[adobeee]

Originally Posted by NEFARIOUS

Yeah, I was still somewhat teeter-tottering in between the anger and depression phase of grief when I wrote this. I still have getting her deported in the back of my mind, but it's not strong enough to act on anymore... Nor do I have any interest in taking her back since I do not want to be a Cold Shit Syndrome sufferer like OP (sorry OP).

Instead? I know it sounds ridiculous, but it's the only daydream I have that's keeping my sanity so please don't deride it, otherwise I'd go back to killing a 5th of Stoli and 12-pack of Stella again... My revenge is success.

My dream? If we grazed shoulders a couple of years from now and she sees me with my perfect 10 wife and Ed Jr. growing inside her, his-and-hers M cars with a fully-loaded X5 as the family car parked in our 5-bedroom house's driveway... I hope her next reaction is to kick herself in the head (she does yoga and could flex her legs high enough LOL)... Then she cheats again wanting that life (and knowing how materialistic a significant amount of Chinese girls tend to be it'll happen) and stomps on Mr. Lawyer's heart as hard as she stomped on mine.

Sounds great. Occupy yourself with other things/tasks/people and this allows you to get over her more quickly.

Also, Chinese girls ain't all that bad. My wife is Shanghainese (you know what they say about Shanghai girls) and from a well-off family, but I know from the bottom of my heart that she will stick through thick and thin with me. I was dirt poor when she first met me and now we're married. Having a heart of gold helps.

[PoorLurker]

Originally Posted by NEFARIOUS

I have a 3-foot copper pipe in the garage with his name on it.

She is ultimately to blame. I wouldn't risk any legal issues on the guy.

Sorry to hear about the situation, but glad to see you are finding a silver lining in it.

To make you feel better, next time... this is on me

[NEFARIOUS]

Originally Posted by PoorLurker

She is ultimately to blame. I wouldn't risk any legal issues on the guy.

Sorry to hear about the situation, but glad to see you are finding a silver lining in it.

To make you feel better, next time... this is on me

Thanks for the offer; that just so happens to be what I tend to get when I get Taiwanese food!

Originally Posted by jtodd_fl

This decides it. I am totally investing in companies that make duct tape and zip ties.

Originally Posted by adobeee

Sounds great. Occupy yourself with other things/tasks/people and this allows you to get over her more quickly.

Also, Chinese girls ain't all that bad. My wife is Shanghainese (you know what they say about Shanghai girls) and from a well-off family, but I know from the bottom of my heart that she will stick through thick and thin with me. I was dirt poor when she first met me and now we're married. Having a heart of gold helps.

Well, she's from Hubei (a stereotype of being cunning) whose family moved to Suzhou while she was young (I don't know Suzhou's story, but since it's only 70 miles from Shanghai I don't imagine it being that much different)... I'm occupying myself with itemizing receipts for the damn taxes, but better than nothing AND what little expenses I entered so far changed me from having to pay $83 to getting $300 back (and probably more once I finish rummaging through the pile of receipts I hastily put stockpiled middle of last year).

But one thing I know for sure: If someone is not willing to be with you in your low points, they don't deserve to be with you when you finally break free and make it. Despite Shanghai's stereotype (which is hard to say; I know/knew 6 Shanghainese people and 4 of them were not money-centric and nonjudgmental)... But like my friend from Heilongjiang said, I noticed the greedy ones are often the impoverished farmers who don't have much hope for prospering on their own and leave it to their husband (*cough* my previous girlfriend *cough* who bugged me for weeks for an LV purse for her birthday *ahem*).

I'm glad your relationship flourished considering your circumstances, also glad she stuck by you through thick and think, and wish you well for the years to come.

Despite whatever unpopular opinions I say on here to weed out the prudes and liberals, or drawn-out thoughts since my dad was a writer and my mom tends to drone on poetically the few times she plays nice... I do try to be compassionate and moral whenever I can too, and anybody who's known me IRL tends to agree (unless observed otherwise).

[Verbiage]

What you doing to distract yourself this weekend, Nef?

[NEFARIOUS]

Originally Posted by Verbiage

What you doing to distract yourself this weekend, Nef?

Let's see... Tomorrow afternoon I have an appointment with a client, then seeing Deadpool with the same associate that set up the appointment, but Sunday I haven't planned it out, but most likely still working on this mess (I'm a procrastinator with A.D.D.... The people not afflicted would've probably been done yesterday

[Verbiage]

Originally Posted by NEFARIOUS

Let's see... Tomorrow afternoon I have an appointment with a client, then seeing Deadpool with the same associate that set up the appointment, but Sunday I haven't planned it out, but most likely still working on this mess (I'm a procrastinator with A.D.D.... The people not afflicted would've probably been done yesterday

Great, immerse yourself in work... with intermittent pleasure.

A.D.D. is just short from arbitrary directional decision-making. Nothing wrong with that.

[jtodd_fl]

Originally Posted by NEFARIOUS

Well, she's from Hubei (a stereotype of being cunning) ...

I am a cunning linguist. Would you like to touch my Hubeis?

[NEFARIOUS]

Originally Posted by jtodd_fl

I am a cunning linguist. Would you like to touch my Hubeis?

Only if you master debate too.

[jtodd_fl]

Originally Posted by NEFARIOUS

Only if you master debate too.

How did you know? Sometimes, I sit on my research so it feels like I am debating a stranger.

[ksa]

Hey Nef, I don't know you but I feel bad man. Sorry that you're going through this and have to deal with such nonsense. No one should have to. But do know that you will come out fine and you will be a better person for it. You will meet someone eventually who will truly care for just you and love you for who you are and not do stupid things behind your back. It's good that this happened now and not later, it's better to learn about all this sooner rather than later. At least your karma is clean and hers will be a bigger bitch to her than she was to you. Just keep your head up and move on. Good luck man!

[TBN54]

I don't have a picture of my right hand right now but I will post them as soon as I visit her tonight.

Stay tuned.

[gtron]

Originally Posted by jtodd_fl

This decides it. I am totally investing in companies that make duct tape and zip ties.

Originally Posted by adobeee

Sounds great. Occupy yourself with other things/tasks/people and this allows you to get over her more quickly.

Also, Chinese girls ain't all that bad. My wife is Shanghainese (you know what they say about Shanghai girls) and from a well-off family, but I know from the bottom of my heart that she will stick through thick and thin with me. I was dirt poor when she first met me and now we're married. Having a heart of gold helps.

just to provoke debate:

we only hear and believe one side. this dude could have been a beater and she only wanted to escape. of course he would never tell us that and would rather enjoy some internet pity to help comfort his feeling of loss over a caged bird.

then again, maybe it's all true. the internet will never know.

[NEFARIOUS]

Originally Posted by gtron

just to provoke debate:

we only hear and believe one side. this dude could have been a beater and she only wanted to escape. of course he would never tell us that and would rather enjoy some internet pity to help comfort his feeling of loss over a caged bird.

then again, maybe it's all true. the internet will never know.

Then why am I not in jail, especially considering her new BF is a lawyer whose career is to either fuel lawsuits or send people to jail? Also, we used to travel together all the time (mostly HER idea, might I add), and she's had plenty of girls night outings and heads out regularly on her own too (if anything, she's out of the house more than I am since I don't mind chilling at home); not "caged" and has plenty of chances to leave on her own terms (and she definitely did leave the house to go fuck this asshole she's dating), and in actuality, I can't wait to have her shit out of here so that I can move on and date other women like how she decided to date other men. So what the fuck, bro?

Besides, I or most people would be lying if they didn't have the temptation to lift their pimp hand (I'm being completely sarcastic if you can't tell), but I never so much as bitch-slapped a girl even if she deserved it, since there's 2 people that sicken me the most in this world: People who prey on women (rapists and yes, abusive people) and children (I myself was the victim of child abuse and dare not to physically and mentally hurt anyone the same way my narcissistic Cluster B mom hurt me).

Go on, I cordially invite you to look for any scars, lacerations, cuts, bruises or anything on her that can incriminate me, and if you do, I'd take the consequences without blocking a single punch or adding any resistance, because I would have deserved it for being my worst enemy.

Also, ask anybody I know. Thumb through my phone, call any random person or all people in my call logs, including and especially my exes (even her), and I'm willing to bet all the money in my accounts, ownership rights to my car and all my belongings in my apartment, all income for the rest of my life (and just to give you an idea, I'm studying to be an insurance broker and the person that referred me is making 6 figures), and even the clothes off my back (as in if I lose this bet I'll happily humiliate myself) that I have never laid a finger on any woman, not even hitting them back when they've hit me (and my girl before that was a totally hands-on person). If I had a way to have a camera on me 24/7 like the movie "The Truman Show" to prove myself, I happily would.

So, [insert strongest possible insult your mind can conjure since I don't want to get banned over feeding your ignorant comment] for saying that.

[Nkc]

Nef you gotta calm down. Nobody is accusing you of wife beating, tron just saying there's always two sides of it. I doubt you did anything wrong but you do have a way of making a lot of bad decisions. I'll just be nice and call it bad luck.

[V1.47fan]

Originally Posted by gtron

just to provoke debate:

we only hear and believe one side. this dude could have been a beater and she only wanted to escape. of course he would never tell us that and would rather enjoy some internet pity to help comfort his feeling of loss over a caged bird.

then again, maybe it's all true. the internet will never know.

Just a wild guess...

[PoorLurker]

Originally Posted by NEFARIOUS

Thanks for the offer; that just so happens to be what I tend to get when I get Taiwanese food!

It's only one of the best restaurants in your neighborhood.


Relationships are an interesting thing. Only two people really know what a relationship is truly like. The two involved as there are emotions and events that have created certain hostilities that third parties will never be able to fully understand. Nor can third parties understand the attachment (or lack thereof) just by listening to stories even if told by the two parties involved.

Source: Google'd it

[gtron]

Originally Posted by NEFARIOUS

Then why am I not in jail, especially considering her new BF is a lawyer whose career is to either fuel lawsuits or send people to jail? Also, we used to travel together all the time (mostly HER idea, might I add), and she's had plenty of girls night outings and heads out regularly on her own too (if anything, she's out of the house more than I am since I don't mind chilling at home); not "caged" and has plenty of chances to leave on her own terms (and she definitely did leave the house to go fuck this asshole she's dating), and in actuality, I can't wait to have her shit out of here so that I can move on and date other women like how she decided to date other men. So what the fuck, bro?

Besides, I or most people would be lying if they didn't have the temptation to lift their pimp hand (I'm being completely sarcastic if you can't tell), but I never so much as bitch-slapped a girl even if she deserved it, since there's 2 people that sicken me the most in this world: People who prey on women (rapists and yes, abusive people) and children (I myself was the victim of child abuse and dare not to physically and mentally hurt anyone the same way my narcissistic Cluster B mom hurt me).

Go on, I cordially invite you to look for any scars, lacerations, cuts, bruises or anything on her that can incriminate me, and if you do, I'd take the consequences without blocking a single punch or adding any resistance, because I would have deserved it for being my worst enemy.

Also, ask anybody I know. Thumb through my phone, call any random person or all people in my call logs, including and especially my exes (even her), and I'm willing to bet all the money in my accounts, ownership rights to my car and all my belongings in my apartment, all income for the rest of my life (and just to give you an idea, I'm studying to be an insurance broker and the person that referred me is making 6 figures), and even the clothes off my back (as in if I lose this bet I'll happily humiliate myself) that I have never laid a finger on any woman, not even hitting them back when they've hit me (and my girl before that was a totally hands-on person). If I had a way to have a camera on me 24/7 like the movie "The Truman Show" to prove myself, I happily would.

So, [insert strongest possible insult your mind can conjure since I don't want to get banned over feeding your ignorant comment] for saying that.

level complete.

[M3 Number 86]

Originally Posted by adobeee

Instead of doing all this, I suggest you to move on. Not worth the consequences and having you regret doing something you shouldn't have done with a clear mind.

That's some pussy shit. Revenge is always the answer. Closure.

[Adamrt]

I think this thread has gone a wee bit off course !!!

[1MOREMOD]

Millenium Biltmore

[Adamrt]

Those security guards behind you arent looking to happy!

[1MOREMOD]

Yeah told them they were pussies and I do what I like, they agreed.