of the actual marriage. The marriage would be the same without either of those things. The marriage is the commitment that neither of you will ever have to face the trials and tribulations of the world alone again. Also, yes, ones needs can be met by themselves with toys or whatever else - sort of. That reduces sex within a marriage to a single dimension - and THAT is the biggest mistake of all. Within a marriage (in my humble opinion) sex is way more complex. It is about (at least) three main things: the animal physical urges (which indeed can be met other ways), the need for emotional connectedness, and the "power relationship" (which is hardest to explain and I can think of no good name for). 1) The animal urges - yeah. We all get this one. Sometimes, you just need to get off. Most of the time, your partner is down. Sometimes, maybe not. Whether you choose to take matters into your owns hands (yes, pun intended) or not is up to you. 2) Connectedness. Sometimes, sex is about the connection. Reminding each other that they are the one and only - the partner - the king or the queen (to use typical gender roles). Sometimes, it is about the tenderness and emotional connection that simply says - I am here and I love you. That is a totally different need. 3) Then there is the complicated one. We see this most often in our cultural sphere as the powerful man that likes to be dominated. In reality, this often plays out in reverse too. I don't mean S&M (or whatever it is called nowadays). But most strong women, like strong men, don't want to ALWAYS have to be in control - to make decisions. Sometimes, someone just wants to be ravished - devoured - almost possessed, but not in a creepy way. They want to feel that their partner is just going to take control and they don't need to worry about anything. It is complete surrender. For most of us, our spouse is the only one to whom we can completely surrender and who can completely surrender to us. It is amazingly liberating to be able to do that and opens the mind and body to experience some great things. So, sometimes - sex is just sex. Sometimes, sex is about tenderness and emotional connection. Sometimes, it is about surrender and trust. The real key is knowing which one you are getting into. When you both want the same thing and you both know what's up - that is when it is best. Anyway... at least that has been my experience... Last edited by jtodd_fl; 02-08-2016 at 07:57 AM.. |
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That's a lot of words to correlate sex and marriage. Good words and very well said, but it's a thick reminder of what it takes to make things work.
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