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Originally Posted by fobunited
I believe there is a double-standard as far as what women are allowed to do and what men are allowed to do.
We rationalize our behavior all too often, yet automatically jump the gun at any sign of suspicion from our spouse/significant other.
95% of American males watch some form of pornography (the other 5% are lying). Does this constitute cheating? We quickly rationalize, no! it's not cheating because we're not actually doing anything with that other person. And furthermore, we're men and therefore it's part of our nature and unavoidable.
That's complete BS to me, because we ARE cheating on our significant others in that instance, because we betray our loved ones physically and emotionally. How many times, after watching pornography, do those images flash through our minds when we are having sex with our loved ones?
Truly, we should all look in the mirror before condemning this man's wife, who none of us even know except for the OP himself. Let the sinless cast the first stone.
I believe as much as pornography and masturbation are "unescapable" for men because it's part of our "nature," the need to be loved, admired, and shown affection is also hard-wired into women. If we neglect that, then they might get it elsewhere much like we curb our natural tendencies elsewhere.
As much grace is extended to the male-gender by women, so we should do the same.
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That has to be one of the most insightful posts I've seen in this forum.